My husband and I have been together for a total of 15 years. and he has just walked away from childern and all after I lost my job and became ill from the stress.
2007-08-26 14:37:57 · 24 answers · asked by tiny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STUPIDITY.
2007-08-26 14:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear what you're going trough. From now on you are walking into a new life ! Devastated, hurt angry and totally clueless. Ill from all this BS and jobless due to the fact you barely can make it to your bed or brush your teeth.
That SOB dropped you like a hot potato........TIME TIME and some more time will ease the pain after a long process. I was left after 6 years 7 weeks ago for a younger co-worker (he swore she is lesbian they live together) Where can we go how do you patch that up no idea however, there is a thing called self preservation you come first now finally only you and the kids no more worrying about him who he is with or whom he is sleeping with. YOU ARE FREE , FREE to love just you (you forgot how ) He will get his s....t don't worry just sit back and watch what a spineless excuse of a man.
Hold your head up high focus and keep on stepping on.
By the way some of these replies are tasteless and immature.
WE LOVE YOU.
2007-08-26 22:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is likely having mid-life crisis. He is selfish and weak. I would guess that he has been flirting with either a younger woman on the internet or at work. He wants to not have the responsbility of a family and wife. He wants to play and be carefree. Go talk to a divorce lawyer and find out your rights. Don't let him push you around. Be strong for your kids. The best thing you can do is not look back. Move forward with your life. Find a husband that will love and respect you. If you need a makeover, get it. Your best revenge is to look great and be happy. He won't be happy for long.
2007-08-26 21:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know all about this. I was married for 28 years and I thought happily. All of a sudden, he announced one day in 2001, he loved me but he wasn't in love with me....YOUR first instinct is that there is another woman....Your first instinct is always the right one. My husband ran off with the county bicycle, everybody else in the county had a turn on the bicycle, so he thought he needed one. I really thought he had a brain tumor, his personality changed completly. I also know about the stress that comes from your marriage desolving..I too had to go to therapy for years..I know it is going to be hard, but you have to go on with your life. Don't ever let him see you hurt, that will just give him satisfaction. He ain't worth it. I am here to tell you that ever though your husband is a dog like my X, there are still some good men out there that will love and respect you and never do this to you ever again. You life will go on, you will become stronger from having experienced so much pain. Good luck to you and please turn it over to God, he will carry you on days you don't feel like walking.
2007-08-26 22:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U know how it is. Guys always want a newer model that's in mint condition, and runs well. He'll gladly trade in a forty for two twenties any day. Some guys just don't like faithful antiques, they'd rather trade in their good reliable investment at the first sign of trouble, and get something flashy, and flimsy...as long as their buddies enjoy his new ride right?
2007-08-26 21:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It never ceases to amaze me just how insensitive men can be. I'm talking about the pigs not real men because a real man would never walk away from his marriage specially now when in dire need. I won't say to you,move on or forget about him because that's just plan stupid and insensitive. Hang in there and be as strong as you can. When he comes to his senses he will see what he has done and come back to you. I'm sorry you and your kids are going through this no one deserves this kind of treatment from anyone specially from the man you married and who promised to be there in sickness and in heath shame on him.
2007-08-26 21:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is tough and you need a strong partnership to get by. If you feel like the other partner has given up, or is playing the victim and not taking responsibility for their life, it can totally sap your confidence in your ability to cope and make you want to leave.
2007-08-26 21:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same way as you. My friend introduce a book to be call "Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship"by Sherry Argov. Read it is a great read and makes you understand their reasoning.
2007-08-26 21:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a wuss. He cannot handle the home life after the finances were altered. If that is all that it took for him to get packing, he was already on the verge before any of this happened and was looking for an excuse to leave.
Sounds like my X-fiance, that B
2007-08-26 21:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's no longer in love with you. That doesn't make it right however. We can't always go about life based on our emotions. Sometimes love has to be more of an action than a feeling.
2007-08-26 21:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many men are ******* ungrateful villains. You know what will happen to him? You wanna know what will happen to him? The moment he walked out on you and the kids, he cursed himself in a way he couldn't even imagine! You can only sit and watch as misery unfolds in his life. Believe me, everyone, however evil he/she is, has at least one thing he/she cares about deeply. One of those things will be taken away. Justice will reign. My heart goes out to you, just sit and watch.
2007-08-26 21:53:57 · answer #11 · answered by Simplygreat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋