2007-08-30 05:41:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I was growing up I didn't have the best mother and my dad passed away when I was 10 but Seeing my mothers actions from a young age made me who I am today. I guess you could say that I chose to do things opposite of what she did. Watching her cheat on my dad and put her boyfriends before her kids made me promise myself never to do that when I get older. Now that I'm a mother and in a relationship I still hold that promise to myself. My kids are my everything and I could never treat my man the way my mother did my dad. My dad showed me to be strong and he showed me what a good parent should be. Don't get me wrong I love my mother and we are closer now. In a weird way I'm happy she was the way she was because it made me who I am today.
2007-08-30 06:14:50 · update #1
I think they are kind of "at the root" of some issues that I have, but I'm an adult now and I'm responsible for the way my life turns out.
2007-08-30 05:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it is proven that by the age of 5 years old a child has developed their personality! I believe that when someone becomes an adult, it is now there responsibilty to control their actions, but as for who they are the parents play a huge part!!! I have a lot of faults about me: i snap back at people and use sarcasm a lot i get mad very quick and i know this all comes from my step father becasue our whole lives, since childhood and still until this day he is a miserable bi polar as$hole who constantly puts people down ,,,,but then there is a side of me thats loves and cares so much for other people/along with haveing numerous insecurities-i believe this comes from my mother....and partially my step father always telling me how horrible i was my whole life!!! but what i am trying to say is that a child grows up and picks up pieces of there parents, when they are around fights and anger they will almost always grow up being bitter and quick to fight...as for growing up around peacful,supportive, loving, non-arguementative parents the child with most likely be the same way or atleast part of them will!! Hope i helped!
2007-08-30 06:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though I had a healthy child hood and would like to give nothing more than the highest praise to my parents for raising me I still think it is up to the individual person. No matter what situation a person is raised in ultimately he/she has to answer for their own actions. Every person is responsible for learning right and wrong. It is easier for those with stable mature parents to learn it faster, but everyone has the capability to learn it. Some just don't choose to.
2007-08-30 06:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So when do you take over the responsibility of running your own life. Its fine to take what you like about your parents and incorporate that into your persona but the sooner you say I am who I want to be, the sooner you will grow and mature as a human being.
2007-08-30 05:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Spelling Nazi. Sure, most of what I know was taught by them; but life is about making choices. They did the best they could and I am very thankful for everything they did- and still do- for me.
I cannot blame them for mistakes I've made- they were my decisions at the time.
2007-08-30 05:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 44. I've been an adult now for 26 years, so I'd be a bit of an idiot if I didn't take responsibility for my own choices and actions at this point, wouldn't I?
2007-08-30 05:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some ways yes, they shaped who I am, but I have the POWER to chose my own path. So responsible or not for the past, I am responsible for now and the future.
2007-08-30 06:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really...sure some behaviors may be similiar, but you have the choice to change the ones you dont like and keep the ones you do. Its all about cognitive decisions to be or not to be like your parents. But on the other hand, sometimes you do mimic what your parents acted like or said unknowingly. But basically, life is a bunch of choices one after the other, and your parents dont make all of them for you.
2007-08-30 05:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anxious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They shaped who I am no doubt. I like to tell a story like my dad with detail and repeat things and like to collect like my mother. However, after having my own children, I REALLY see how they come some what pre-programed with their own likes and dislikes, intelligence and personality. Abuse, drugs, crime and neglect probably rob some people of fulling experiencing their potential, but I think some of who we are is environment, exposure and economics.
2007-08-30 05:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were responsible for teachine me ethics, responsibility and being an individual person. However, what I choose to do with that, is MY responsibility. So only I am responsible for the way I turned out.
2007-08-30 05:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋