Marriage & Divorce - 30 August 2007

My husband's exwife likes to control every situtation & if she can't she yells & B-thces until she gets her way. She doesn't want me to go w/ when we drop off the child at our meeting spot. She will text & call us for at least an hour saying that she doesn't want me there. Or she wants my husband to take her all the way home & to leave me home b/c she doesn't want me to know where she lives. My husband won't stand up to her & I don't know what to do about it. We are always getting into fights over the ex, b/c he rather have me yell at him then the exwife. It's gotten to where I don't want to see my step daughter & I don't want that. What is the best way to handle this? I know she's going to be here for the rest of my life and I knew going into this marriage that I was going to have to deal with her. I alsoknow that I can't control what her actions are going to be. I just need to know what can I do to make my life a little easier? What can my husband do to make thing easier?

2007-08-30 06:44:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has another child by someone else. She recently started kinder and she will not tell him what school she is going to and he is probably not listed as a contact person either. In their court order it says that he has a right to receive any information regarding the education of the child and is to be listed as an emergency contact person. What will happen since she is not following the court orders...she only follows the court order when it is convient for her!

2007-08-30 06:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by D L 1

My divorce was just finalized on August 7th. Since then I moved into a new house. My ex is refusing to bring my daughter home to me per the court order. I have told him that he cannot disobey the law forever and his response is, "Watch me. I will never come to your house."
I could care less if he ever sees her. It is his responsibility to pick her up and bring her home, not mine. He picks her up from daycare on the days and weekends that he has her so that isn't a problem but when it comes time for him to bring her home, he makes me meet him 25 minutes from where I live and refuses to come to our house. How can I make him abide by the court order when law inforcement doesn't seem to care? Please help.
Also there is an injunction in the orders that state he is not supposed to bad mouth me around my daughter. She came home yesterday from his house and called me a B***h and by my first name. I asked her who said that and she said Daddy. She is only two! She repeated it.

2007-08-30 06:41:57 · 9 answers · asked by newmommy 1

I'm just curious. I don't have any children yet.

2007-08-30 06:35:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

really need help to make it work from home

2007-08-30 06:34:32 · 5 answers · asked by lovtohelpall 1

Our health insurance is asking for verification of the children listed on the policy. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that he has to carry insurance on. The divorce decree has everything correct except one word. It incorrectly stated plaintiff instead of defendant (my husband was def) We called the courts to find out what has to be done for correction, and were told to contact the attorney- the attorney shot himself a few years ago, so we were going to try to contact the ex-wifes attorney, he has been disbarred. Does anyone know of any way to have this corrected? Divorce was final 14 years ago.

2007-08-30 06:34:20 · 3 answers · asked by Julie S 2

When you and your spouse are always fighting, and unhappy and not sleeping together or communicating, why stay married for the sake of the kids. Do you not think the kids will benefit moreso from happier parents even if it means you are not in one unit. Is it fear of lonliness or realizing that after you leave you are still going to be miserable? I see this time and time again-Why do people use this excuse?

2007-08-30 06:34:02 · 7 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

I've been in love with this guy for awhile and he love me. He has told me many times and we talk a lot about how strong of a connection we have. The problem is that he won't leave his with. He is really good friends with his wife and is afraid that if he got a divorce, she would hate him.

So not willing to wait around, I have been dating another guy and we are engaged. I love him, but not as much as the married guy. I can't stop thinking about the married guy and I want to be with him more than anything, but I don't want to be one of those girls who just waits around for a guy to get divorced. What can I do to either forget him and move on or make it so we can be together?

And don't give me all the I'm obviously young and I'll grow out of it and it is just a crush. I'm 27 and I've been married before and everything and have experienced most things and this one I'm just stuck on what to do.

2007-08-30 06:28:52 · 21 answers · asked by Sara H 1

I have been married for 20 yrs now. My husband is an alcoholic with Bipolar disorder, we have had our share of problems and i have been faithful just unhappy. I met a man who is also unhappily married and we talked at first and then kissed. I know this is wrong but he treated me so good and we just connected. We have decided to continue talking for now and see where it leads. Am I crazy? What should I do?

2007-08-30 06:28:26 · 3 answers · asked by cme4ins 1

A few days ago my husband walked into the room and told me that after a discussion with his sisters he had decided to retire, sell our home and move back home to where his family is. I was very hurt by this decision.. I knew at some point that we would have to move back to his home cos he is sick. I just am very hurt that such a big decision was made in my absence. Am i being paranoid.. I shud also mention that this is not the first time that this is happening.. me not being included in decision making matters.

2007-08-30 06:25:33 · 16 answers · asked by tamrastic 3

About 2 months ago, my gf and I broke up after 3 years. We had a lot of fights but really loved each other. I hurt her and she couldn’t get past it. She moved on with someone within 10 days of breaking up. I kept wondering why? And how could she not give us another chance? I wanted to be the man that would give his all to make it work, I wanted to marry her and spend my life together with her and her kids. When I look back now, I realize how I treated her and how different I should have been. Theres so much that I regret now. After a lot of thinking and reflection, I remember all the conversations we had of her past.
As a teenager, she was raped. Went through seeing her parents whom she thought were the fairytale couple, go through a divorce and the mom cheated on the dad. The mom even took her with her when she went to meet the man (how tragic that must have been) She went from one relationship to another looking for someone to love her. She went on dates where guys introduced her as this is the girl I’m having sex with (total jerks)

2007-08-30 06:22:52 · 6 answers · asked by The Wižard 5

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2007-08-30 06:22:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, ive met this guy that i really like, to me i thort he felt sumfing for me cause he would always stare at me and when i looked at him he would look away, and he would always make me notice him, he was always in my mind so as soon as i asked him for his number he told me he was married, i was so shattered, i feel so embarrased.
why would he do that, please i need advice on this.

2007-08-30 06:16:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

young Lady in an Asian country...Last year he came to visit family and my Son took him to Our Church where we raised our children for almost 15 years...(I no longer attend that church)..Well, what does David do? He is showing the church members photos of his "new family" Can you believe the disrespect for me...What do you think about that? I sat in church with that man for 15 years and he took off with another woman and now he has the gall to show up with photos of his "new family"...Do you think he is being rude? Or just a continuing idiot? Thanks

2007-08-30 06:09:47 · 22 answers · asked by broker472000 4

My husbands sister and I dont get along she starts conflict even though I try to be very nice to her, it just doesnt work. I think she is just a miserable person and wants others to be as well.. Anyway the question is my husband stands up for me for only a moment and then gets angry with me when we talk about the mean things she does. Today my husband told me to but out of his sister and his business i called him back and he said that the hurtful things that she said were to him in privacy and none of my business even though they were about me. I dont think that I should stay with someone that doesnt put my feelings first... I have spoken with him about how she makes me feel and the neg impact on our family. He told me that she is his sister.... Do you think that I should just move on? I dont think this will ever change or get better....

2007-08-30 06:08:16 · 7 answers · asked by mama 4

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2007-08-30 06:00:58 · 22 answers · asked by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7

I've been living with my bf for over a year now, we have a child together, and i do everything a wife should already do.... and he still hasnt asked me to marry him!! Am i waisting my time.... just looking for some friendly advice....

2007-08-30 05:58:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

a man who constanly feel gulity about how he treated his adult children 10 years ago? He is causing financial difficulty because of the hand outs his kids beg for. They are both adults and one has children, but they use daddys guilt to milk us dry. Should I leave or what? I'm at my wits end with this- it's been going on for 3 years.

2007-08-30 05:56:42 · 4 answers · asked by heather 2

When me and my ex split up he pretty much abandoned my olderst daughter(who is not biologically) his but he did raise her from the age of 2. She's 8 now. He hasn't included her in anything & only comes to pick up my other two children who are his. We've tried to work things out & he'll really only have anything to do w/ my her if I'm around. I talked to him about it & he says he told her she could call him whenever she wanted to come over but he makes no effort to include her so she doesn't. She's a very smart lil girl. She hates him now & we've kinda been trying to work things out again & she does not want me to go back to him what so ever. I feel bad for my other two children if we stay split up but then I feel bad for her if I go back to him. He even forbid her from going to her sisters b-day party cause he was mad at me & then made comments to people about that being my dam daughter & she could go to the party I had for the baby. The sad thing is I still luv him despite all this

2007-08-30 05:56:29 · 4 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2

2007-08-30 05:54:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and this guy live in different states. We met each other few months ago on our vacation to Hawaii. We got involved romantically and yeah... sexually. Everything was great. However, I told him that I wasn't ready for a serious relationship and so did he. We remained just friends.

Back to our home, every time I went to his state (where he lives) for business, I'd look him up and we went dinner and partying. We talked everything. He talked about his job, friends and stuffs. We always have endless conversation. However, we never really discussed anything like boy/girlfriend, relationship and stuffs. But, we do look like lovers.

He's a very shy guy. He's emotional guy but he never wants to show it. He's caring and he's like a sugar daddy. I know very well that he's happy being with me. I always make him smile and feel good about himself.

2007-08-30 05:50:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yesterday my wife told me that she excepts me smoking Marijuana, and talking to my female friends.Both of which she had a problem with since we've been married, and both I've tried to curtail to please her.Later she had this dark attitude about it, saying"just give me some time".So I thought about it,now I"m resenting the fact that she should've accepted me in the begining, and that this is sending me into an emotional rollercoster, and after two years of marriage, Im tired of the emotional bullshit!This morning I just shut down, and now shes playing that control game of"do you need the car because I have to run some errands", and besides you are just going to be chatting online anyway".Now I am expecting a job to start as early as today, with no way to get there, no money, or nothing!She even woke me up to go to the bathroom as if she was in a rush to leave, I get up, and in all of 20 seconds I was ready, but she wasnt.Two years of this yall 2 years, and no change, wheres the love?

2007-08-30 05:44:06 · 3 answers · asked by Square Root 1

2007-08-30 05:41:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother recently was killed in Iraq(july 26th 2007). Before he enlisted his wife left him, for someone else. When he returned home from basic training they went through and completed all their divorce paperwork. He was under the assumption that the divorce was final. We discovered it wasn't because she was receiving benefits. Apparently she withheld a paper that my brother was to sign, something about them agreeing to take a 3 hour class since they are parenting in different states. So my brother redid his will and all of his paperwork with a military attorney making it absolutely clear, without any doubt that he wanted EVERYTHING to go to his infant daughter in a trust. And his daughter was listed as his sole beneficiary on his insurance/death benefits paperwork. BUT, because the were still "legally" married, although separated and pending divorce, it all ended up going to his wife (ex-wife). When the military fills out the forms for submitting payments for such things.. they don't

2007-08-30 05:39:23 · 7 answers · asked by lv82 3

So, my husband is a great man and does alot of good things for other people. But I'm having a problem, he doesn't seem that involved in me. And when I say that, I mean he doesn't seem that interested in sex. We have been married a little over a year and he says "if we have sex too much then it will get old". But comeback to that is "not having sex is getting old". We MIGHT have sex once every 2 weeks. But is is usually me initiating it with him. I have had questions before wondering if he is possible gay. He is extremely metro-sexual and manicures himself precisely. What do think could be issue? I believe I am attractive, very physically fit plus I am 5 years younger then him. Don't most men want a hot young wife? We talk about his work and his life in full detail, when it comes to mine, he is easily distracted. What is going on??

2007-08-30 05:36:13 · 20 answers · asked by sunnyblonde 1

2007-08-30 05:34:14 · 42 answers · asked by beba 1

...with at least one man since her divorce years ago? She has had a recent 10 month relationship with another man he knows nothing about....?

2007-08-30 05:19:58 · 8 answers · asked by Blue lagoon 1

My husband and I have been married for only a year and a half and things are not as exciting and fun as they use to be with him. We have not had sex in over a month. I have been thinking about cheating. I haven't though. Things just seem really cold in our marriage. What can I do to get things back to how they were. I miss that.

2007-08-30 05:16:27 · 19 answers · asked by Lisa 4

first husband was my dad an alcoholic,2nd husband was a cheating alcoholic,3rd was a control freak but i liked him,we all have our faults,well they just got a divorce and she started dateing,she was dateing men that have money,she has money,well thats just not her type i guess cuz she found a guy that she really likes and hes BROKE,not goodlooking at all,im just worried that shes gonna marry the wrong guy again,and hes going to take everything she has,shes soo happy and its nice to see her that way cuz she deserves it,will that last??,i dont say to much about it cuz its her business,but my brothers and i have become really protective,were sick of seeing her getting taken advantage of and getting hurt,,anyone have any advice?? should i say something to her??i dont reallywanna give this new guy a chance unless i know that hes sincere,so id have to get to know him,and would it b wrong if i kept my sons grandfather my stepfather that she divorced in my life???

2007-08-30 05:14:53 · 15 answers · asked by alexa_rae9 2

2007-08-30 05:14:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous