I hate it, but I live in Seattle and feel like I'm running from them it never ends really and I really do love them and want to live near them in Iowa, but they are so controlling it's like a total lose, win and the furthur I get away from home time wise, well the furthur I get from home.
2007-08-26 08:42:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know how old you are, but maybe you need to be able to live on your own, have a job, go to school, have friends, a social life and then tell you parents if you really want that you are moving back.
But have your own place, have your own life, and once a week call and say Hi, go by every two weeks for a little bit, and when you tell them you are moving back, tell them you are an independent person now, and you know they will be proud of what you have accomplished.
Good luck!
2007-08-26 08:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find ways to stay connected that still keep you independant. Arrange a weekly time to phone home, or keep the e-mails going. Schedule a trip home for a day or two once in a while, but it's not a bad thing to establish your own roots somewhere else.
I moved from Ca to Virginia and probably had a better realtionship with my mom during that time that most of the time before it. I live back in Ca now, and it's nice to be near them, but it doens't mean I'm any mroe or less part of the family.
I don't know If I'm being helpful at all... sorry.
Just keep communication open and send lotsa of pictures.
2007-08-26 15:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've been there! I think you're experiencing what is commonly known as depression! Take charge now, don't wait a minute longer. It can take hold before you know what's happening to you! Share those feelings with some loved ones, and then get some professional help! Hop back on that train, before it leaves the station without you. The world is not going to stop and wait for you to get back on! Get going!
2007-08-26 15:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pinyon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family will always be family. Even though you are distant, you have a history that will never change. Take time to cut lose from their controlling, you can always keep in touch through the years. You will find yourself changing because you are experiencing new things when your family is surrounded by familiarity, this is what make you feel you are growing apart.
2007-08-26 16:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the answer is obviously that the controll issue has you running.You cannot keep living this way turn around and face the problem head on. ask them--no demand that they stop trying to controll YOUR life.
2007-08-26 16:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This has happened to me too. I have moved progressively further away and talk to them less and less. You can't change who they are. Either you can accept them for them and talk to them more to try to rebuild a relationship, or you can write them off. You don't HAVE to be controlled by them.
2007-08-26 15:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
put your foot down your in control now
2007-08-26 16:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Unbound Demon 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋