Ok, she is my second wife (divorced my first for an encyclopaedia multitudes of wrongs, not the least of which was her concealed lesbianism which ruined the marriage at the least).
I am just so nuts about my second wife - I worry about her when she is away from home, when I am at work I think about her all of the time! I help her with the dishes when I get home, I give all of my money happily and pleasurably to her!!!! I do anything for her, I rebuilt the upstairs bathroom for her, ripped out the old rotten floor and rebuilt it from the ground-up.
She occupies every cell of my brain and I just can't get enough of her! She's the most intelligent, radiant and beautiful woman who has ever graced my small life!!!!
Why me!!!!!
2007-08-26 14:34:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow. you should tell her this stuff. you must have done something right somewhere
2007-08-26 14:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're not only in love, but are putty in her hands.
Although this may not be a bad thing if she reciprocates and you work on the relationship together, it could turn bad very easily.
You're setting yourself up as a doormat. Work on yourself and building your self-esteem first. Make a list of what you deserve as a husband - love, respect, trust and truth. Then - expect those back in return.
In addition - make sure you don't put her on a pedestal as a perfect woman. She is a human and will make mistakes. She'll fart in bed, forget to shave, smell of BO after working hard and yell at you when you don't deserve it. It's connecting with her during those not-so-good times that build strength in the relationship.
2007-08-26 14:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you guys are doing great. You must be giving her the love she deserves and all the respect you desire... it's the "secret" to a great marriage!
I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married (and engaged) person I know. So try and hear me out...
It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unlovingly towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.
If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...
"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).
As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."
I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.
If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!
2007-08-26 18:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be true that love is better the second time around. Be happy that you did it right this time. Some people never do get it right no matter how many times they are married.
2007-08-26 15:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of that sounds pretty normal. Just make sure that it's mutual and don't overcrowd her or make her feel suffocated. Doing the bathroom wasn't just for her, it enhanced your property value and I'm sure you use it as well. One rule though would be to ensure you are just as aware of what is going on with the finances, make sure you don't go into debt trying to please her and that it isn't a one way relationship.
2007-08-26 14:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow now she is a lucky woman you should be happy lol.. Lots of women are looking for a guy just like you.
2007-08-26 18:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must really love her, but you seem slightly obsessed, is this love reciprocal or one sided, Hopefully she would do the same things for you and treat you the same, in which case it would be a match made in heaven.
2007-08-26 14:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by LocalCelebMrsParks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awe *waves to wifey* are you trying to earn some brownie points?.. You've dodged a bullet and stuck with someone sane, kudos! Good luck!
2007-08-26 14:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's really sweet. I guess it's true what they say... love really can be better the second time around. All the best to you and your wife!
2007-08-26 14:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, just admit you cheated on her, you don't have to come on here and talk like she's the next best thing to sliced bread. If you did something wrong, just admit it and you'll feel better
2007-08-26 14:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you're in love- apparently for the first "REAL" time!
Hope it lasts for you!
2007-08-26 14:39:30 · answer #11 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋