Marriage & Divorce - 21 August 2007

but you love him really, its just that you are growing apart and the love you used to feel has faded and isnt enough anymore?

2007-08-21 08:28:16 · 41 answers · asked by D&D 1

2007-08-21 08:28:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

and he left his wife and family for you...how would you feel about him lying to his ex wife? He lied to his ex wife about the timing of his vacation so that he would not have to bring his son. Of course, he would never admit that - even to himself!

2007-08-21 08:19:07 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am happily married, not looking to cheat, but sometimes when I have a slow day at work, I tend to get frisky. I have to fit the urges to do something naughty (chat, internet porn, etc). I have had suggestions in the past, but nothing has worked for long term. Please, I need a new list of suggestions of things to do to keep my mind (and hands) from wondering....thanks!

2007-08-21 08:10:11 · 14 answers · asked by cat 2

Ok, so how about i came out of a Tumultuous marriage that really should have never happened, ok we were together for 10 yrs before we even got married ( i know, i know, if he was like that before you married him what makes you think he will change) but guess what? now we are the best of friends . I never stopped believing in love, when i was going through it, i use to pray for god to bless me with someone that believes in love the way ido. and guess what? got my life back on track, i was going about my own business, not even concerned with meeting ANYONE, and then he fell in my lap, my answer, my dream, and sometimes i still think im dreaming, my question is that, is it somewhere that in the back of my mind that i don't think he could love me like the way he tells me, shows me, and then there are the bad thoughts and the what ifs. anyone out there who is starting over, please tell me how did you over come that feeling of hesitation and just take that big leap?

2007-08-21 08:04:13 · 21 answers · asked by luvmylilmen76 1

And emotions. Why not have them study emotional intelligence, there's so much free on the net. That's all men need, you know, to be the perfect mate. Isn't it obvious?

2007-08-21 07:58:55 · 6 answers · asked by hb12 7

I just had a baby 2 weeks ago, and I lost my pregnancy weight very fast, yes I'm 7 lbs away from my prepregnancy weight but I still don't look bad.
My neighbors were moving and hired some moving company to help them. Well I went outside to move my car from the spot that I parked in so another older neighbor could park there since it's closer to his apartment and the moving truck was blocking his spot, well I was in a pair of jeans and a white tank top that was tight. Well one of the movers decided to be vulgar and say yeah I'd hit that to one of his buddies and stared the whole time I was walking to my car, never once did I say anything to him. Well on the way back to my apartment, he decided to stare some more, it made me feel really uncomfortable. So when I came in the house I slamemd the door, hubby asked what's wrong so I told him. Well, he didn't get upset, he's just like at least you know you look good and if people didn't stare you would feel unattractive, is he right?

2007-08-21 07:51:31 · 18 answers · asked by Torey♥ 5

I have just had an argument with my ex-boyf., who broke up with me a few months ago. He wanted us to stay in contact, he was telling me that he'd be really unhappy if he lost me and could not talk to me. But I am finding this really really hard because I did not us to break up and I am really hurting still now. I cannot be in contact with him just sometimes like he imagines. We are meeting each other in a few days to talk face to face about everything, I have already booked my train ticket. However, we have just had a fight because he told me he is going to the cinema tonight. I wanted to ask him something about a job but he said he cannot talk tonight. I asked him if it is a girl and he said it's not, it's a guy. I said to him that Im sure he would not go to a cimena with a guy and to tell me the truth but he insisted it's a guy. I got upset and told hi that he's lying and he got really upset. He then texted me and told me that I should apologise to him otherwise he won't talk to me.

2007-08-21 07:44:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to know is it ok to keep old pictures of people u dated or had encounters with when your married???

2007-08-21 07:37:49 · 17 answers · asked by Flyyasever 3

Me and my husband have seperation papers which states the children will reside with me with generous visitation to him.
Over the last year and a half I have struggled finacialy the city I lived in was very expencive.
I let dad keep the kids for a week so I could figure out what to do. I didn't have enough money for rent which was due, and I was desperately trying to send my truck which was costing me a fortune in gas.
I signed a paper stating I was giving him temporary custody. That could be revoked by either parent in writing.
To make a long stroy short, my sister who lives 3 hours from where we were living, offered to let me and the kids stay with her. She would help me find a place in her home town which was way less expencive then the city we were in. So we moved here.
Well my husband did not like this idea and is now trying to file for cusdody.
My lawyer says since I left without the courts permision, technicley I abducted them.
Do you think he could gain custody?

2007-08-21 07:31:20 · 9 answers · asked by my2canadiankidz 1

I've been with my partner for 6 years and we have two children. We moved very fast in the early days, with me falling pregnant and us moving in together very quickly. Our relationship hasn't been easy, he has left me several times and been sneaky with other girls (though not actually cheated on me), and he's often said he doesn't love me and is only with me for our children etc. Despite all of this, we have had great times and I genuinely do love him and want our relationship to work, but I feel under-valued and unloved in our relationship, and my self esteem is at an all time low, because I truly believe he is only with me for the children, and if I'd have never fallen pregnant, he'd have been gone a long time ago.

Anyway, I've asked for a trial separation, because I feel I need time out to assess whether I really want to be with someone who makes me feel so unwanted and doubtful. He agreed without debate, which makes me feel my doubts are founded.

What is likely to happen?

2007-08-21 07:17:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anon 4

Is it just me or do I seem surrounded by terrible, abusive, dead end, relationships? Does anyone else out therte have a GOOD relationship?

2007-08-21 07:09:53 · 23 answers · asked by David M 6

I have a serious problem, my husband of 14 yrs has been involved emotionally with a female at his job. I found him writing notes to her in the middle of the night & now that they no longer work together I can't get him to open up with me so that this situation can have the closure I need to move forward. The whole situation was extremely devasting as any of our close friends would openly admit they were envious of the closeness / relationship we shared. I just can't seem to get past it without knowing how this could have happened but he refuses to discuss it with me. Granted we had for the 1st time in our lives together been apart b/c of our jobs 5 days & nights outta 7 & we were recovering from our seemingly healthy 3 year old being diagnosed w/ AML. I was very emotional & in hindsight very withdrawn at times but if thats indeed "why" he felt the need to develop this inappropriate relationship, why can't he just say that? I try not to think about it all but I can't stop myself??????

2007-08-21 07:06:31 · 6 answers · asked by katie-2fish 1

i feel like my husband doesn't notice me at all. i feel more like his buddy than his wife. i can't understand why. he's more interested in hanging out w/his friends than me. he tells me i look like eva mendez all the time and he finds her attractive but and i'm always told i look like gina gershon but i feel like he doesn't find me attractive

2007-08-21 07:03:30 · 37 answers · asked by coldplayfan 2

Do men honestly have a problem when their wives don't need them emotionally, physically, or spiritually anymore?
Does it bother men when their wife makes more money?

2007-08-21 07:02:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay...when I was 4 mths pregnant, moved to georgia with my sons father....he was getting abbusive and he was very controlling and jelouse...wouldn't let me have friends, get a job stuff like that...when the abuse got worse, he had pinned me up against the fridge by my throat with my 4 mth old in his hand...thats when i knew I had to get out...so the next day I went into a domestic violence shelter and stayed there for 2 nights and then my mother came to ga and we moved back to florida....I got served papers on friday 8/17/07...I talk with my attorney (bay area legal services) 8/27....I have 30 days to respond...but in the mean time...i was going to bring him to georgia for labor day weekend to see his side of the family but he is being so mean to me...he gave me 60 dollars and is saying im being selfish keeping him to myself and running with him, taking him away from him and his family....i am scared of him but we would be at his moms house...oh i never called the cops..

2007-08-21 06:49:57 · 7 answers · asked by Amanda 2

Most of my fiance's family live in Maryland. We live in Ca. His father lives out here too. About 2 months ago his little sister & I got into an argument via e-mail simply because I asked her, very politely I might add! ,to remove the photo of my son & my fiance from her MySpace page. I don't care what everyone thinks of myspace. It is something my fiance & I don't feel is a proper place to have kids pics. Anyways, she handled it very immaturely and everyone told her to back off. So we never made up. Fast forward to now. My fiance tells me his sister, mom, & old family female friend are all coming to CA in Dec and he is going to his dad's house (which is a couple hours away) to spend 2 or 3 days with them. I was very hurt that I wasn't invited and I told him so. He said if I make up with his sister he'd love me to go but I don't see why he wouldn't have just automatically brought me in the first place. I never ever go anywhere without him being invited. I'm hurt & mad.

2007-08-21 06:46:10 · 16 answers · asked by SugarFreeRedBull 1

I love my husband , but I'm not in love with him. He is a wonderful person and he would do anything for me. We have a good life together and are great friends. I am simply not physically attracted to him at all anymore. I am still very interested in sex, just not with him. I find myself attracted to other men all the time. I could never have an affair, but I think about it all the time. Lately there has been one person in particular that I fantasize about all the time. This is driving me crazy. I am so frustrated I feel like a volcano about to explode. Has anyone else dealt with this? Help!

2007-08-21 06:44:01 · 16 answers · asked by loulou 2

Has anyone found out that once you get married the sex seems to slow down from 3 to 4 times a day to once or twice a month. As the years go buy your lucky to get it once a year ect. So why buy the cow when the milk is free and plentyfull? I have had plenty of married friends complain of this have any of you?

2007-08-21 06:40:23 · 13 answers · asked by The ENFORCER 1

I was completely worn down from every day demands of life and my two (under two) children yesterday. So by the time evening comes, and my fiance shows up from work, I'm in no mood for lovely dovey.. and just want a shower and a good night of sleep. He took me for a ***** and now is getting even by being an ***. Any ideas of how to make him understand..., or just get our home in the good vibe before he gets here? Please ... no suggestions about apologizing... I already tried this route.

2007-08-21 06:39:34 · 14 answers · asked by reincarnated/beauty 2

2007-08-21 06:38:15 · 7 answers · asked by meagain 4

i am married but i have a guy friend (we've been friends since highschool ) we've been texting everyday and now he says he likes me but i telling me that he's always had feelings for me

2007-08-21 06:31:50 · 26 answers · asked by herrera_jovita 2

Possible or not?
Neither person has had sex, and I mean never, not even with each other but will plan to after marriage.

2007-08-21 06:31:02 · 33 answers · asked by ? 3

Please help me, I have been having a affair for almost 4 years. This is my first affair in my 30 year marriage. My husband has had then in the past and now I find out hes having another one , how can i confront him when Im doing the same thing . I love my husband but also love the other man. The other man is also married and has no plans on leaving his wife. I dont know what to do !

2007-08-21 06:27:21 · 23 answers · asked by bonitakay S 1

I'm absolutely miserable. I still love him, but miserable. We get along, so the kids dont see drama. He's a great dad (lousy husband...cheater, once that I know of) Since his affair he is trying to fix it and make it up to me, but I hate him becuase of that, or maybe its that i hate what he did to me, either way, i dont look at him in the same way i used to. taht innocence in our marriage is gone. because he made me live a lie for 6 months while he was doing what he was doing, i lost that 'something special' i had for him, somethin is definately gone now. so, i consider a divorce, and then i look at my kids and my heart breaks for them. can i really do that to them? I have 9 more years til my youngest is 18, and i'll only be 40. is it that unusual for people to stay for the kids sake? is it that bad that you make sacrifices for your kids, even if it means your unhappines?

2007-08-21 06:22:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is trying to take away my stuffed animal collection. She is mean and hates everyone.

2007-08-21 06:20:04 · 33 answers · asked by deruntergang 2

We were married for 4 years, and there was always verbal or physical abuse. He says hes changed and wants us to get back together. I am still scared and dont know what to do. I dont want our kids learning that its ok to do that. Since we are appart I am trying to improve my life by going to school to get my degree. What do i do? Do i give him another chance, do i continue to work towards my degree? Am i making the right choice to leave him and not go back? Im so lost and dont know what to do.

2007-08-21 06:19:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband is 16 ywars older than me and my lover is 10 younger then me but i love them both in diffrent ways help

2007-08-21 06:14:08 · 38 answers · asked by candicerglover2000 1

Been married 6 years now, and also turning 30 this year. People ask ALL THE TIME! We know we want kids eventually, but just don't want them now. What if the "maternal feelings" never come?

2007-08-21 06:07:32 · 13 answers · asked by KARIN W 2

Wives do you greet your husbands at the door when they come home from work??? Did you used to when you first got married and then stopped when you had kids?? or in time you just stopped???

I'm just curious how many wives do this. I greet my hubby at the door everyday when he comes home from work. I think it's a nice way to tell him he's important enough for me to say HI to him when he enters our home.

2007-08-21 06:02:35 · 41 answers · asked by Steven's Mommy 5