Marriage & Divorce - 21 August 2007

I'm falling in love with someone else at work who is married with two small children. I'm married with no children. After 5 years together, and more and more each day I'm starting to feel like my husband and I have nothing in common. I often feel like the man and woman in the house, raising a kid. I do almost everything that it really irritates me sometimes. I tell my husband this, but he has not really improved.

Now, I meet someone who is just as ambitious as me and seems to have what I've been looking for. He definitely seems interested in me as well. Actually, it was him that first started.

If I break my marriage and his marriage because I've fallen in love, is that wrong? Isn't it more wrong to stay with someone I'm not truly in love with? I just hate the thought of divorced parents and their kids.

2007-08-21 15:17:38 · 42 answers · asked by kekeke 1

My boyfriend and I dated since we were 22. We are now 27 (not married). I'm pregnant. We know that we both love each other very much. How do I tell him? I'm really scared that he might run off from me now that I am pregnant. How did you do tell your husband/boyfriend?

2007-08-21 15:13:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think it's happening to me right now with someone at work. He's married and I'm married. :eek:!!!

2007-08-21 15:10:52 · 11 answers · asked by kekeke 1

And no...I would NEVER cheat on my husband....I'm just looking for other people's input on the matter.

Is it kissing?
Surfing adult friend finder type sites?
Flirting?
Sex?

What would be the minimal thing your significant other could do that you would consider cheating?

2007-08-21 15:10:22 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend's pregnant and I'm very much in love with my girlfriend. We are both 24. She means the whole world to me. I was planning to marry her when I hit 28, and start a family at 30. I would never give her up for anything. We've been dating since we were 16. I love her more than anything.

2007-08-21 15:08:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son and daughter in law are getting a divorce. He walked out on her to go live with another woman (for which I'll never forgive him}.
He keeps changing his mind on what he says he will allow my daughter in law to do. First of all he told her she could keep the house, then he told her she needed to go home to S.C. ( they live in TX near us), now he is telling her she can't go until after the divorce because she is preventing him from seeing thier daughter if she moves.
She has never stopped him from seeing her and never will, he is just too much of a scum bag to be bothered to arrange visitation. I feel she should be with her family which is what she wants to do and I'm prepared to help her anyway I can. I have told my son to stop being such an idiot and stop threatening her with attorneys (which he can't afford anyway). He will not be supporting her if she does stay in the house and we can't afford to support 2 households. Am I ok to help her leave? No attorneys are involved.

2007-08-21 15:06:53 · 6 answers · asked by Sandtone 3

My husband hit me about a month ago. He is, I think, an alcoholic, and this isnt a common thing for him. I left and went to stay with my parents. Because I am staying 5 hours away from him, I have brought his son up to see him for a week. Since I got here, he hasnt had a drink at all, and has been really sweet to me, saying all the things i have always wanted him to say (i love you, your beautiful, all the things a girl wants to hear) My parents want me and my son to stay with them, my husband wants us to stay with him, even offering to move closer to my parents so i can still see them as often as i want, I dont know what I want to do, our son has been so happy the past few days with his dad (he is 5 months old) and I like seeing that, but i am still scared. What should i do?

2007-08-21 15:03:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

As a woman, Is it better to marry someone who you are in love with, whom you have a wonderful sex life with, and get along perfectly most of the time, who has no money, 2 ex-wives and 2 children and cannot provide for you OR with someone who you kinda love, have a ok sex life, has tons of money, and can provide for you forever. Basically whats more important love and no money or like and tons of money? Real responses only please.

2007-08-21 15:01:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My man of 6 years left me 6 weeks ago for a younger co-worker. He has a book he said he need for work and a few t-shirts over my house. I tried to call him today, he picked up his phone must have seen my number and hung up. I was so angry. I left him a message telling him " it ain;t all that serious, just tell me wherer to take your stuff or if you want to meet to give your stuff back, if not it will go into the trash. I was angry how childish.
I love this man he broke my heart and he ignores me.
Sad and lonely.

2007-08-21 15:01:12 · 50 answers · asked by maria s 2

She says she want a divorce. I told her I would not ask her if this is really what she wants because I don't think she can answer that. So I asked if it is really what she has decided to do even if she doesn't know if it what she wants. Now she wants time to figure it out before making that step. She wants me to behave as a room mate and not a husband until then. How long do I give her to make this decision before I make it for her? I know that's not a lot of information to go on.

2007-08-21 14:57:14 · 18 answers · asked by Rick 5

If I believe that myself and my infant child staying in the house with my husband who has recently shown himself to be unstable (not yet diagnosed, though) is not in the best interest of our baby, is it OK for me to move her with me to a safe environment which is in another state even if he is demanding I bring her back? There is no court order involved. I simply brought her with me to my family's house. Is there anything legally wrong with me having her here? I said he can come see her here while my family is here and he said he's going to. Does anything protect me from him just running away with her while he's here? Please help?!

Also, he denies that anything he did actually happened, so I have no "proof."

2007-08-21 14:43:43 · 8 answers · asked by Ineedanswers 1

Do you have any suggestions that might be encouraging for her during this difficult time? We want her to feel her worth.

2007-08-21 14:42:30 · 5 answers · asked by USAloyal 1

2007-08-21 14:28:36 · 1 answers · asked by kat 1

We were together a year. he seems fine without me..even heard hes already talking to someone else...its only been 3 weeks. One day he told me how much he loved me and how he couldnt wait to move in together...the next he says he doesnt and doesnt want to me with me anymore. How do u usually cope after a breakup? ITs getting pretty unbearable at times,
I think I need to see a therapist? Would that help?

2007-08-21 14:18:25 · 24 answers · asked by mimi 1

2007-08-21 14:17:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

alright. I have just starting working full time again, I work 12 hour mid shifts and am picking OT as much as possible. my check this friday will be for 107 hours!

MY husband will not cook food, will not go to the grocery store, will not help with house work. I do it ALL.

I get so angry! On my days off I have to clean the house, do the grocery shopping, plan a weeks worth of meals and prepare them BEFORE I go to work. I do the laundry.. and if I throw the dry clothes on the bed and ask him to fold them... he "forgets" and piles the now heavily wrinkled unfolded clothes on the dresser.

We have only had sex 5 times since September 05! (and that was a chore too)

I get tired of pulling as much work or MORE outside of the house, and being expected to do it all at home too.

Does any other women put up with this?

We dont do anything together anymore, we dont even go see the same movies.

I know hes not cheating, hes always at home.
I am lonely in my marriage

2007-08-21 14:12:09 · 22 answers · asked by grapelady911 5

2007-08-21 14:11:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it too late to change one's mind? The babysitter runs the house already so I see it as a smooth transition. Will my daughter notice the difference or is she too young?

2007-08-21 14:07:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has not been sleeping lately and asked me to make him dinner and when it was ready he was dead asleep. Now its 8pm and he is snoring away. I would want to be wakened up so I could sleep for work but at the rate he's going he might sleep till morning. Should I wake him up or let him sleep :)

2007-08-21 14:05:07 · 10 answers · asked by Toni 3

2007-08-21 13:59:39 · 9 answers · asked by Red 2

2007-08-21 13:50:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am engaged to get married in May, my future mother in law puts me down, she laughs at me, makes fun of my looks and my size, calls me a mistake, calls me uneducated even though i am going to college for nursing, and that is only the start of the words that are said and done to me... She only does this when it is just the 2 of us... she has not went to the level of saying it in front of her son yet.. I tell my boyfriend and he dont listen to me, he says your reading it all wrong, just ignore her.. What can i do to get my boyfriend to believe me when i tell him what she does to me? what can i do to stop this?

2007-08-21 13:44:45 · 24 answers · asked by lady1 1

I am female married in name only

2007-08-21 13:43:14 · 5 answers · asked by Janice 1

This happened years ago, I was in a car accident, I spent almost 1 year in the hospital, mostly rehabilitation, I have two children, while I was in the hospital my wife met a patient at the hospital and moved him into the apartment with my children, she got pregnant, not by me. She has so totally destroyed any part of a family we had. I have so much pain and so much hate inside of me . I haven't seen my babies in 16 years, God, I hate her so much.

2007-08-21 13:41:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband goes to work at 6:45 am. I see him about 5 mins before leaves. He gets home at 5:45 pm. He then has dinner, watches TV and/or reads a book. Then by 8:30 or 9:00 he is sawing logs on the couch. While he is reading or watching TV he is totally obsorbed in it and most times when I try to talk to him, he doesn't even know I'm talking.

Weekends he does his yard work or rides his dirt bike.

I say we don't spend enough time together. At least "quality" time together. He says that he is here every night. He considers his reading/watching TV on the couch across the room from me to be "time together".

Do you consider it time together to just be in the same room even if you aren't engaged with each other?

2007-08-21 13:38:08 · 14 answers · asked by Crunchy Sweet 4

i have been with my fiance for 6 years we have been engaged for 2 of the 7 years i have a 7 year old daughter he has been in our lives since she was 18 months old. we practicaly live together and i am growing impaitent waiting for him to marry me every time i try to discuss plans he becomes irritated,says he will marry me but when i ask him when he can never give me a date or even a year. i met someone else we have been seeing one another we have not slept together yet but know we will soon, he is already talking marriage and family. after 4 months. what should i do?? leave and move on or stay and wait, my daughter has not net the 2nd guy yet i dont want to confuse her. the 2nd guy is paitent and understands my delay but he doesw not know about my fiance please be nice and not juvinille with your answer i really need help i love my fiance but i dont want to wait anymore i am now 36 yrs old

2007-08-21 13:33:50 · 16 answers · asked by angelswife 3

Found out my ex wife was having an affair for six months prior to her asking for a divorce.She was the most sincere trust worthy woman i had ever met,so i thought.Turns out she hooked up with an old fling of hers going back some twenty years.He is married and has eight kids. He is paying all her exspenses,rent etc. While his wife can't put food on the table for there kids.What has happened to this thing called marriage,commitment,till death do us part. She has destroyed what little hope i ever had of being in a trusting relationship.She tells me its Gods will,destiny that they are together again.What about the kids ?

2007-08-21 13:04:12 · 19 answers · asked by Rodger M 1

2007-08-21 12:55:29 · 12 answers · asked by odandme 6

I am lonely and I know its all been said before but it hurts
I am a married man not looking an affair I dont believe in playing around I just want to talk to someone who will try to understand
I havant had sex for years and I love my wife to bits though she has a hell of a temper we have had some good times
help me

2007-08-21 12:54:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-21 12:53:30 · 3 answers · asked by julianne 1