His old car that I traded in for was an 8 year old car that is practically about to break down. I bought him a used Audi A4 and he is very mad at me. It was suppose to be a surprise gift and that is the reason why I did it. His old car was in his name only and the new car is in my name. Am I wrong or his he?
2007-08-26 15:14:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe you should have asked first because maybe he had fond memories of that car or in that car
2007-08-26 15:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by salimdist 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
the old car was already paid off? and is the Audi A4 paid off as well or do you still have to do more payments toward that one? perhaps that could be the problem? I am just guessing, that could be the reason. If this is the case he has the right to be mad, after all the car was on his name and even though it is a nice surprise, would have been better if you didn't trade his and just bought him a new one.
Other thing, do you think that car is the style he likes? I hope you thought about him and not only you when you choose the car.
Anyway, the damage has been done, he'll get over it...and I can assure you that when he drives that beauty he'll love it (I used to own an Audi A4 2001 about two years ago but had to trade it when my fourth child was born =( ....) Good Luck!!
2007-08-26 22:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are wrong. That is much too large a purchase to make without consulting your husband. He has a right to be involved in your financial decisions. He's deployed and probably feels very left out of what is going on at home and your actions probably left him feeling even more left out. If you only did this yesterday, there is a possibility that you can undo it. Go to the dealership where you traded and explain the situation. Although you are married, if the car was only in his name you might not have had the legal right to do what you did--you might want to point that out to the dealer and attempt to have them undo the damage that you've done. If you can't undo it, apologize to your husband and let him know that in the future, you'll make your surprises a little less surprising.
2007-08-26 22:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by muriel12 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if he did that to you?
if he took something that belonged to you (maybe your worked very hard for it it was your first car), and then sold for a car that's inhisname, like u don't even exist ! Wthats exactly what u did! You made him a non-person.
When I saw the first line of the topic I thought how sweet, and then once I read it thought man is she controlling! I hope he can forgive you this, this is a major faux pas!!
2007-08-26 23:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by lookinggood445 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't have...
1. He's deployed and has no need for it
2. He might have liked his beat up car
3. Your name is on it, instead of his so its basically your car
it was a nice gesture but you should have gotten some input from him. You should have gave him hints on the phone like..honey I think you need a new car, do you like your car, what if I go look at cars? Whatever his response is..then you should have went from there
Did you buy it for him or yourself? Since your name is on it then you should pay the payments
2007-08-26 22:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Krys 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You traded his car that was registered in his name only?
How did you manage to do that? I thought the registered owner only could sign the vehicle disposal notice.
Was this done through some shonky back yard dealer - or a private deal?
No wonder he is very upset. I'd be more than very upset!!
2007-08-26 22:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a lose/lose situation. There is no right or wrong answer here. Honestly, a car is a big purchase and yes, your hubby should have been involved in that decision.
If his car was in his name only and you traded it in, then what you did was illegal. You should have waited until he was home and allowed him to be part of this decision.
I understand that you wanted to suprise him, but you also need to understand where he is coming from.
2007-08-26 22:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
those are the kind of decisions COUPLES make. If it was more than a few hundred dollars it's something you're supposed to do together. How did you sell his car if it was only in his name? Why did you register the new car only in YOUR name?
Sounds like there's more to this than your letting on.
2007-08-26 22:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sarge1572 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
So you purchase him a car that he won't even be using? Yeah I'd be kind of upset as well. You had no right to get rid of HIS car without his permission to begin with and if it is HIS car why isn't it in HIS name? You're way wrong.
2007-08-26 22:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A financial decision of that kind should always be made by both husband and wife. Also you should have put his name only or included in the title.
2007-08-26 23:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were kind of wrong for having it put in your name I know marraige is a joint thing but a guy has to have something. But in all other reason he will get over being mad. The car was a piece of crap right? He will realize this and move on.
2007-08-26 22:45:18 · answer #11 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋