I have just had an argument with my ex-boyf., who broke up with me a few months ago. He wanted us to stay in contact, he was telling me that he'd be really unhappy if he lost me and could not talk to me. But I am finding this really really hard because I did not us to break up and I am really hurting still now. I cannot be in contact with him just sometimes like he imagines. We are meeting each other in a few days to talk face to face about everything, I have already booked my train ticket. However, we have just had a fight because he told me he is going to the cinema tonight. I wanted to ask him something about a job but he said he cannot talk tonight. I asked him if it is a girl and he said it's not, it's a guy. I said to him that Im sure he would not go to a cimena with a guy and to tell me the truth but he insisted it's a guy. I got upset and told hi that he's lying and he got really upset. He then texted me and told me that I should apologise to him otherwise he won't talk to me.
2007-08-21 07:44:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like both of you are just feeding off of conflict and making each other miserable.
Why did you think it was a girl and not a guy like he said?
That indicates that you don't trust him which isn't a basis for a relationship or if he is lying then that isn't a good foundation either.
Telling someone you won't speak to them unless they apologise is just plain childish and selfish.
And by the way, the guy who answered below me on this isn't a grown-up so don't bother reading the silliness he wrote. Looks like that guy's been reading too many "lad's weeklies".
2007-08-21 07:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by KD 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea I mean you both have broken up so the issue with it being a girl shouldn't matter. I mean you both are going to met each other in a couple of days, take some time and unwind at this point. I don't think he is lying but i don't know him personally either. Just call him back and apologize and the you both can talk about once you see each other. Good luck!
2007-08-21 14:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by b n real 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop talking to this person. He is trying to have you and other people at the same time. I think if he broke up with you - there should be no talking! Dating these days is so weird; I won't go into the "back in my day" crap - but seriously, if you broke up - there is a reason why you broke up. It sounds like he did you a favor by breaking up with you - he saved you from a lot of heartache. Cancel your train ticket and spend the money shopping. You will get over this person and move on to someone who deserves you.
2007-08-21 14:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Siren5 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a life and that you dont have to be in contact and you can find somebody easy, that would make him jealous
hes the 1 tht should appoligise for not telling you 'why a guy?' 'if it a really a guy?' you know questions like tht
do something intresting that you have neva done before
good luck x
2007-08-21 16:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart break off all contact with this guy, you cannot be friends you are hurting too much and it's unfair of him to hold you to ransom like this. you do not need to apologise just phone him tomorrow tell him you are not coming to see him and you need some space and peace.If he doesnt want to be with you any more romantically, then why stay friends, it dosent work when one person dosent want to break up it is too sore. You need to go out with your girlie friends and have a good time look after yourself and have some peace and quiet without this guy playing with your feelings. remember some guys like to stay friends so they can get an ego boost seeing how broken you are, and other times they like it in case you will give them the sex, be strong baby girl! go listen to some destinys child/beyonce. be strong!
2007-08-21 14:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by stella 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its best to cut all ties... he split up with you and hurt you and your letting him still hurt you by staying in contact and this will achieve nothing but hurting you more cos by the sound of it you still have feelings for him... it doesnt matter who hes taking to the cinema its the fact that it aint you thats bothering you... you deserve to be treated better than this hun and should move on and find someone new... forget about him he sounds like a looser and if he valued your company that much then he wouldnt have dumped you... i hope you dont contact him and i hope this does make him unhappy.... hes made you unhappy.... i wish you all the best for the future and hope you find someone really special very soon...xxx
2007-08-21 14:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by flossy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your ex boyfriend right, he wanted you to stay connected. if you don't want to be bothered then tell him so.than you nd him had another argument because he is going to cinema,. What the hell should you apologize to him for. asking a question and he doesn't want answer you got angry because probably you thought he was going out with a girl.
stop seeing him you still have feelings for him.
2007-08-21 18:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've 'broken up' why are you trying to control each other?
Either you have a commitment to someone, or you don't.
You don't really have the right to demand to know who he's going to the flicks with do you? Anymore than he has the right to know who your friends are.
I think you both need to stop playing games, and leave each other alone.
He's not making you happy, quite the reverse, so what's the point?
2007-08-21 14:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he broke up with u because he was seeing someone else, and wants to keep u hanging in there in case it doesn't work out with her so he can come back to u. don't apologize to him stand your ground, he already chose her over u, he's just a cheater. if your hurting distance yourself from him, don't talk to him or meet him anymore unless u want more heartache. if he can't talk tonight its because of her. just cut your losses, let her have him and move on because your never going to be happy with this man. he is just dangling the carrot in front of u, he doesn't want to burn all bridges, because he may be insecure and always has to have someone. he is just using u in case the other woman dumps him so he won't be alone with no one.
2007-08-21 14:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi violet sounds 2 me that your ex is abit of an attention seeker and is being a bit selfish,tell him its hard 2 just b friends at mo, u need 2 give urself time 2 let some of the hurt go,either he wants 2 b with you or not, he is just playing with ur emotions rite now, go out with friends and have sum you time, sorry hun just my opinion, xx
2007-08-21 14:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by gooneress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋