My boyfriend and I dated since we were 22. We are now 27 (not married). I'm pregnant. We know that we both love each other very much. How do I tell him? I'm really scared that he might run off from me now that I am pregnant. How did you do tell your husband/boyfriend?
2007-08-21 15:13:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was afraid to tell my husband(boyfriend at the time) also. But a friend forced me to. I sat him down and asked him if he loved me and would love me no matter what. When he said yes, I said I have some news, I'm pregnant. He was in a small state of shock but he was happy. You two have been together for a while and I don't think having a baby with the woman you love would drive him away. Tell him and if he's not there for you like he should, maybe he's not worth being with anyways.
Good luck :)
2007-08-21 15:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him to a quite dinner at home and get his full attention, and have a little straightforward talk with him. No hedging anything. No softsoaping.
After 5 years of dating, you two should be on the same wavelength. You two are 27, which is the ideal time to become parents. You have your education, and have been in the work force for a while. You each should be reasonably established. Time to act like grown-ups and take responsibility.
You two need to discuss marriage and child rearing. When you made the decision to engage in intercourse, you took on this risk.
This is where he will either step up and take responsibility or you will have to make some decisions without him... those decisions include whether to carry the baby, whether to keep the baby, and if so, how much "child support" you are going to require.
2007-08-21 22:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to my first husband for 19 years. We planned all of our three children...so I couldn't wait to tell him the good news. I have been married to my current husband for over a year and yes we planned to have a baby....so once again I was excited to tell him the good news when I got pregnant. I suppose to be very honest...when you plan to have children there are no if's, and's or but's when the time comes....If your boyfriend really loves you....then why would he run off? He had a little something to do with you getting pregnant....and if he does run off...you are better off without him.
2007-08-21 22:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, there's no such thing as being afraid, look first of all the two of you see each others, and having an intimacy. Don't you think if your boyfriend don't want to have kids in the future,he already told you?? But if this doesn't work, how about talk to him one day, and have a few question about what he thinks or feel if the two of you have kids,even if the two of you are not married..
Just ask him those question,and see how he will react from it,and if he told you that having a kid one day is a blessing then your in good path, but even if he says that his not ready for it, you still need to tell him. It's not like your the only one that did it to yourself......don't hide it from him,he must know...
2007-08-21 22:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i said, guess what. i'm pregnant.
you've been together 5 yrs. i don't think he'll get scared and run. he's a grown man now. he's not a kid anymore. come on, give him a little credit. i'll bet he'll be as excited as you are. congrats!
2007-08-21 22:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. That is the first problem you face. Once you get through that them worry about what he may or may not do.
2007-08-21 22:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋