heartbroken..and how to cope?

Question

We were together a year. he seems fine without me..even heard hes already talking to someone else...its only been 3 weeks. One day he told me how much he loved me and how he couldnt wait to move in together...the next he says he doesnt and doesnt want to me with me anymore. How do u usually cope after a breakup? ITs getting pretty unbearable at times,
I think I need to see a therapist? Would that help?

Answer 1

go see a therapist...it might help. Try just talking to friends...going out again...and take it slow. Breakups are hard...go at your own pace.

Answer 2

Heartbreaks are hard to deal with but not impossible! I have been through some in my past, It hurts like hell when you see that the other person doesn't seem like they are in pain and sad bout the breakup. People say that guys get over relationships faster than we women do. Thats really not fair to us because We're the ones thinking about them and wondering how hes doing and what hes doing? While hes having a blast probably with someone else not even thinking about you! Some guys don't take things seriously and they don't know what to do! Going to see a Therapist would be good but having your family and friends with you is the most important thing of all! Just pray to GOD everyday and ask him for strength and wisdom! Every thing happens for a reason and God never gives you anything that you cannot handle he knows your weakness and your strengths. Remember "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!" You Have The Power that GOD gave us women to SURVIVE!"

Answer 3

Therapy couldn't possibly hurt and you just might gain some insight that will help you get past this. I know it's not easy and it can take time. Your best bet would be patience. Three weeks may seem a long time, especially with what you're going through right now, but really, don't expect to bounce back for a while. Find a distraction. I would suggest an art class of some kind. First of all, you'll learn something new, and you may find a creative outlet to express your feelings, which can be quite cathartic.

Answer 4

Mimi, if you think talking to a therapist would help, then please do so.

We all cope with loss differently. What worked for me was to take the time to analyze who I am & get comfortable with being by myself. I am *so* much happier now than I was when the breakup happened.

It sounds like your breakup is really hitting you hard. Please, remember that you are an awesome human being. Seek out a therapist (or even a close friend) that you can talk this through with.

Best to you!

Answer 5

I think a therapist would help. When it gets unbearable, there are numbers you can call. I did a search on yahoo answers and found a few things I listed below. Even if you're not suicidal, they can help you cope.

1-800-SUICIDE
(1-800-784-2433)
LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
Depression Hotline: [phone]
You may also call 1-800-784-2433 or 1-800-273-8255 from anywhere in the U.S.

Answer 6

It's only been 3 weeks, still FRESH, give it time if after a couple of months you still feel this way then worry. In the mean time go out with friends, have fun, enjoy not having to call and explain why you'll be late or why you are so TIRED (from dancing) for sex. He will eventually see what he lost, but by then you will be with the NEW Mr. PERFECT. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Go to the book store, find a good book on how to deal with break ups or something that calls your name. buy it, go home and start your own therapy. I'm sure your friends are tired of hearing you cry about him. All a therapist is going to do it take your money and listen to you cry. Its actually a good thing he broke up with you after a short year. Now you can move on and find someone better for you. When one door closes another one opens.

Answer 8

Poor mini, my boyfriend of 6 years left me 6 weeks ago for a younger co-worker, he moved in with her.
What can you do, I cry , I can't eat or sleep, I do see a therapist, however, he tells me to get busy that helps to cope with this. I can't hardly make it to work I can't concentrate and I feel your pain right in the heart.
Your ex is happy looking at and talking to other girls! He is one sorry SOB, he broke your heart. I tell myself what goes around comes around maybe its all for the best because one day you will love again so don't give up, take care of yourself, he doesn't waste one minute thinking of you why should you.
Your beautiful and caring take care be strong your not alone.

Answer 9

Boy..., well... just stay busy, visit with family, and do you have a dog? Dogs are cool. I got a real good dog :)

For whatever it's worth, this guy wasn't who you thought he was, and the sooner you understand and accept that, the better. Really though, you might want to get a dog. A puppy can be a real hand full, and then you won't have as much time to feel sorry for yourself.

Answer 10

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