Would you concider texting as cheating?

Question

i am married but i have a guy friend (we've been friends since highschool ) we've been texting everyday and now he says he likes me but i telling me that he's always had feelings for me

Answer 1

Texting is not cheating. But do not cross a line where you begin to start having a "cyber" affair. It will lead to places you may not want to go now. But, as you evolve to that place you will be able to justify every little step along the way.

Be careful. I would use the general thought...Would I be cool with this if he was doing it?

Answer 2

Too little too late. You are a married woman. How would you feel if your husband and another woman were texting one another everyday? What would that do you you and your heart? You have to remember men will hit on you, and temp you, but you are married. You are off limits, the guy needs to find someone else that isn't married. He has intentions that are more than friends, that is not cool and you know that your husband would be very hurt that you are sneaking around and flirting with another man.

Answer 3

As a general rule of thumb, if you can't do things with your spouse looking over your shoulder, then yes it's cheating.

It comes down to intimacy. That you have only with your spouse and once you "share" it then it becomes cheating.
Whether it's physical, cyber or whatever.

My question to you is why are you toying with this? If he has always had feelings for you, he knows what he is doing is not right. And now you know so it is best to cut the communication now and didicate you time with your husband.

Answer 4

I feel, once you know that the dynamics of his side of the friendship have changed, you can no longer call this a friend. Its dangerous for you to entertain his company and attention now... he has felt comfortable with telling you he has feelings for you, KNOWING your married, and I say that he is truly no friend of yours. Some men are like that though, they claim friendship to get close to you the come forward with their true feelings. I had a "friend" do this to me, and I thought I could deal with it, and could still be his friend and it blew up in my face... he just lurked and waited for a weak point in my life where he could swoop in and "be a support and friend to me" which is when he tried to make a move. Needless to say I dont talk to him anymore. I was lucky... things went too far, but not so far that it was cheating. I blame myself, still, for trusting him and for being so damn stupid to believe I could turn to my friend...

It might not be cheating now, but it has the potential to go there... use your head and realize that this friendship has run its course. If you love your husband, your friend has to go... because he has shown you just how much regard he has for your happiness, your marriage, and you period.

Answer 5

This is a BAD idea. This can only go badly if it continues. If your Hubby ever checks your phone for something before you delete the messages be prepared for distrust from then on... are you willing to risk your life with your husband for some text messages.

also the "friend" as you put it feels safe in flirting with you.. he thinks you will not leave your husband, and he has nothing to lose. if his flirts work.. great he gets to screw you. if they don;t he's not out anything.. the persona that loses everything is you.

A girl I was in a relationship with did this behind my back... she was texting someone else.. I found out broke it off. moved on I'm happier now... and she;s miserable with the other person.. they did it to her too. cut it off now. and be honest with your husband. if you love him he deserves your respect, devotion and should have reason to trust you.

Answer 6

Yes. You took vows to be faithful and that means not tempting yourself to stray like you are now because this could easily get too involved and get you in trouble. Do you want to hurt your husband by getting involved with someone else? You sure are headed that way.

You gave your word to your husband to be honest, to love, to cherish ~ start putting more time into texting him your words of love and praise and tell your friend to find someone else to talk to, that you won't respond to anymore messages because you love and adore your husband.

If necessary, change your name so he won't be able to contact you at all or block him from contacting you.

Now make your husband's favorite dinner, buy something sexy to wear and get some candles out and set the mood. Remember who your first love is and show him your heart is his entirely.

Answer 7

Texting isn't cheating so long as its on a friendly basis regardless of whether your friend is male or female. But once it becomes intimate and/or physical then its cheating.

Answer 8

if there are any kind of emotional ties coming from the texting, then by all means, yes. Would you want your spouse doing the same thing? Always a good rule of thumb, would you want the same thing happening to you?

Answer 9

You know what kind of thoughts you are having. Here is what God's Word says (Matthew 5):

27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

Since you are asking the question, the thought has crossed your mind and your heart is already committing adultery. Better to lose this guy friend than to lose everything good. Don't even explain beyond "I have to stop texting - got my hubby. Signing out. Buh-Bye!" -- just cease. Do NOT go by feelings -- go by what God says.

Answer 10

In my opinion it all depends on the what the text is about. If you are texting things to him and him to you that you would allow your husband to see then no it isn't cheating.
Good rule of thumb.....it's not cheating if you would do it in front of your spouse.