I was married for almost 20 years...After we were divorced, my husband left the States...He is remarried to a?

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young Lady in an Asian country...Last year he came to visit family and my Son took him to Our Church where we raised our children for almost 15 years...(I no longer attend that church)..Well, what does David do? He is showing the church members photos of his "new family" Can you believe the disrespect for me...What do you think about that? I sat in church with that man for 15 years and he took off with another woman and now he has the gall to show up with photos of his "new family"...Do you think he is being rude? Or just a continuing idiot? Thanks

I am not in contempt or spiteful...I am a loving Grandmother that adores her family...Family is the most important thing in this world and this hateful, cruel man continues to embarrass me ...The feedback I am getting from my son is the church members were alittle astonished and were (laughing) behind David's back after he left...My son was confused..(He is a grown youngman, successful mortgage Broker)...Thanks

Answer 1

I think I would feel bad if this had happened to me...but I agree with the other answers.
He is your EX...And exes are exes for good reasons!

Men and women think and act differently....This is his macho way of telling everyone he's happy and doing fine. (Don't let this hurt you or make you feel angry- he would love it!)

Concentrate on you- and leave him where he belongs: in the past. Take care of yourself now.

Answer 2

I don't think there's anything rude about it, to be honest. I appreciate that you sat in that church for 15 years but then, so did he. In other words, it's not at all odd or rude that he would want to share photos of his new family with the members of his church.

As other people have said, you're free to move on with your life; if you meet someone and/or remarry, you're certainly free to share photos of that person and your new family with others, why shouldn't your *ex*-husband be allowed to do the same? That you don't even attend this particular church anymore makes your response less understandable; there's really no reason, that I can see, for you to feel hurt or angry or embarrassed.

Answer 3

As you do not attend that church anymore, it may be clear to them that it was him that was the real member.
Since he was in town and wanted to see his friends what was wrong with showing church people photos of his new family.
This is a group of people you don't even see anymore and you still live there. Why do you care?

It is a little self absorbed to turn it into a disrespect to you isn't it?
I don't think it shows disrespect, rudeness or idiocy.
You on the other hand are showing you spitefulness and contempt. This gives a little insight to his escape.

Answer 4

well it just seems like you aren't over it. I mean he has a new family and he knew all those people at church for the same 15 years that you did. I think there is a part of him that still needs the people of the church to in a way forgive him for what he did by accepting that he has a new family. It still sucks that he ran off to start some different life. I understand your anger and you have every right to feel betrayed because he did betray you, but in the long run its better if you forgive him for being an idiot and forgive yourself for marrying his dumb behind!

Answer 5

I think men are men. In regardlessof what nationality or culture, their theme is seek and conquer. They have a warrior mentality. Once succeeded through implantation of their seed or pure mental/physical exhaustion of their host, they move on to the next victim until they deceive them and poision them with their ejaculant venom. The are the predators of the human race. And there are no laws to keep a man from doing these things to women. Why should men be able to impregnant a woman, cause her to live her life through his eyes,and disappear to do itall over again with someone else while leaving their previous family stuck to get through the best they can. Just because we are the breeders we should be treated in such a volatile fashion. How many options of men are available to us once we have spent the best of our life with one and left with their forever connected biological specimans to tend to, who this new man has to accept as a package. Government truly needs to find a way to sterilize men and not focus on the women so much. Men should be legally be bound to one woman once he impregnates her with more than one of his children. Therefore reducing the number of single parent female headed household. Unless, of course the government has some type of benefit by letting this paternal country of degenerate men continue to produce bastard offspring and skip town to the same with other women. Maybe some of the conspiracies are true that involve the governments cruel intent to use the multitude of births resulting in birth certificates as sales receipts to other country, investments if you will. Check out David Icke and some other conspiricist to get a clearer idea. Men and their behavior and neglect toward women and their children is just ridiculous and the criminal justice system is here to protect the people. What good are our tax money is we are not being protected, in anyway against these men who are harmiing us physically,emotionally,and mentally.

Answer 6

Actually, because you are not married anymore its not disrespect at all...if you were still married that would be different. I know you still have feelings for him and those feelings may never go away, but you can't expect him to be by himself because it didn't work out with you two...You have to let it go... I understand how you must feel. I don't know what I would do if my husband I were to ever part...We have been together for 13 yrs in Nov. so I truly understand how you feel, but after you are divorced you can not control their actions and if they decide to move on that is their right and their choice.

Best Regards

Answer 7

While perhaps you don't like him showing pictures of his current family, he has just as much right as you do to show them.

If you had continued to go to that church and met a new guy, would you really not have brought him to church?

I think you are asking him to do something that does not make sense. You do not even go to that church anyway.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 8

I think both,if he lift a 20 year marriage don't think he would care about your feelings.The bible teaches a man will leave his mother and father and stick to his wife and they become one, you don't find a younger model,you grow old together.I would think that church members would not take part in such,Your ex should not disrespect you with pics of new family.

Answer 9

I can't blame you for holding resentment with your husband in the matter but, you should also consider that your son is probably as interested in what his father is involved with as much as his father is in sharing his new life with his son. Your ex husband probably meant no harm to you by this. Although I would think that better timing could have been used in the showing of pictures.

Answer 10

I understand your embarrassment but..he moved on and you no longer go to that church. It's reality I know it hurts to ahve your business out there but that's life.
When you move on and your happy you will want to show it off to the world too.