We've been very happy and satisfied, but yesterday out of nowhere he broke up with me... PLS PLS PLS READ...

Question

I know some of you may be getting tired of the melodrama of breakups... but please dont be rude to me... just skip my question if you're irritated...

my bf and I have been together for years.... we've been doing great... then yesterday out of nowhere.... he just broke the relationship... he wasnt txting since morning so i got worried and called him he said he was at the hospital... then when i hurried to go to the hospital.... he said he's got his prescriptions and need to go home... then i said wait for me... but he said just go cause im leaving you anyway... and then he broke it off right there.....

we've been okay..... the day before we were just exchanging jokes and sweet words.... but he won't talk.... he's avoiding me.... i dont know what to do.....

Answer 1

You deserve an answer. You deserve to know why, what happened. DEMAND it if you have to stalk him. Take your mom with you and wait at his house for when he comes back from work.

TX Mom

Answer 2

Terra: I'm sure sorry to hear how you've been treated. It is so sad when you've put all your life into someone and then they trash you and your love. Gosh...going to the hospital and then finding he's playing a game. That is so sad and sorry of him.
Words cannot make you feel much better but please...get a grip on yourself. Definitly you are in shock as you have obviously been the giver in this relationship. Stop, think, and take stock of your situation. This is not a small matter. I believe it would be best if you stop trying to contact him. Try and force yourself to halt communication at least for several days. This will make him wonder and give you time for perspective. What happened is worth a Big Red Flag. You are most certainly the giving caring type. Don't cast your pearls. Don't forget to pray. God Bless and I'll be thinking about you today.

Answer 3

You may have felt you were "doing great," but he didn't. He wasn't honest enough with you to talk and work things out. He wasn't mature enough to explain his reasoning with you. You were in a false sense of security with him, even though you felt it was real. That is so hurtful.

If he's shutting you out, I know it's hard, but just stay out. The most painful place to be is somewhere you're not wanted, and he doesn't want you in his life now.

Don't get another bf for a while. Spend time with your family and girlfriends...get out of the pattern you had with him. That won't make it easy, by any means, but a change in your behavior patterns will make the transition more possible.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. It's crushing to have a relationship you trusted to be ripped out from under you. Live, learn, and take this as a lesson to put under your belt and learn from.

Do you have an adult you can talk to about this? Your parents, an aunt, a counselor at school, any adult you respect? Don't let yourself sink into despair. Find someone who can help you build yourself back up. Don't let this pain consume you; make it a valuable learning experience and move on with your life.

Best of luck to you, sweetie!

Answer 4

That is really screwed up. Guys are like this though. We'll go through the motions for a while just to see if feelings change. You have to think back and see if you can pinpoint when things changed. Trust me this isn't spur of the moment. He's been wanting to do this for some time. Just things came to a head for some reason. Either another girl, something that you were or weren't doing, but something has changed. You can't force him to give you a reason and if you try you'll end up being hurt more for it. Girls can be a little pissy when confronted. Just think of it being 10 times worse when a guy is. Give it some time. He may tell you he may not. I know it's what you want but you can't force anyone to do anything they do not want to do. It's not a good answer but it is an honest one.

Answer 5

Wasn't there some kind of red flag before hand? I dont know? Cause I don't know how he was with you in your relationship with him. I don't know the reason he was in the hospital, but do you think that maybe it was the prescriptions talking? People have a tendency to talk out of their *** when their are on something their body is not used to. Hence why when people are drunk they talk **** that they probably normally wouldn't while sober. Think about it?

Answer 6

Ok dear, i think your ex is a closed-up, emotionally handicapped, cowardly clown. What kinda clown doesn't say anything and just breaks off a relationship of years? I know it's hard to let him go, very much. Coz if you just let him go like this, it means you didn't care all that much about him. But you did and you still do. So try gettin him to talk to you and just ask one thing, Simple! "Tell me why you broke up with me coz I deserve to know and at least out of common courtesy, tell me" I honestly think he's an escapist, cowardly fool for doing this, and if he just simply disappears on you, never wants to talk to you, let him disappear! He'll get what he deserves big f-ing time.

Answer 7

Maybe he had some issues that were possibly building up you didn't know about? Some men sometimes won't cope with the fact that they are unhappy with a person but care about them because of the years in the relationship. Maybe your ex-beau let this build up for so long that he ended it in a way he wasn't happy with and that is a possibility why he isn't speaking to you??

Answer 8

I think he should tell you why, also. Do you think he picked up a disease from somebody else and doesn't want you to know about it? Just reaching (for answers). Seems like he doesn't want you to know what's going on.
Give it some time. The truth will come out. Let things quiet down. You will find out what happened. Just wait it out even though it is hard.

Answer 9

sounds like probably something bad happened to him that he doesnt want to put u through,,, or prob he feels immasculated or something,,, it seems to me that it prob has something to do with what happened at the hospital or what caused him to go there,,, try n find out what is the problem n offer to be there for him,, then also just ask himt o explain the breakup bcuz everything seem ok to n stuff jus let him kno how u feel n talk k

good luck

Answer 10

It may be hard to do but you need to give him some time, and I don't mean one day. Give him a week, then call and ask him why. Tell him he owes you an explanation after years of dating. Is it possible it has something to do with his health?

Answer 11

Sorry to say, but he's doing what my ex did when he split. He was cheating on me.
If that's the case, you may never get a fulfilling answer. I'm sorry honey. Leave something sweet for him, and a note saying that whatever you need, I will do, you just need to tell me what it is.
And wait.
:( I'm sorry.