My husband at night?? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY.?

Question

Alright, this may sound silly but owell. Sometimes, when we are asleep at night, my husband will try to have sex with me in his sleep. This happens A LOT!! I try to have sex with him like 2 times a week, he gets home late every night, an Im busy taking care of kids all day...I have 2...Im 21, so we're both very exhausted, an making sure that the house is clean, an all that. But I dont know, is this normal? He says that he will wake up and hes doing it. It makes me feel, sort of uncomftorble. Ive told him this. We dont know what to do. He says that he will just sleep on the couch, an I dont want that. I find it soo so difficult to sleep without him. Any advice for us??? Its posing a problem...

C'mon people...Im a real person here. I dont want to have sex every fricken night. I have 2 children under the age of 2, an Im exhausted at night time. I NEED MY SLEEP..lol..yeah it does bother me, because when we engage in sex I want to feel like we are making love, not him using me to get one off. I know hes my husbad, but I have my limits too. I deserve them. No, hes not mean or forceful, an I have woke him up. But Im sick of it....wakin him up an saying hey, knock it off!!

Answer 1

I've done that in my sleep before. (& I'm a woman).. but not all the time. It had nothing to do with whether I was getting enough sex... I was asleep for God's sake. (disagreeing with other posters)
Just wake him up right away.. before you are awakened completely..... roll over and go back to sleep.
Or maybe you could put a pillow between him and you.
Unless he has always done this... it probably won't go on forever.

Answer 2

Your 21 and have 2 kids you look after every day so your tired and dont bug him for sex more then twice a week .

1st up he cant help his body reacts during sleep to wanting sex its his sub-conscious telling him it wants it , I know because my husband and I used to do to it each other as well and depending on how tired we were would depend on if the person being touched rolled away or let it happen.

How you react depends on if it stop's or keep's going on when he sleep's , and girl to be honest your 21 and got 2 babies you may not want it now but when you hit 30 and your sub-conscious starts doing it to him and he roll's away or wakes you up and says "Hey knock it off", then you know you have probs.

Live a little and enjoy because as I found out the time's we made love from him starting during sleep or me starting during sleep or the few time's we both actually started it while both being asleep was the best love making we ever had.And I am 35 and raising 7 kids.

Answer 3

Actually that IS fairly common. My husband has done it and I've been with other men who have done it.
So there's nothing wrong with your hubby - except maybe a bit of sexual frustration.
Try having sex 3-4 times a week rather than just your two times a week for a while and I'm sure you'll notice that he's no longer sleep sexing you.
I know that it's difficult to fit in quality alone time with your hubby when you have so much else going on - but if you want to avoid him sleeping on the couch it may be better to try and make some extra time for the two of you.
And as I said - mu husband has done it - did it quite frequently when we were first together 12 years ago - but now he's older and mellowed out quite a bit and those situations rarely happen these days - so take comfort in knowing that most likely his sex drive will mellow out as he gets older!

EDIT: Okay now someone on the second page is suggesting that your hubby go on a drug that's a commonly known addictive substance. Please do not encourage your husband to take any substances that he could easily become addicted to. You think you have problems now...

Answer 4

Its normal, me as a husband have awaken or tried to awaken my wife in the middle of the night. Sometimes I would actually wake up during inter coarse. Sometimes I would wake up after getting smacked in the head. I have been married for 13yrs and this phenomenon still happens but vary rarely now. I would say in the first 3yrs of marriage this would happen at least once a week if not more, but now it may happen a couple of times a year. I know its hard too believe, but you can ask my wife if you would like the man is not faking it unless he is a real ***. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I have heard of this befoer seriously.. it is something that a doctor could possibly help you with, or could he be bc he's taking some sleep meds.. some have these side effects. I was engaged to a guy that used to do the same thing though & it was so annoying.. it didnt happen every night but often, he would even be in a dead sleep and joacking off.. WOW that was freakin crazy.. I would hit him and be like wake up fool.. of course he never did it was strange. What does he say about it?

Answer 6

it may look you 2 are growing to be aside emotionally. His answer is to easily forget approximately relating to the subject and desire it gets greater suitable. regrettably if he's no longer prepared to purpose, there is not any longer lots you're able to do. i comprehend my husband is maximum receptive as quickly as we've long gone to mattress and it quite is dark and we are comfortable. it somewhat is whilst maximum of our subject concerns get observed without the arguing. we've in no way slept in diverse rooms to keep away from one yet another even with the shown fact that, so I"m uncertain how he could be. All i will say is attempt it and notice. do no longer accuse him of something or play the sufferer once you talk over with him the two. Telling him you're youthful and need to have affection from him could look like an attack. substitute into he this way earlier or is this somewhat new? i comprehend a jointly as in the past my husband and that i had some comparable subject concerns too. all of it stemmed from a remark I made as quickly as I had some too many to drink. i do no longer even undergo in recommendations announcing it, yet he held onto it for a pair of years earlier he finally got here clean with it. we truthfully pronounced divorce and it finally got here out. Then we desperate to in no way permit some thing fester like that returned. perhaps he has a similar subject. some thing is bothering him, he's merely afraid to speak up.

Answer 7

You need to find someone to take care of your children and your house once in a while so you can devote some energy to your husband. I know it's hard, but it's going to be much harder when your marriage ends in divorce, now isn't it? Maybe if you made the effort to have sex with him when he's awake, he won't be trying to get it in his sleep. And by the way, he ain't sleeping. He's a man and he needs to have sex with his wife. Yes, you need your sleep. I understand. But a husband isn't going to put up with that. You need to learn this now at your young age otherwise you are going to have a very hard time of it. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings here, but I'm also not going to spare them because you need to hear the truth.

Answer 8

I know you say he awakes in the middle of doing this, but try to wake him some way you both agree to, when you talk to him about it. Of course, you will discuss the proper way to do that. But sleeping in separate rooms isn't the answer. He just wants to make love to you. Not a bad thing. Maybe he just needs to not be so tired when going to bed. Or maybe you both need time together to snuggle before you call it a night. I wouldn't say this is a major issue, just one that needs to be resolved. It could be worse, trust me. Best of luck!

Answer 9

Leave him alone, he's a man trying to fck his wife, isn't that's partly what marriage was designed for???
Obviously you don't want it like he does, just let him get off and go back to bed.
By the way, this is very normal, most guys would prefer sex this way, it's simple and easy and they would love their wives twice as much if you women would wake up and realize how to keep your man happy but you won't and that's what girlfriends are for ;-).

That's the problemwith you women honey, youdon't understand that mostguys just aren't into the making love crap especially after you have been mariied for a while, anyway you size it up, making love eventually turns into screwing. He's trying to release some tensionand you want to re live snow white and the prince. I'm glad my wife likes to fck... I couldn't imagine palying these silly as games with you women after being married for years....Jesus Christ!

Answer 10

You know I have times where I will hold a whole conversation when I am sleeping. My question to you is he hurting your or being forceful when he does this. If he isn't then maybe you guys can seek some kind of medical advice either way that may be needed. I wish you the best of luck