When me and my ex split up he pretty much abandoned my olderst daughter(who is not biologically) his but he did raise her from the age of 2. She's 8 now. He hasn't included her in anything & only comes to pick up my other two children who are his. We've tried to work things out & he'll really only have anything to do w/ my her if I'm around. I talked to him about it & he says he told her she could call him whenever she wanted to come over but he makes no effort to include her so she doesn't. She's a very smart lil girl. She hates him now & we've kinda been trying to work things out again & she does not want me to go back to him what so ever. I feel bad for my other two children if we stay split up but then I feel bad for her if I go back to him. He even forbid her from going to her sisters b-day party cause he was mad at me & then made comments to people about that being my dam daughter & she could go to the party I had for the baby. The sad thing is I still luv him despite all this
2007-08-30 05:56:29 · 4 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but I don't know what to do. I want all my kids to be happy but it seems like I can't have this. I think she'll hate me later on for going back right? but will my other two hate me for not?? I'm really confused. After what he's done I shouldn't even want him but I can't explain why I still do.
2007-08-30 05:57:54 · update #1
Sounds liek you need to get over him and find a guy who would respect you and your 3 kids. There are great guys out there.
Nothing would irritate me more then disrespecting my children.
2007-08-30 06:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by labken1817 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look he is a jerk. He is taking out his anger against you on your child. If you think going back with him will change this think again.
Do you want your daughter to grow up knowing 1. Daddy dislikes her and will abandon her whenever convenient.
2. Mommy chose to be with daddy so mommy must think she's 2nd rate as well. 3. Your other children will see the way daddy is and mimic his actions.
Your daughter will stand alone in that house. She may have you in words but in actions you are against her as well.
Your choice here is between your daughter and stepfather.
Unless you can arrange family counseling your daughter will be the ultimate looser in this situation.
2007-08-30 13:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by blueink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is not the only man out there. I would advise you to seek out another man as there are allot of guys out there that would treat all of your children with the same love and support that they deserve. Your ex sounds like a lost cause. You separated for a reason. It's time now for you to remember what that reason was and get on with your life. The fact that he continually treats your daughter in this manner is only reflection as to what it would be like after getting back with him. Move on.
2007-08-30 13:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your poor daughter... You owe her more than this... Don't go back to a creep that would do this to a defenseless little girl. My heart aches for her. Please don't take him back and show her that he means more to you than she does....
2007-08-30 13:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋