Do you think about that or try not to..
2007-08-26 07:39:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think of it. Theres no point, you cant possibly know how you will cope. Enjoy life each day as it comes.
2007-08-26 07:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by tubbyswife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We plan for it.
There's no planning for the emotional aspect, not really, but we know where important documents are, where the current bills are, where our savings and investments are, and all that sort of stuff.
We also know what organs we're each willing to donate and what we aren't, what we want done with our remains, and other practical aspects.
At one time, we'd also agreed on which relatives would raise our kids, if needed. Now that the kids are grown, each of them also knows our wishes and what room to find the important papers in.
It's just a part of facing reality. You're both going to die, and probably not at the same moment. Why not ease the way for the surviving spouse as much as you're able?
2007-08-26 07:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it's just one of those things you can't change can you? It's important to plan for it as far as a will and custody arrangements if you have children. I'm in my 30's but still we have life insurance, our wills are done, including our burial plots. We've discussed with our kids who they will go with and why we made that decision.
Hopefully death will be far off and we will have raised our children by then but it's not something we can avoid. We all know and have comfort in the fact that death is not the end, we will meet again one day and then be together for eternity.
My best friend from high school lost her husband unexpectedly 2 years ago. He got a drug resistant pnuemonia, up until he got sick he was perfectly healthy. She was widowed at 32. It was a shock, but life is full of the unexpected. She misses him terribly, but they are Christian so she has faith she will see him again. She has the support of her friends and family and recently started to date again.
My cousin in her 40's lost her husband to cancer 5 years ago, she is getting remarried this fall in October. She never expected to find love again and didn't even look for it. But the doctor she worked for fell in love with her and she is very happy. She loves her first husband deeply but knows he would want her to be happy.
You plan for death, make practical arrangements and then you just need to enjoy the time you have with one another, don't waste your time arguing or worrying about petty things or things you can't change. Just enjoy the love you have and being together.
2007-08-26 08:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course we think about it. You never know what and when is going to happen... It hurts even to think about it, and it's very difficult to imagine, we depend on each other so much! But, as some of the other contributors said, we are more or less prepared, knowing where all the important documents are etc. Anyway, we try to do our best and to live our lives fully, not wasting time for quarrelling over petty things. It's something we have talked about with my husband recently as his cousin died in a car accident, he was only 35, our age, left his wife and two small girls...
2007-08-26 22:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by emadrid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iv been with my husband 8 yrs this yr and he is 10 yrs older then me, I'm 26, hes 36. i have thought about this many times and it brings tears rushing! Hes a speed freak in his car so every time he leaves for work i wonder weather i will get that dreaded phone call! We have a baby, 1 in a month today which brings it even more tears rushing at the thought of it! its a horrible thought that inevitably one day i will face this situation.
2007-08-26 07:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by clairelington 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW...having JUST gone thro that..its something your dont even consider..and its devastating when it happens..I guess it hurts when there is a warning (illness/something) but out of the blue Man it HURTS !!! as for coping..ya dont..well I dont..just go thro each day on auto pilot..time heals all ? NO it dont...pain will fade in time ? NO it wont....if you are soal mates and the loss is out of the blue.. aint nothing gonna stop that pain ever.
2007-08-26 21:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by barbaraminor@btinternet.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is 50 and we have been together 4 years and married for 2 i pray that we will have many years together and wish we had met 20 years earlier. i love him dearly he is my best friend. Yes i often think about it what i would do on my own, its a horrible thought but yes it will happen one day
2007-08-27 10:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would hard especially if it is death..if separation feels like you have lost apart of you,I cant begin to imagine how awful losing a partner by death you feel like.one has to know that life has to go on especially if children are involved.if you let your wall crumble the rest of your world around will too.it will take a lot of endurance and strength from your family and close friends.
2007-08-26 07:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by schats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think about it. I have been married for 2 years (but we've been together for 5 1/2). We're in our mid-twenties so I don't really think about death. I know that it can happen any time, no matter how old you are..... but I guess I'm just going to let it hit me like a ton of bricks if it happens. As far as me going first, I hope that doesn't happen, because I know that my husband will not make it without me.
2007-08-26 07:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by princesspink 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I try not to think of it.When i do i get this funny feeling of one day my hubby might just leave me.I cant image life without him,hes my soul mate.Me and hubby have been married 23 years now and i pray its many more.
2007-08-26 07:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by lady bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋