Marriage & Divorce - 26 August 2007

We have been fighting for 2 months over her drinking. My wife loves to drink and sometimes drinks too much. She also has guy friend that are in her class that she goes and hangs out with 2 or 3 times a month and drinks in bars with them. I have told her many times it bothers me but she refuses to quit. For more info refer to my last 2 questions in my profile. I recently left her, and now I think I want to give it one more try. She suggested a marriage counselor. I think the problem is my wife might be an alcoholic and not want to admit it. Plus, I don’t approve of the other guys in her life. Am I being stupid and jealous? She has never given me a reason not to trust her besides just going to bars with guys and a few other girls, but I don’t know them. She tells me I am always invited but has never called me and formerly invited to go before she goes out. What should I do? Is it too late? Please read my last 2-posted questions for more details.

2007-08-26 10:09:06 · 11 answers · asked by funkyballs 1

Divorce rate has reached 50% in some countries such as the USA and 35% in some oil countries such as Kuwait. Families dont feel being secured in most poor countries. Why do you think this phenomena is wide spread all over the world?

2007-08-26 10:03:22 · 12 answers · asked by best-doctor 2

An ex-boyfriend of mine says he is getting a do-it-yourself divorce in PA rather than NYS where he and his wife reside as he says it only takes 6 months in PA vs a year in NYS and the cost is cheaper. Is this true or is he full of B.S.? Thank-you.

2007-08-26 10:00:37 · 8 answers · asked by tigrzmom 1

2007-08-26 09:52:40 · 52 answers · asked by Vanessa R 2

I let my daughter and ex-husband down by not putting the family back together.

I am constantly ambivalent and am not able to get things done to move things ahead.

Then, my ex-husband gets upset and calls me inefficient, diseased because I constantly talk to Counselors and other friends/ relatives for advice.

He claims that I need to fix myself.

Then, he says that I am "irresponsible mother." Yet, he had sole physical and legal custody.

It was wrong of me to leave my child. I know that.

I wonder if I need to look inside myself and maybe just maybe he is right.

2007-08-26 09:19:42 · 10 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My ex-husband is controlling and verbally abusive. Yet, I still feel like going back to him.

I feel very sad because today would have been our 18th Anniversary. My mother-in-law and he both called and remembered the day.

Yet, I talk to so many people and they say that "things won't change and be the same."

He lives in another state and we have a 15 year old daughter.
Our daughter was living with him up until now.

I feel like taking a stand and just saying to everyone I am going back to put my family back together.

Then, my ex-husband defines the terms on which I have to go back - close bank accts, empty out storage, etc. I feel like I will be micromanaged and controlled again.

Yet, I still feel like just pulling up stakes and going back to him because I will have a family life and some security to be with someone when I get older.

What's wrong with me?

2007-08-26 09:09:20 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

my fiancee is saying that vows r promises, and she made one to a friend for friendship, r vows not for friendship?

2007-08-26 09:09:10 · 23 answers · asked by sasamijurai18 2

I moved into a shitty room in a frat house because I had no options on the fifth payed 460, and 225. A hundred fifty is refundable, but I couldn't stand it and just found a new place. It is month to month, but now I remember them saying to give twenty days notice, I didn't. Am I in trouble or did they just say this so they could have time to find new renters. Is there anything they can or will do? or something I can say to lessen the blow like make up a story or something?

2007-08-26 08:57:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

WE DONT EVEN COMMUNICATE MY HUSBAND SIT'S IN ONE ROOM BYE HIS SELF I AND I SIT IN THE OTHER ROOM AND WE DONT EVEN LAUGH TOGETHER. OR ANYTHING IT'S LIKE WE LIVE TOGETHER BUT DONT TALK ONLUY HI AND BYE.

2007-08-26 08:45:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate it, but I live in Seattle and feel like I'm running from them it never ends really and I really do love them and want to live near them in Iowa, but they are so controlling it's like a total lose, win and the furthur I get away from home time wise, well the furthur I get from home.

2007-08-26 08:42:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in tx,and I want to know at what age or how can I not have to go vist my dad every outher weekend?

2007-08-26 08:41:21 · 9 answers · asked by seth2013 2

My husband and I have been seperated since November of 2004. I moved here to florida with my daughter in 2005 we have lived here ever since. I sent my daughter up to see him this past may on a verbal agreement that I have her during school he has her summers and we share holidays but recently i bought plane ticket and he did not put her on the plane and doesn't want to send her home what can i do all i want is my little girl home with me she was supposed to start school the 20th and shes enrolled here, I have records showing that she lives here but we are still married and i can't afford another plane ticket let alone a divorce please help.

2007-08-26 08:41:05 · 4 answers · asked by jamig20022003 2

I dont want ANYTHING to do with husband's family! I cant stand them and they cant stand me.Too much has been said and done for me to ever wantto speak in a civil manner with any of them again....How can this be worked out?Has anyone ever gotten a divorce because of this?

2007-08-26 08:39:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

He used to tell me he'd always love me fat or thin and he said that it was normal that i gained a bit of weight after having babies... then things started going bad , we divorced and now he's criticizing me.. ha also says i'm a bad mom... i need someone to love me again...
Do you know some way to be happy again...
p.s. i can't seem to loose the baby weight, i'm too nervous and stressed and keep eating junk food

2007-08-26 08:38:23 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your kids feel bullied by your ex-husbands' new gf's two teenage children, do you send the kids' on visitiation? Kids are 7 and 4. I plan on calling our attorney to find out for sure this week, but wonder what everyone thought. Their dad has been told about the bullying and the hitting, but he does nothing to stop it because the teen agers aren't his kids.

2007-08-26 08:36:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

You have around a 50% chance, that the ‘woman of your dreams’ will get bored, find someone better, blame you for everything, and divorce you. Then, as an added bonus, you get ***-raped by a family court, which is hostile toward men. When that's over, you have the pleasure of living a life of financial and emotional ruin. Where's the incentive?

2007-08-26 08:34:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked my husband if he would marry me all over again, and he said "probably not". I asked him why not. He said because he didn't get married to be alone most of the time.
I couldn't believe my ears. We do nearly everything together.
We are constantly travelling and going to events around the city and I rarely go out on my own. One problem he said is the matter of my health. I have had some health problems since we married but I try not to dwell on them. He is very unsympathetic. If I ever cry, it's "C'mon get over it!" We have been married nearly 5 years and I feel very unloved, but I am not ready to give up on our marriage. I think he would divorce me but for having to help me out. He is well off but watches his money closely.

2007-08-26 08:32:19 · 31 answers · asked by Lean on Me 4

my ex-wife and i have 3 children. my 6 year old son wants to live with me. we've been divorced for 2 years.

2007-08-26 08:27:30 · 15 answers · asked by devadevadasa 1

It's an on going fight between the two of us, because he "pays the bills and does so much for me" so that he feels like if he decides to use a little bit of cocaine every once in a while its ok because he's "not a crackhead, and he still takes care of his family and does what he has to do for us". I totally disagree, I don't care how much he does for us, it still doesn't make it right for him to do that. He knows I hate it, and he knows that when he does it I feel like he's cheated on me, that's how bad it upsets me. He'll hide it from me thinking I won't find out and when I do, it always goes back to him saying "I don't appreciate anything that he does for me". Because of this, I will go out with friends and I don't even like to be with him on the weekends when he's able to be with me, because I just feel so disrespected by him and I have so much anger towards him because of past times when he has done it. Does anyone have a similar problem? If so, how do you deal with this? Thanks..

2007-08-26 08:14:21 · 26 answers · asked by Chrissy 3

i see my kids 3 days a week and i would like to have my twins over night one of those days each week but she seems to have a prob with that

2007-08-26 08:11:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am in love with a man i never met, we are both mature adults and grandparants, we have been around the block. we have been corresponding 8 months, he is very honest, we are both married. i am an abused negleted wife, but always put off leaving him the marraige councelor agreed there is no hope in my marraige, she met him he did not want to continue with counceling. the man i am writing to is accross the country, we have no future plans to meet yet. we speak on the phone several times a week, we exchanged photos, he is seven years older than me and has health problems. he is honest and upfront with me about his home situation, his wife is ill. i am madly in love with him, and i am sure he feels the same, at our age, we have nothing to hide. i want happiness and he wants a partner to share his love and affection with. he would like me to move where he lives, but i do not want to leave my grandchildren and family behind. i am stuck, do not know how to manage this. thanks for your help,

2007-08-26 08:08:44 · 11 answers · asked by smart girl 2

i have been on here so many times cause of problems with my husband. we are moving this week back to family,2000 miles away. anways my husband invited some of his friends over last night to party cause were going to be moving. anyways his brother called after he got done at the bar around 2 and said im having a party at my place. we agreed that we wouldnt go anywhere with uout each other to partys and bars.anyways him and his friends left and he had me stay here cause we have alittle girl who was sleeping. i was crying so hard cause by that time it was 330am, way to late for a husband to go out. one guy stayed that i knew, he is a really nice guy and was supporting me cause he knew i was crying and knew it wasnt right that he left. i asked him if i could go over there and be back in 20 min cause i wasnt sure if i could trust him(i have cought him on single sites and telling girls to take off there tops,porn,ALWAYS lie where he is at and i have to here it from other people, doesnt....

2007-08-26 08:06:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

If,after my wife left me over two months ago,and i had access to her e-mails should i wipe off the hundreds i sent her and she still has after she`s told me to wipe hers off or what? is this a game cause it`s destroying me as i still love her and always hope for that day she may come back.we live in a small town with very little to do,she goes to work and i still work on building the house.
should i just let it all go and go back to the UK...yuk!

2007-08-26 08:00:44 · 6 answers · asked by steve 2

When I do the laundry, its just gross, she is gross, she is a slob and after 3 years of marriage I might divorce her!

2007-08-26 07:49:26 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to make it up to him and show him how much I love him and how much I appreciate him standing by me with my health issues. How do I start making it up to him? We have already talked but I want to show it more than talk about it. I am still in my funk and still feeling bad but I know I have to make an effort for my marriage to work. I am in a funk because of health issues, kids, 2 jobs, etc.

2007-08-26 07:45:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-26 07:42:19 · 25 answers · asked by Oria 2

Do you think about that or try not to..

2007-08-26 07:39:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi,
Myself and my fiance are Indian citizens and are now working in US. We are from different religions (Muslim and Hindu). We would like to get married in US. What all are the procedures to be followed for this? Can we get married under the special marriage act in any Indian embassy in US? How long it will take?
Thanks.

2007-08-26 07:28:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

When a man tells a woman he's gonna marry her when he has aquired his own house & car....

2007-08-26 07:21:55 · 34 answers · asked by Lue 2

Found e-mails and naked pictures of her and some of men, apprently she has been a busy bee when I was at work!

2007-08-26 07:00:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous