Do men honestly have a problem when their wives don't need them emotionally, physically, or spiritually anymore?
Does it bother men when their wife makes more money?
2007-08-21 07:02:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would it bother a man if his wife made more money and could financially take care of the family? And why would it bother a man if he had a totally independent wife....who didn't need him for anything?
2007-08-21 07:07:47 · update #1
Boy you are full of loaded questions!
Are men any different than women when it comes to being needed? I dont think that most men are different! How would you feel if the tables were turned? What is the point in staying in a relationship if ther is no fulfillment? I think that all the things you mentioned are a part of a HAPPY and fullfilling relationship/marraige. If you dont have those things, how can you truly be happy and how can there be love? As far as women making more money than the man- I think sometimes the woman has more of a problem with it! Many men still beleive they should be the bread winner. The biggest part of the financial support for the family. It is also an ego thing. But in reality, why should it be the man who makes more?! I think many men are just proud of their wives for being able to add support to the home regardless of how much it is! Often times they will feel threatened but just as many men arent! If it really bothers your man, then re-evaluate how important it is for you to keep the job and income you have. Is it more important for you to have the money or worry about how it affects your relationship? If you ask yourself all these questions, then depending on the answers maybe it is time to move on to either a different job or a different man or be single. When we love someone, we want them to be a part of our life in a comfortable non threatening way! Choices are made together.
2007-08-21 07:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by tpettee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not married, so i wouldnt know, but what i do know is that men have egos , and when they arent catered to in some sort of way, many of us men do indeed feel incompetent. I think that in marriage both husband and wife need one another emotionally,physically, and spiritually. Its 2007, and i feel that money should be made together and spent together in a marriage. I think its great when couples can work as a team towards reaching financial goals, no matter who is making what. The point is that your doing something together with someone that you love. But hey i cant speak for anyone else but myself and my opinion. I wish you luck, in achieving the answer that you desire.
2007-08-21 07:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the guy but in general MOST men definitely need to be needed. It doesn't have to be about money either. It can be as simple as asking them to open a jar of pickles!! Men were the hunters - they went out and it was their job to take care of the family, feed them, etc. So, now while most women are so independent, men still need to be needed in some small ways. I mean, why be with someone if they are completely indifferent to your being there? You ask if men need to be needed emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I think the answer is YES and i believe we ALL need that.
2007-08-21 07:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would have no problems with it! It mean less OT I have to work, and takes some pressure off my shoulders. Plus who care who makes the cash in the house as long as it's plentiful! As long as she is there for me sexually and we can communicate then I'm a happy man!! Sex heals all Men's wounds!! Maybe you should marry me if you makes a lot of cash I could use a HOT MONEY MAKING MOMMA!! ;)
2007-08-21 08:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm never intimidated by a woman who makes more money than me. I'd love to have a partner that pulls her share of the fiscal responsibilities of our family. If my woman didn't 'want' me emotionally or physically I would not be a happy camper. If she doesn't 'need' me that's great. That means we are on even ground with each other and we're dealing with an interdependent instead of a codependent relationship.
2007-08-21 07:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs to be needed but it seems like you are making him feel less of a man by your hugh salary . Well goody for you you make more then him . Do you rub his face in it ? I think you should take yourself down a peg or two and try to make him happy . You don't need him in anyway? And do you tell him this? I think he should divorce you and find a good woman who does appreciate him . You have a big head . Write to us when you have that big fall . What goes around comes around .
Good luck to your Husband .
2007-08-21 08:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by feistyirishme7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it does, becuase other men make them feel that way. They have a problem just letting things be and just forgetting about going by the book. As women get stronger men get more cocky.
2007-08-21 07:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by jmalin04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It bothers some men when the relationship no longer relies on dependency to hold it together.
2007-08-21 07:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jack P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know.
My man makes a lot more money than I do.
I like it that way. Sorry!
2007-08-21 07:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it is easy to fell unneeded...not incomeptent...that is to say that they areunable to do something when that is not always the case.
2007-08-21 07:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋