i have been on here so many times cause of problems with my husband. we are moving this week back to family,2000 miles away. anways my husband invited some of his friends over last night to party cause were going to be moving. anyways his brother called after he got done at the bar around 2 and said im having a party at my place. we agreed that we wouldnt go anywhere with uout each other to partys and bars.anyways him and his friends left and he had me stay here cause we have alittle girl who was sleeping. i was crying so hard cause by that time it was 330am, way to late for a husband to go out. one guy stayed that i knew, he is a really nice guy and was supporting me cause he knew i was crying and knew it wasnt right that he left. i asked him if i could go over there and be back in 20 min cause i wasnt sure if i could trust him(i have cought him on single sites and telling girls to take off there tops,porn,ALWAYS lie where he is at and i have to here it from other people, doesnt....
2007-08-26 08:06:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
come home tell 530- 630,smokes weed) anyways i went over there and i looked in the house and saw another girl who was fat,ugly and she was all over him touching his butt and he was laughing, then i hid over by the next door house and i saw him come out with his guy friend who has a girlfriend also, then that girl comes out and my husband said so what job did you use to have? she said i use to be a stipper, he said oh dear lord,yes,you better not tell me that. can you do something right here? she said yes and bent over in his crouch and he touched her butt and then they started hugging lots then i saw them kiss and his friend was saying oh man, yeh man. then i flipped out and yelled his name and he backed off from her and i slapped him, i shouldnt have but i couldnt believe he did that! then i went hom and we came home and he denies it everything! i even talked to the sister in law there and she said that he told her that he was seperated and when they kissed he was the one who.......
2007-08-26 08:16:01 · update #1
kiss her first and then she kissed back. he still deneies it, he even denies smoking weed when i found the pipe in our bedroom and 4 of his friends said he smoked weed. he gets phisical with me to. i would leave by my self and my little girl but we have both cars under my parents name and i just cant bring one back. i have to wait tell this weekend. im the type of girl who tries hard to be a good mom and try to have a good family and go to church and not be trashy, that is how i grew up and my husband has all trashy friends and is bringing him down and i feel like white trash. i never do the things i love to do anymore, im leaving him i told him its over and im signing the papers when i get home. he is still lying about everything. why? do you think he is telling the truth after i saw him do things and his sister in law knows what happens also? i hate him so bad. just need help and alittle boost to make me feel alittle better
2007-08-26 08:20:19 · update #2
you need to divorce him, staying together only gives him permission to cheat on you. Get rid of this loser.
2007-08-27 08:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Reality Has A Libertarian Bias 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must be very young.....This type of drama and scenes only happen when young people get involved in serious things ..before they are ready to make commitments.
The guy is an immature idiot, and you are dumb for having chosen him in the first place. That was a bad idea- marrying him- but having a child is even worse !!! THAT was totally irresponsible and selfish...!!!
What you should do is think real hard about the bad choices you have made so far...and try to learn from them.
Drop the guy and leave...He is not ready to be a husband and a father; so use your brains and stop getting into more trouble. Hopefully you'lll have a family that will help you to get back on your feet. Start studying and get a part-time job.
Nothing is free in life...Now you have to pay the price for the bad choices you have made before. Start taking control of your life NOW and forget this man. Your kid deserves a better role model, too.
2007-08-26 09:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay what you need to do is sit him down and
have a long talk with him and let him know that
you do not and will not condone any more of his
adventorious doings with any other woman. That
will be giving him the chance that everyone should
have and if he continues or gets caught again
then you have no alternative but to seperate your
self from him and after the seperation things still
do not work out then you last recourse is to
divorce. Those are the only alternatives in order
for a marriage to work. Be strong, Be a woman,
go forward and do not let any man ruin your
happiness that you deserve in life and do not
let any man disrespect you or your marriage.
Take action where action is needed. Good luck.
2007-08-26 09:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you saw personally... Caught him on/in chat rooms dirty, whatever.... You need to make a choice.. Do you let him walk all over you..still or get a DIVORCE. Your little girl and you need to move on without him. Sounds like he hasn't growen up at all. Once a Dog...always a dog...don't lay down with the dogs, you'll catch the fleas and every other issue he has from other women.
Good luck, I'd divorce the jerk. Just how long can you blame it on the drink, or the guys, or what ever excuses he gives you.
2007-08-26 08:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Petunia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is end it right away. He's not ready for a women like you. you can do bad by your damn self. He sounds like the type of guy that wants his cake and eat it to. He know you are a good girl, and he know your not trashy, that's why he does what he do. And far as the stripper girl it was both of their faults. and i truly believe that he kissed her and she kissed back.
(some) guys are just stupid. but you should do what you got to do. If you stay with him, you gonna cry and cry and cry. if you choose to leave, you might save yourself the heartache and the pain. trust me. i been through the same thing not once but twice and the 1st guy did the same thing to me. and i left him and he was begging to come back. i didn't go back to hI'm, and im happy i didn't. so if i was you, don't go back. you can have a better life with out that dumb boy.
Good luck to you and the baby.
2007-08-26 14:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥ H☮TMAMA ♥♥♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't even need the rest of your story to know that your husband as zero respect for you. He is going to do what he wants, when he wants and without any regards to your feelings. He is a cheater and a liar. Why would you want to stay married to someone like this? I sure hope you aren't for the sake of your daughter....you are doing her a disservice by allowing her to be brought up in a home where her father does not respect her mother.
2007-08-26 08:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stop making excuses, and stop asking the same questions. You saw with your own eyes, and better than that, he left you crying. Leave!!!! God has someone better for you, the love of your life is waiting for you! Do you care about yourself? Your self esteem must be shoot to hell after all that you've been through in such a short time. It is time to leave, he is not for you!
2007-08-26 13:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to find a way to get away from him and file for a divorce. You need a lifestyle change that will prop YOU up. You have a child to think about, how do you want her to view the world?
2007-08-27 04:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bob Lahblah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was cheating, then do not stay with him. If he committed adultery on you once, then it's very likely that he's going to do it again.
I understand that it might be difficult emotionally to leave someone you're attatched to, but in the long run, he'll only end up hurting you more.
Leave him.
2007-08-26 08:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 10:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. Exactly what did your husband do other than staying out late? That part was very inconsiderate. He shouldn't be hanging out on singles sites for sure. You guys sound like you could use some marital counseling because your expectations and his behavior aren't matching.
2007-08-26 08:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋