I tried to call my ex, he hung up on me?

Question

My man of 6 years left me 6 weeks ago for a younger co-worker. He has a book he said he need for work and a few t-shirts over my house. I tried to call him today, he picked up his phone must have seen my number and hung up. I was so angry. I left him a message telling him " it ain;t all that serious, just tell me wherer to take your stuff or if you want to meet to give your stuff back, if not it will go into the trash. I was angry how childish.
I love this man he broke my heart and he ignores me.
Sad and lonely.

Answer 1

Why do you feel that it is your duty to get his stuff back to him? Let the dirt bag come get his own crap. If he hasn't gotten it in a month....throw it out with the garbage.

Answer 2

Being Sad and lonely, is on U! U must have some friends or family that can keep U company for a little while. This former guy of Ur's....did he want U because U were sad and lonely?? He left U, not U left him!! Make an attitude change and go out and have some fun!! Don't let him see or hear that U are feeling down!! Right now, it sounds like he really doesn't care...even if he sees U, there is no point to the fact he left U! Do U really want him back because there is a possibility that he will feel sorry for U?! Heck NO! For him to get back with U, he needs to GET STRAIGHT!! No more wishy washy, whatever!! So what! U have some of his stuff, if he is serious about leaving U, just drop the stuff off at his parents house or a friends house and leave a message on his phone or send him a card to let him know where U left it!
I understand that U love him, but he must not love U as much as U love him to do this to U!! Sooooo....
If he sees U can get over him so easily there just might be a change in his attitude, if not Ur attitude change just might attract a better guy!! And U will Definitely NOT be Sad and lonely!!

Have a Good Time!! Don't Worry, BE HaPpY!!

Think about it!!

Good LUCK!!

Answer 3

I'd either pitch it or leave it in a bag on the porch. That was very disrespectful and childish.

You need to check on this: Whether or not you two were actually married, if you lived together as a couple for 6 years, you may have to get a divorce just to get your financial records straight... especially if you shared any accounts. He can very well run up some major debts and get you stuck with the bills. Other than that, you may also be entitled to 1/2 of any assets for the past 6 years.

To handle a divorce in as quick and cheap a fashion as possible, I would suggest dropping by the local bookseller and picking up the do-it-yourself divorce guide for your state. It is a quick read and very useful. Some include a CD-ROM with all the forms, or you can download the PDF forms from the state website.

Answer 4

Oh sweetie! I know how you feel! You said the right thing though. If he wants his stuff back, you'll give it to him, all he needs to do is let you know where/when. But give him his stuff back, you don't want to look petty.

He sounds like a jerk. A cheater is never a good mate. It probably won't last with the new girl. Once the bloom is off the rose, he'll either be back or move on to another girl. You didn't lose that much although I know you can't see that now.

It will be ok, believe me. Just remember that you are a woman who is worthy of love and affection and if this man can't see it, he's an idiot.

All the best!

Answer 5

I have seen this before. Best thing is to throw his things in the trash. Do things to stay busy and never answer your phone when he calls. Believe it or not he will be calling again after his little fling doesn't work out and it WONT. Men that like that do not deserve the light of day. He could at least told you before hand that he needed to get out of the relationship before he went screwing around. What a dog. You love him but he loves something else and that is his ego. Ignorant and selfish is all he is. Sorry you are going through it. Stay positive and be strong! You will be better off in a while when you see that he is just a user and a loser.

Answer 6

Wow, thats ignorant! Do you know if it was him that hungup or was it the other? Either way, if he doesn't give you the time of the day...it's his loss not yours. I'm sure you can do better then that. Next time he wants something from you, ignore him as he did you. Don't let him know that your upset about this whole situation, act like it was the best thing that could have happened. If he knows you're weak he'll use it against you and sorry but you don't want that. So good luck and hope everything goes well. AND I hope if he does come running back you kick him to the curb like he did you.

Answer 7

You should be thankful he's out of your life. You don't need someone to treat you bad, you deserve better and should give yourself more credit than to take sh** from an ex. Since you did try to give him back his stuff and he hung up on you, then just throw his stuff out in the garbage and all the memories you've had with him along with his worthless stuff. He was childish and you have the right to be angry, but being angry means you still care. So for your own well-being, move on.

Answer 8

Yup, sad and lonely, and better off. The sad and lonely will pass. Since you've seen his childish behavior for what it is, you now know this is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Learn from this situation. Was he a jerk while you were with him and you let it go? Accommodated him? You spent 6 years on a dud. Figure out how to raise your standards and make sure you don't get stuck in this situation again. Sad and lonely is tough, I hate it. But I hate the idea of you wasting your life with this loser more.

Answer 9

Well, you don't say if he was your husband, so I'm guessing that he was a live-in boyfriend. I don't see anything wrong with what you did. I wouldn't be calling him and chasing him around to give back his stuff. Box it up and call and leave the message that he can come over and get the stuff at 6p on Friday night. Otherwise, at 6:15 all the boxes will go on the step.

Answer 10

A book and a tee-shirt after six years? You don't want to know where he lives or who she is. Throw the book and tee-shirt in the garbage, and girl YOU MOVE, before this loser wants to use the excuse of a tee-shirt and book as a reason to reconnect. Have you ever heard the expression there are lots of fish in the sea?... hell girl, there are more fish out there that own more than a tee-shirt, and a book, probably better looking, and smarter too. THROW HIM BACK, FISH FOR ANOTHER.

Answer 11

Well, first of all you need to heal from this. He is done and over you, thats his loss. You pining over the hurt of it all is senseless, he is clearly moving on. I am sorry about your hurt heart. You don't need to call him. Send it to him in the mail, let him be. The more you are trying to hang on, the more you are setting yourself for more hurt. He moved on. Its best you do the same. Pine over him but let him go. He just lost something good. Thats his mistake, not yours. Your job is to use this experience and learn from it, and move on and be the happiest you can be in your life. Let no man, put you under. Don't hold the book and tshirts hostage in order to get time alone to talk to him. Let this go. Send it to him in the mail. He is not worth it. You are a better person and know how to let go, so do it and move on with your life.