What do YOU consider cheating?

Question

And no...I would NEVER cheat on my husband....I'm just looking for other people's input on the matter.

Is it kissing?
Surfing adult friend finder type sites?
Flirting?
Sex?

What would be the minimal thing your significant other could do that you would consider cheating?

LOL nooo, I'm really not thinking about cheating. I would never cheat, and I'm not asking because I think my husband would or is either...I know he never would. Our relationship is great.
I'm actually asking because of a conversation I had with one of my friends....she's going through some tough times in her relationship and was posing the question to ME....I was just wondering what other people's input is as well.

Answer 1

All of the above are cheating. If your spouse/significant other is sneaking around doing things behind your back that he/she wouldn't do right in front of you then I consider that cheating.
Mind you some people WILL go even lower and do it in front of you.
My rule of thumb is if it is not something you would want your partner to do to you then you shouldn't do it.

Mind you we are are all human, we all have eyes and will find others attractive besides our mate and a look is fine,"oh thats an attractive guy or girl". What is wrong is a long stare, "oh how I would love a piece of him or her" is lust which is not ok and most partners would not appreciate that from their partner.

If someone is not happy nor content in their marriage and they can't seem to fix the problem solely between the couple they should seek counseling, if that doesn't work or one or both refuse counseling, divorce is the only alternative.
Cheating on, betraying and hurting someone is wrong!

Cheating starts in the mind which leads to the heart (lust) then it is usually physically acted out. Lusting and desiring to sleep with someone other than your spouse/significant other even if you haven't actually done so already is a form of cheating.

Most cheaters of course will not admit to cheating, they deny, blame or make excuses in attempt to excuse and overlook their behavior because they do not want to take responsibility and be held accountable for their actions. They want their cake and eat it to. It's all about them. Such people are self -centered, weak, impulsive and immature and have no business being in a relationship.

Answer 2

I'm glad you don't, but if you want to get some input about the significant others cheating I can tell you mine.If you put kissing, joining a dating site, flirting and yes sex can be in one place of cheating. Let me tell you my husband, for 2 months,(been over 6 months now) I've seen the things that I never seen before from him, he always lock himself in the garage where he put his office, I never seen his cell phone laying around the house , he comes home very late in the evening, which I thought it was his part time job of teaching, he hardly sleep only 2 hours each night, always dress up just to go to work, and always in a hurry to get out of the house.
This was the things that he did, while my kids thought dad is always busy, and at the same time I give myself to him,but what I didn't know then he was screwing a married woman that lives over an hour where we live. And yes I discovered it before x-mas and devastated my kids. But because of this, now I'm happy without him,only my kids....

Answer 3

All of the above is cheating. If you are married and only have eyes for your mate, this wouldn't even be a question. Any flirty type attention paid to an opposite sex person would be inappropriate, and mostly can and will lead to an affair even if it is not your original intention. If you are doing those things....or he is....there is a big problem......someone isn't getting what they need at home. I would suggest finding out what it is instead of wondering about the definition of cheating when you probably already know darn well what it is.

Answer 4

Do not let yourself be deceived you think it's innocent flirting with the cute guy at work or online how do you know you won't all of the sudden you become emotionally involved and there you go. I wouldnt even look at another man and say oh he's hot that's cheating if you look upon another person and lust after them (attracted to them in any way) you have commited adultry in your heart and it's an abomination to the Lord. I know what your probably thinking "crazy holy roller" but i speak the truth you wouldnt want your man going to a strip club or flirting with his coworkers. If your even asking the question I know your already somehow involved do yourself a favor and get your relationship refreshed with your husband try the website loveandrespect.com. Good luck

Answer 5

Cheating is being untruthful, decietful, a liar and not being true to urself weither it be on the net or in person. Spend as much time with ur partner flirting, kissing,sex, surfing as u do on the web & u might just find a perfect husband!cheating can b in the mind or physical it depends on u!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I think cheating is whatever the couple decides cheating is. I know couples who are not allowed to be in the same room alone with members of the opposite sex and I know a couple that can have sex with others as long as they tell beforehand.

With my wife and I; cheating is doing something we would not do in full view of the other.

Answer 7

If you feel that the attention is not appropriate
In other words if some one would feel the need to conceal the action from a partner then that in my eyes is cheating.
Be it talk kissing sexual innuendo or even contact that is of a flirtatious nature .
look at as if your partner was standing beside you would you do it yourself? if no then it is more than likely cheating your partner of your attentions and emotions.

Answer 8

Any intimate relationship you have with someone is cheating. Even if it is just an emotional connection. Keep this in mind and you will never cross the line!!

Answer 9

I completly agree with the first poster, all of the above. I personally feel a little cheated on when I walk in on him spankin it to porn. It's like 'I'm right here..hello, you could just as easily do me and then we'd both get some pleasure.'

Answer 10

all of the above except flirting. cause flirting is natural to some people, now if its touchy flirting like touching butts ect... that is pretty much cheating. i wouldnt go to him and say your cheating on me but he might as well be. if your married your bonded to that person and no one eles. if someone is going to "want" other people then they are not bonded and should not be married.