Marriage & Divorce - 26 August 2007

separated and then got back together after your spouse started dating other people? how do you build trust in your relationship again? to add to that, if the other person says things when you argue like; you are not very attractive right now and threatens leaving again, etc.?

How do you help yourself? do you work it out until the end or do you start planning to go?

2007-08-26 17:44:42 · 20 answers · asked by Alena 1

I have a 12 year old that has never knowen her real dad .he left us since she was 4months old .i remarried when she was 10 months old so she belives he is her father .after 12 years her real blood father shows up and tells her his her dad .i told her it wasnt true .what should i do ..tell her ? or not .legal wise what do i do ? someone help me

2007-08-26 17:21:27 · 17 answers · asked by maricusa143 1

Alright, this may sound silly but owell. Sometimes, when we are asleep at night, my husband will try to have sex with me in his sleep. This happens A LOT!! I try to have sex with him like 2 times a week, he gets home late every night, an Im busy taking care of kids all day...I have 2...Im 21, so we're both very exhausted, an making sure that the house is clean, an all that. But I dont know, is this normal? He says that he will wake up and hes doing it. It makes me feel, sort of uncomftorble. Ive told him this. We dont know what to do. He says that he will just sleep on the couch, an I dont want that. I find it soo so difficult to sleep without him. Any advice for us??? Its posing a problem...

2007-08-26 17:04:32 · 36 answers · asked by Little Deer 2

i was married and my wife was wonderful in the beginning, then she was telling me how abusive her mother was. i believed her because....when life started getting a little stressful she full on started abusing me. i kicked her out once and told her to watch her mouth. she came back crying and told me it was how she was raised and she didn't want to repeat the cycle for her daughter's sake. about six months later, she got close to her abusive mother again and guess what happened...she started abusing the crap out of me and then telling me nothing is wrong with her after admitting it early on. from there on it went down hill rapidly. the abuse escalated until now a nasty divorce where she is accusing me of abuse. i believed she loved me to death at one point but discarded me after believing her disfuntional family. is there any hope for abusive people like her? i guess after thirty years it's hard for her to change even though in the beginning she wanted to.

2007-08-26 17:00:51 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1

Im 18 and my boyfriend is 19. We wanna get engaged next year. Is that too young?

2007-08-26 16:58:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I live in a Christian domestic relationship where he heads our household. We live with respect an dknow our places but punishments are given out severely for any rules which are broken. Do other women live this way and if you do are you satisfied this way? This is not sexual nor abusive just very strict. Thanks..Mandy

2007-08-26 16:56:46 · 23 answers · asked by lippylady 1

My huby earn about US $6,000 per month.

He do not like maid neither 3rd party in the house so im the maid & almost every night i got to be his mesus or making love.

Which is very tiring!!!

I got a degree & i could earn better if im working.

He just give me US$500 per mth include the groceries & we went holiday only 2 x per YEAR!!!

i am just asking for another trip this year. Then he was angry.

I already help to pay US100,000 for the house & he need to pay only about US$1,000 for car & home bill every mth.

2007-08-26 16:52:04 · 12 answers · asked by branded boobs 1

Is such an agreement opposed to public policy ?

Is the law of contracts not applicable between husband and wife ?

Is an agreement to be bound by Alternative Dispute Resolution ( ADR ) in case of future matrimonial dispute valid under Hindu Law ?

2007-08-26 16:48:30 · 12 answers · asked by Pramod R 4

When I got married,i went into the marraige with a whole lot of money.6mothes after we were married my husband emptied the accounts and left me with nothing.IS ther anything that I can do (legally) concerning this situation,because of him stealing all of the money and leaving me with nothing or is there nothing i can do because we were married?If there is some kind of legal action that I could take,could somebody tell me what that is ?.....(and i dont know where he is-he left town and we had no children)

2007-08-26 16:43:37 · 14 answers · asked by luv11syng 3

2007-08-26 16:41:52 · 19 answers · asked by Ella 2

Is it wrong to not want sex after an argument with your significant other? It's hard for me to get in the mood with someone I was just arguing with. Most often, I give in, but it's beginning to feel like that's the way he just ends the argument. It's beginning to feel like more and more of a chore.

2007-08-26 16:32:48 · 14 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

he was here illegally before our marriage but now he is trying to pettion his ex-mistress

2007-08-26 16:24:08 · 3 answers · asked by angelina41 2

There are some women who do NOT like to be told anything....to the extent they leave the house...if things do not got their way... You are one of them.... To the extent you can leave the house or NOT reconcile...when opportunity is knocking after 5.5 years...

Such a situation is very dangerous for both of us....

So the answer is clear.... BY your actions... and inactions... and stubborness....

Ask yourself.... Have you been a RESPONSIBLE person looking out for the family's interest and future ?

You have still not admitted that you removed the jewelry.... so that would always be a sore issue... as I would touch it... Only YOU or my Mom has removed it... There is NO one else...

So I guess... you still did NOT become honest and admit a thing you did... I would have loved to see you or the child wear and enjoy it... But to you hiding such petty things are more important... than WINNING ME... YOUR MARRIAGE AND MAKING A LIFE.


Really screwed up. Admit your weaknes

2007-08-26 16:11:37 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

2007-08-26 15:37:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-26 15:27:56 · 12 answers · asked by Shay G 1

I have always worn pantyhose with my skirt suits for work each day at the office. For some reason, my hubby developed a pretty intense fascination about it. So as I was getting ready for work one day, I asked him about it and he told me that he found it alluring and sensual when I wear pantyhose and that he was curious to experience that feeling. So I hiked up my skirt, eased out of my sheers, handed them to him, and told him to slip them on. I wasn't sure if he would actually do it, but with a little encouragement, he did. I let him keep them on for a few minutes and he went absolutely crazy over the way they felt, which I thought was kind of neat.
Now hes asked a few more times recently for me to let him wear them again. I don't want to deny it to him because of how fascinated he is and how much he liked it that one time. Plus he was so honest about sharing his feelings with me about his curiousity. Is there any harm to letting him do it again? Has anyone else encountered this?

2007-08-26 15:18:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

His old car that I traded in for was an 8 year old car that is practically about to break down. I bought him a used Audi A4 and he is very mad at me. It was suppose to be a surprise gift and that is the reason why I did it. His old car was in his name only and the new car is in my name. Am I wrong or his he?

2007-08-26 15:14:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to get mobile we for free on my verizon wireless phone. this is legal i have been told, but i am unaware how to change the proxy settings on my phone to use a public proxy instead of verizon. any ideas on how to access the proxy settings or ip port? thanks.

2007-08-26 15:12:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-26 15:10:47 · 36 answers · asked by Intrigued 2

I am a nice, funny, down to earth person, but I have no life. I am married with two kids, I go to school full time, and that's it. My friends all live in different states along with my family. I have tried really hard to make close friends at school but they all have their lives. I don't make friends easily because I am a little shy and insecure. My husband and I don't get to do much because when we have money we have no babysitter and when we have a babysitter we have no money. All we do is sit around and watch sports on TV. I am tired of being bored and having no friends here. Please tell me how I can make more friends and have a life, I am soooo lonely. Peace.

2007-08-26 15:02:49 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2

He says he wants me more expirenced to date just 2 other guys to have sex with to makeup for the two girls he did before he knew me. so I can see if there is a difference. If he is trying to set me up to cheat onhim like his last relationship ended. he lived with for 7 years. keep that in mind. I think he wants me to be like his ex cause he has never been with some one past 7 years before now and i think he is try to find ways for me to leave him by talking down to me and trying to avoid having sex with me to make me go and have it with some one else. why is what i want to know. is it me did i do some thing wrong by staying a virgin before marriage? why would it matter if i was. what makes a guy think this way? He is not giving me sex to make we want to get else wheres. i think he wants me to be like his ex girlfriend. I can't be that way and he wont give me sex till I do! so what should I do? say i told him how i felt and nothing comes out of it.

2007-08-26 15:00:23 · 39 answers · asked by sassylassy2876 4

I'm in love with my business partner. Its so hard to work with her on business projects, let alone have dinner with her husband and kids. Her feelings are the same with me, but shes not ready to leave him. I've never been in this type of situation before and I'm not sure what to do. I would do anything to spend every second with her, but I can't becuase of the situation. I've never had these feelings with anyone else before. I'm tired of spending my nights and weekends alone. How long should I wait for her to change?? I'm willing to give her everything, but I will never ask her to leave him. We have a great time together, and we make each other happy.They're always fighting and he's always upset about her success. She is a great mother, and the perfect wife. I could never ask for anyone eles. She's perfect in every way. I'm willing to wait, but just not sure for how long?? We've been working together for 5 years, and have been really close in the last 6 months.

2007-08-26 14:44:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for a total of 15 years. and he has just walked away from childern and all after I lost my job and became ill from the stress.

2007-08-26 14:37:57 · 24 answers · asked by tiny 1

Ok, she is my second wife (divorced my first for an encyclopaedia multitudes of wrongs, not the least of which was her concealed lesbianism which ruined the marriage at the least).

I am just so nuts about my second wife - I worry about her when she is away from home, when I am at work I think about her all of the time! I help her with the dishes when I get home, I give all of my money happily and pleasurably to her!!!! I do anything for her, I rebuilt the upstairs bathroom for her, ripped out the old rotten floor and rebuilt it from the ground-up.

She occupies every cell of my brain and I just can't get enough of her! She's the most intelligent, radiant and beautiful woman who has ever graced my small life!!!!

Why me!!!!!

2007-08-26 14:34:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know some of you may be getting tired of the melodrama of breakups... but please dont be rude to me... just skip my question if you're irritated...

my bf and I have been together for years.... we've been doing great... then yesterday out of nowhere.... he just broke the relationship... he wasnt txting since morning so i got worried and called him he said he was at the hospital... then when i hurried to go to the hospital.... he said he's got his prescriptions and need to go home... then i said wait for me... but he said just go cause im leaving you anyway... and then he broke it off right there.....

we've been okay..... the day before we were just exchanging jokes and sweet words.... but he won't talk.... he's avoiding me.... i dont know what to do.....

2007-08-26 14:23:03 · 23 answers · asked by terra 4

My husband gets jealous of me talking to other men. It doesn't matter if it is a cashier at the store or my non-biological brother*. He will ask, "Is he bothering you?" and turn all dark and moody. He accuses me of sleeping with my guy friends--which I've never done, I'm just not that girl--hence, I no longer have any guy friends(in AK, in VT it's different). I can't talk to another man in public without him freaking out. I know there is no reason for this! I don't know why he is so jealous and insecure! I have NEVER cheated on him. He has even gone so far as to accuse me of claiming someone else's baby as his (when his son looks JUST LIKE HIM)!

I am sick of feeling like I have to creep around to keep the few friendships with other men that I have left.

*To explain, I grew up with these guys, we went to youth group together and it has always been platonic between us. We are like blood.

Why won't he trust me? I have never lied to him! I feel like it is poisoning our relationship..

2007-08-26 14:22:52 · 10 answers · asked by la_frou_frou 2

I caught my husband wearing one of my panties. He didnt look to bad in there but a lil funny though so you think I should make him my little lingerie slave????

2007-08-26 14:20:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend (honest) that began an affair with a married co-worker. She then found out that his wife was pregnant and wants out but he starts being very mean and then very sweet to her. ( I know...typical emotional abusive behavior) She really regrets what she has done and knows that there is no excusing her own behavior but she really wants to do damage control at this point. He also happens to work directly across the hall from her. Please don't give thoughts on how she deserves it now, she was going through an extremely rough time when it began ( her husand deserted her and her mother died all in the same week and she was in a really bad place) I really just need to help her figure out how to fix this mess as best as possible. Changing jobs is not possible either.

2007-08-26 14:01:42 · 10 answers · asked by zogetta3 2

When you love someone with such a fierceness, but deep down know it just isn't going to work? When as you catch yourself watching him sleep, your stomach drops knowing it really is going to end? When you realize that even though it's been just one long goodbye, you still avoid the enevitable because you've just never really been good at watching the one you gave your heart and soul to turn around and not come back.. ? Life is truelly unfair.. cruel... and it's just life...

2007-08-26 13:50:03 · 3 answers · asked by big_gurlz_dont_cry27 1

The only way my husband will confront his moods is through marriage counseling but it is important to find out from a doctor if I'm on the mark about my husband. He has extreme mood swings, is often angry, and talks about death, and is indifferent to the family.

2007-08-26 13:38:00 · 1 answers · asked by metsfan 1