How long should I wait for her to leave her husband?

Question

I'm in love with my business partner. Its so hard to work with her on business projects, let alone have dinner with her husband and kids. Her feelings are the same with me, but shes not ready to leave him. I've never been in this type of situation before and I'm not sure what to do. I would do anything to spend every second with her, but I can't becuase of the situation. I've never had these feelings with anyone else before. I'm tired of spending my nights and weekends alone. How long should I wait for her to change?? I'm willing to give her everything, but I will never ask her to leave him. We have a great time together, and we make each other happy.They're always fighting and he's always upset about her success. She is a great mother, and the perfect wife. I could never ask for anyone eles. She's perfect in every way. I'm willing to wait, but just not sure for how long?? We've been working together for 5 years, and have been really close in the last 6 months.

Answer 1

If you truly care about her, you won't break up her family (or continue to put her in a difficult situation). Grow up and stop thinking about just yourself!

You need to find another job now! Get as far away from her as possible and don't look back.

Answer 2

I agree with most of the other people who have posted on here - nothing good comes out of continuing to wait. Run far and don't turn back.

The only thing I would add is...

Think this through... If she leaves her husband for you, her kids and husband will not just disappear. There will be a custody battle (no doubt) and her kids and husband will hate you and blame you for breaking up their family. The kids will be hurt and will probably not understand. Child support battles involving lawyers will be next, followed by a lot of contortions to get the kids back and forth between your place and little league and family holidays and their dad's place. If you want kids, there will be step-kids and things will just get more and more complicated.

Don't do that to yourself. Nothing good will come from this. Just tell yourself that in another life you would have worked very hard to make her happy.

Answer 3

as long as you feel comfortable waiting. If you are truly tired of spending those nights and weekends alone then try dating someone single.Dont' pressure her, how 'close' is the relationship anyway? If she is unhappy with her current husband and wants to be with you she will definitely find her way. you just have to wait and see, this is a delicate and unique situation and you will be in for a ride!!!! Think about if you are truly ready and able to deal with ex-husband,new wife and step kids. It may be a bit much, but if you are ready to 'roll with the punches,' go right ahead. Oh one other thing, if she is going to leave, let it be on her own accord, i.e because she wants to leave because she is unhappy, not because she wants to be with you and if that happens i wish you all the best.

Pretty

Answer 4

Only you can answer this question. If you were her husband, how long would you want someone as yourself to wait?

Plus, are you able to live with the fact you contributed to breaking up a family? Don't think this is an ideal way to start a relationship with anyone. You don't say how close you have been the last 6 months; sexual? dating? good friends? If you haven't crossed the line into being the 'other man'; please stop and think before you proceed. Would you consider her 'perfect' if she entered into an affair with someone she worked for? Don't think so.

Answer 5

You don't "wait" for anyone.
You need to continue on with your life.
You need to date other people, for 1 atleast you aren't just sitting around waiting for her to decide if she wants you or not. And 2 it's going to make her jealous.
The worst thing you can do, is let her know you are "waiting " for her.
1st of all, that is giving her, her cake and letting her eat it too.
2nd of all, we all love the game of "the thrill of the chase". Once you're "caught" it's no more fun.
Get what I'm saying to you?

You may want to wait for her, but don't let her know you are doing that. Otherwise, that is just giving her all the time in the world.
If she thinks you are getting on with your life, without her, she is really going to have to decide exactly what it is that she wants.

Meet other women.
Date other women.
Give other women a chance, you never know what could happen ;)

Answer 6

Stop waiting. Move on. She is married and you are the other man. You can't know how it feels to be him. Trying to take a woman from her husband? That makes you about the lowest form of life. Break it off now before it goes too far and gets out of control. If you really care for her, let it go.

Answer 7

First of all grow up.This woman is not perfect in every way.To begin with she is cheating on her husband.I suggest that you do the right thing and cool your relationship with her.You have no right to have a relationship with a married woman who has a family.Believe me you are heading for the biggest disappointment of your life and in many ways you deserve what you are about to get.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Been there. She's not leaving. Either you continue playing together the way you are now, or you nip it in the bud and look for a single woman. But don't sit around and pine to have her all to yourself because it's not going to happen.

Answer 10

Well she may be "perfect" in every way...but she is a cheater. And you are a party to it. You should leave a married woman alone. If she really did want to leave her husband she would have by now. You can wait...but you could be waiting to hell freezes over.