2007-08-21 13:59:39 · 9 answers · asked by Red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make a man be a Dad, like they say any man can be a father it takes a real man to be a dad. I know this is true, my Dad, is actually my step dad, but blood does not mean anything to me my dad is the man who tucked me in at night, held me when I was scared, and worked his butt off so I could have a good Christmas, mean while my bio dad aka sperm donor was out having God knows how many more babies. Hey, move on, find a nice man who will love you and your child with unconditional love,(its possible I know my hubby is raising my ex's son, and loves him just the same as the baby we share.) Let the loser be a loser, but hey he still needs to pay child support but other than that-until he "GROWS' up, find that baby a real DAD!!!!!
2007-08-21 14:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by donnakygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't. A real man steps up to his responsibilities and makes sure he's a part of his children's lives. If you are asking this question, you didn't pick the right man so you can't make him something he is not. Do the best you can with your child but don't get pregnant again unless you have a dedicated partner who puts their children's interests above themselves.
2007-08-21 21:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't, a real man does it on his on! You just try to fill the void that man leaves in the child life! I know it's hard but forcing someone tho do things they don't want to do are worse then having them not be a part of his life!
Someday he'll understand all you can do is raise him to be a better MAN!! A real MAN!!
2007-08-21 21:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right! Move on and find a new man for the child, and if the next man doesn't work then maybe the man after that will and so on . . .
2007-08-21 21:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sanita 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't. That is something that you have to lay in the hands of God. Men can be uncontrollable when it comes to situations like these. My parents were married and my father barely spent time with me. Now that my mother has passed, he's trying to make up for lost time. One thing, do not bad mouth about him to the child or that child will grow up with hatred in his/her heart against you and the father.
2007-08-21 21:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by 2 Legit 2 Quit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't and if you have to then something is very wrong with the man. If the child is yours, I am sorry. If not, don't have any children of your own with him... nothing will change.
2007-08-21 21:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible..I'm sorry..plus your don't want your child to sense you are forcing the dad to spend time with themm..that will be devastating..I say just love your child as best you can and slowly explain as he or she grows that their father loves them very much but that there are certain circumstances as to why he couldn't be around..kids are smart, resilient and need explanations to things..Provide those and you will be just fine even w/out the father.
2007-08-21 21:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by contessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" him....all you can do is suggest ways for him to step up to the plate and be a father.
2007-08-21 21:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't make another human being do what he doesn't want to do. Can't be done.
2007-08-21 21:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jack P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋