Son & Daughter in law getting divorced he's threatening her what can I do?

Question

My son and daughter in law are getting a divorce. He walked out on her to go live with another woman (for which I'll never forgive him}.
He keeps changing his mind on what he says he will allow my daughter in law to do. First of all he told her she could keep the house, then he told her she needed to go home to S.C. ( they live in TX near us), now he is telling her she can't go until after the divorce because she is preventing him from seeing thier daughter if she moves.
She has never stopped him from seeing her and never will, he is just too much of a scum bag to be bothered to arrange visitation. I feel she should be with her family which is what she wants to do and I'm prepared to help her anyway I can. I have told my son to stop being such an idiot and stop threatening her with attorneys (which he can't afford anyway). He will not be supporting her if she does stay in the house and we can't afford to support 2 households. Am I ok to help her leave? No attorneys are involved.

He's now telling her he wants to keep the furniture, which my husband and I bought for them I might add, and he has found her a used couch that she can take with her. I have told her to take the lot and if he refuses I want everything we bought back and I will sell it and send her the money! I am trying not to get as nasty as my son is through all this but I'm finding it really difficult. I know that most of what my son is doing is uttering empty threats trying to intimidate everyone. Getting a divorce here is out of the question because if she stays she will be subjected to his mental abuse ( I didn't know he was capable of so much nastiness) and I don't have room for her to stay with us. He will stop paying the bills and I can't afford to help her with her mortgage and bills as well as my own. He has told her that he is staying with this other woman who I assume has furniture of her own I really don't care. Am I in the right here? The legal site link that was given wasn't any help.

Answer 1

I think it's very honorable of you to take the side of your daughter-in-law who has done no wrong instead of just taking the side of your son just because he's your son...My parents are going through a similar situation at the moment, although no children are really involved as we are all adults and in college anyway, but my grandmother takes my dad's side just because he's her son even though he's done all the wrong, and my mom has gone above and beyond what most women would do to work the situation out in a civil manner, so anyway I just wanted to say that I thought that what you are doing is very honorable and that I'm glad to see that there are truly some people in the world who do the right thing. Good luck with everything.

Answer 2

Your jerk son is yanking her around just because he can. It takes MONEY to hire an attorney... he has to put down a retainer fee... last I checked, that was over a thousand dollars. B.S. and bluster doesn't account for anything.

You can't work in the dark. Hit the bookstore and get the latest "do it yourself" divorce guide for Texas... has a lot of good information in it. Very empowering. You can download the right forms from the state of Texas website. She can get the divorce -- and child support -- without hiring an attorney.

She really needs to file divorce and get herself free... handle business FIRST before heading back to SC with the kid in tow.
She is entitled to 1/2 of the assets accrued during the marriage... that includes 1/2 of the house, 1/2 of his 401K and whatever else. Hopefully she has been hanging on to any statements that have been arriving in the mail. She needs the divorce to keep from getting saddled with any debts he might decide to run up.
In the meantime, she needs to change the locks on the house to keep him from plundering everything.
She will probably need help to keep him from stealing the kid... I think you will be most valuable in this aspect.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You have a right to help her. He might be mad but, you know whats going on and, see what is happening. It is a sad thing I am glad you are trying to stick up for her cause her family is so far away.

Answer 4

You sound like a strong woman who knows right from wrong and is willing to admit that your son is wrong. This doesn't mean you don't love him, just that you see his faults and aren't willing to condone them. Good for you. Do what is best for your grand-daughter.

Answer 5

Help her as though she's your own daughter far away from you in a dead-end relationship.

Do unto others as you want done unto you

Answer 6

Ask a lawyer at this website.

www.freeadvice.com