WE DONT EVEN COMMUNICATE MY HUSBAND SIT'S IN ONE ROOM BYE HIS SELF I AND I SIT IN THE OTHER ROOM AND WE DONT EVEN LAUGH TOGETHER. OR ANYTHING IT'S LIKE WE LIVE TOGETHER BUT DONT TALK ONLUY HI AND BYE.
2007-08-26 08:45:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to talk to him, remembering those sweet nothings you had share before and why everything had changed? If possible to get back and stay as sweet you we're, go on. If not, give time to each other his/her own space.
I've experienced this before, I'd noticed that my husband was change he is not the man I met and love before and then I've found out that there was a third party. I ask him, is there anything wrong with me? I told him, he better let me go and before he took another woman. Or else he had to choose.
2007-08-26 09:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by jaja15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are not in love with one another, it'sthat simple. You are in what I call a contest marriage. You are married because everyone else you know is married and it was getting about that time to marry since you had dated for so long. So to be apart of the contest,you guys had a wedding and all of the fluff that lasts in marriages for 1-2 years but after all of that crap is over... now it's down to the real business of living together and loving one another for the rest of your lives...and you guys just don't have that together.
Get a divorce.
2007-08-26 15:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then do something to fix it. If you are unhappy with the way things are then take yourself across the room, sit next to your husband and give him a great big kiss. Turn the TV off and talk about your days or reminisce about silly things you did while you were dating.
2007-08-26 15:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds kinda like when you eat the same thing over and over every day. Well eventually ya get tired of eating the same thing. So what do ya do? Either one or two things. Ya ca try adding some new spice to change the flavor or get something differant to eat entirely.It would probably be best to discuss how you feel with him. He may feel the same way.
2007-08-26 15:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by ducksixty8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate.....you are basically like to ships in the night just passing.....this is not a marriage but more like two room mates living in the same house.
2007-08-26 15:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married (and engaged) person I know. So try and hear me out...
It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unlovingly towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.
If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...
"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).
As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."
I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.
If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!
2007-08-27 01:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to get any better, if you don't try and fix it, talk to him, sit near him instead of the other side of the room!
2007-08-26 15:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look back and Identify when this all started to go wrong. As you represent half of this marriage what did you do to make things better?
2007-08-26 15:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably bored of each other, cause you don't spice thongs up. Go out together, rent movies and have fun watching them. Ask him how was his day at work, tell him about yours, etc.
2007-08-26 16:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you are not husband and wife. You are roommates.
You both need to talk. You need to find out what lead to this situation and are you willing to make sacrifices (both of you) to get out of it.
Good Luck.
2007-08-26 15:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋