If your kids feel bullied by your ex-husbands' new gf's two teenage children, do you send the kids' on visitiation? Kids are 7 and 4. I plan on calling our attorney to find out for sure this week, but wonder what everyone thought. Their dad has been told about the bullying and the hitting, but he does nothing to stop it because the teen agers aren't his kids.
2007-08-26 08:36:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your children don't want to go you don't have to send them. He CAN do something and that is to discuss the problem with the teen's mother. Obviously he doesn't have the balls to do so.
2007-08-26 14:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a court order stating the dates and times the father has responsibility for the children - that is binding and you can not keep the children home unless you are looking to be charged with contempt of court.
If there was a bully at school, would you keep your kids home or would you teach them how to stand up for themselves, even if it means an outside therapist/counselor?
There are other ways of dealing with the problem besides denying visitation. Talk to him about possibly taking the kids on outings instead of just being at the house.
2007-08-26 15:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would absolutely NOT force my child to go on visitation with an abusive, bullying ex. No way! It is YOUR job to protect your children from this man. Do not release them to him for visitation, no matter what. If he wants to take you to court over his alleged visitation rights, tell him to "go ahead" because you will testify about his abuse and have all visitation rights removed.
He does nothing to stop it, but you can! He can't do it if you don't allow your children to be around him.
2007-08-26 17:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not send them if they are being bullied especially if they say they don't want to go then you should not send them. You are responsible for their wellbeing and happiness and if you ex can't or won't see that then let him take you to court the judge will speak to the children and he will be in their favor! So don't worry. Good luck.
2007-08-26 16:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other kids might not be his but he has a duty to his children to protect them from abuse and legally he might very well have the right to his visitation but sometimes when we are parents we have to do whats right for our kids and take a stand,i would tell him until the situation changes with his girlfriends children bullying the younger kids he can have his visit with his children without the girlfriends kids around or not at all its his choice.if it means going back to court to make your case to the judge so be it.
2007-08-26 16:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you do. If you told him, how do you know he does nothing? Does he really say he can't do anything because the teens aren't his? That doesn't make sense and I'm not sure your telling the whole story here. It is a concern for sure if true.
2007-08-26 15:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
whatever is in the best interests of the child....thats the overiding rule in europe at least.
If your ex doesnt have the strength of character to stand up to those bulling your son then he is a pretty pathetic example as a dad.
2007-08-26 15:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about he situation and ask him to put his girlfriend's children in check or at least ask that they not be around when your children come for visits
2007-08-26 15:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there is a court order, then yes...you send them. however, talk with the new huzzy...her kids are the problem, not him. let her know you wont have your kids being mistreated by ANYONE
2007-08-26 17:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever the visitation says...goes...
if you need to adjust it...go back to the courts and file a new agreement for approval from the judge
2007-08-26 15:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋