Marriage & Divorce - 15 August 2007

I've been reading a lot on various sights about how interracial relationships can't work and how the children in interracial relationships struggle with their identites. I think that's BS!!! My fiance` and I are of different ethnicities and have no significant problems or differing opinions. We've come from different backgrounds, she is fairly wealthy and I've grown up poor most of my life, yet we are in perfect harmony. It is both foolish and ignorate to say that a marriage can't work because of race, it won't work because of the reasons any marriage won't work. And as far as kids go, kids with both parents the same race struggle with identity crisis, too, most teens do. You're identity does not have to be defined by your race, it was something that I struggled with in High School. Being an African-American, I was expected to wear baggie pants, and use slang terms and foul language , and play sports. But I didn't, I refused to be a stereotype. My race did not define me, I define me!!!

2007-08-15 08:22:08 · 26 answers · asked by lilamare32 2

I have proposed to my husband that I would like for him to have sex outside of our marriage. I have a high level of trust in our relationship and am not worried about him leaving. It really excites me to be able to let him do that and for us to talk about it. He is totally into it and wants me to have the same experience. Just talking about it has made our sex life even more amazing and the excitement has filled a void that I have had for some time. We have discussed different scenarios and rules so I feel like we know what we are getting into.

2007-08-15 08:20:38 · 17 answers · asked by golfinggoddess 2

I love my husband very much, and there are days where I don't want to let go of him. Times where I want to be with him 24/7.

But then there are days...like today... where I don't want him to even touch me. The smallest things will annoy the crap out of me.

We have been together for many years, but only married for 2. My sex drive has gone down, and I don't know what the heck is going on with me.

Is it hormones? Do I love him but, not IN love with him anymore?

What's going on?

Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anyway to fix this?

Any constructive advise would be greatly appriciated.

Thanks

2007-08-15 08:13:59 · 22 answers · asked by ~C~ 3

My alcoholic ex-friend wants visitation with his 4 yr. old. His wife finally couldn't take his drinking & lying anymore. He drives drunk & wants to pick up his son for visitation. I babysit this precious child whilst Moms @ work & am really worried about Dad showing up. He's mad @ me because I'm helping & backing his wife in this case. He hides alcohol & we never know what he's going to do. Serious answers only please.
The little boy has a speech problem so won't be able to call or ask for help.

2007-08-15 08:07:22 · 10 answers · asked by Annie 4

I'm 21 y/o.I've been married for over a year now and we just recently had a child. Shortly after his birth I start think about my first love. We dated for two years. We started dating at 15 y/o. We sort of kept in contact after we split until we were 19. Then we had a big falling out & we went our seperate ways and move to diff. states. Anyway like I said, I've been thinking about him a lot lately. Remember how we were and how in love we were and what might have been. We were eachothers first loves.
Our families live in the same town so they sometimes bump into eachother and talk about the both of us to eachother. Well my mom found out that he recently got married and is expecting his first child. This just made it even worse. I'm thinking about him even more now. I want to write and congratulate him but I don't think he would respond b/c of our big falling out and b/c I'm afraid of my feelings.
Is this normal if I'm married? I love my husband to death. What should I do?

2007-08-15 08:02:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-15 07:58:41 · 18 answers · asked by lifescircle 5

She does not follow my lead as the head of the household. I'm sick of her disrespectful behaviour towards me, why does she feel the need to argue and talk back to me? A good woman knows her husband's words are final. We are looking at trying out domestic discipline. Any suggestions appreciated.

2007-08-15 07:55:11 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex says he's not in love with me anymore. But he still wants to have sex with me. I told him why would I sleep with him if he didn't love me anymore. He says if I love him I would give in. Is he just a pig and a jerk or do you think he holds some feelings or me?

2007-08-15 07:54:41 · 10 answers · asked by Hot asain mama 2

Our 1st trip was to a B&B - in town there was a lit up gazebo where he pulled over and got me to dance - cars were beeping & all - it was a trip we said we'd always do over & over. Well it's our 1yr & he insists on paying at least 1/2 for whatever we do - he's so onboard to repeat the trip but is worried about cost - financially things have changed for him. I can afford to pay for more than 1/2 & this trip would be like recreating when we first started & we ceratinly NEED that right now. SO do I "fudge" the actual cost & allow him to give me "less then 1/2" without telling him or should I be completely honest & possibly risk him not wanting to go because of price? I would NEVER out & out lie to him - but I know that this trip would be without a doubt PERFECT! Same restaraunt, massages, B&B, romance package to the hilt! I know that we would again dance under "our" gazebo making another major memory of how much we are in love! What would you do? Were not married yet - someday we will

2007-08-15 07:46:57 · 13 answers · asked by martiek7 3

After many wonderful years, I think I have fallen out love. For the past six months, I have been distant and do not wish to cuddle, make out, etc. When I am alone, I miss our time together and all the fun we have, and feel guilty that I do not feel the love anymore. When there is an outreach of affection, such as an attempt to kiss me and more, I pull away. I pull away from any form of intimacy. I feel like such a cruel person and it hurts to feel this way toward someone so amazing! I wish I could know how or when the love left, but it doesn't seem like its going to come back. And it really saddens me because we have been together for many years and made so many great plans for our future together! I care very much, but the love - that feeling of longing and persisting is no longer there. Is it time to let go?

2007-08-15 07:40:52 · 12 answers · asked by roriray 1

My X girlfriend told me that i was just wandering if it was true

2007-08-15 07:40:34 · 14 answers · asked by chad s 1

2007-08-15 07:32:45 · 75 answers · asked by bahagyan_naan 2

My fiance is upset that I would prefer to lie to people about how we met. My family is extremely conservative and highly critical of our relationship already because we are interracial.

Is this wrong? He's told the truth to his family and friends and I've lied?

Does anyone understand why this is hard for me? What should I do?

2007-08-15 07:28:48 · 36 answers · asked by Lane 3

we've had some fights. Why does he say one more chance and thats it? does he mean it? does he just try to threaten me?

2007-08-15 07:11:03 · 19 answers · asked by salvina730 2

I'm so sick of it all I'm giving up there dosen't seem anything to live for anymore ppl who keep going how do u do it whats there to live for is there anything left in this world

2007-08-15 07:10:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has cheated me by giving false age and her job profile.I am unable to trust her and we have no conjugal life.Can I file a case on this basis?

2007-08-15 06:34:17 · 16 answers · asked by praman m 1

I miss my wife so much I cant stand it. I work 40 hours a week and school 30 hours a week. Every second I can I call her and Im always all over her when Im around her am I pushing her away? She tells me that I have become too clingy is it true? I love her deeply help me....

2007-08-15 06:23:31 · 22 answers · asked by stephen b 1

I mean, do men get married because they feel they "have to" (i.e., due to family and societal pressures, etc.), or are there men that actually want to get married? If there are men out there that sincerely WANT to get married, then what is it about women that makes you want to marry them?

2007-08-15 06:22:41 · 14 answers · asked by BK 3

hi i married female but find woman sexy i find that i either want to play with a female while my husband watches or he can join.
Do you think i should do it..

2007-08-15 06:06:17 · 37 answers · asked by smartie 2

I know that it might be somewhat ridiculous to post a question like this on YA, but an objective point of view might be just what I need. I've been with my gf for a little over a year now, and it seems like she just isn't happy. She is very quiet around me. She hardly ever laughs. She seems to just have no passion. Sex is a joke, but that's not the biggest issue in our relationship. The biggest issue, in my opinion, is the fact that I treat this woman and her four year old daughter like gold, but get nothing in return. I can walk in the house and barely get a "hi." I know she loves me because on my b-day, she wrote a very heartfelt note on my card. It talked about how much she loves me and how she wants to be with me forever. She also went WAY overboard on my gifts. Honestly, I don't care about all that stuff. I want her, not material possessions. I love her daughter so much also. I just don't know what to do. A sidenote: she has cerebral palsy, so that may have an impact

2007-08-15 06:01:15 · 9 answers · asked by chickenbeansoup 1

my wife read the ansers i got and said they dont know it all. so here goes more info. i was told of frist two chance meetings. nothing more till jan when he watched our kid. sun night mon mourn our daughter was with them the whole time. he left just before they went to bed. when i came back from fld and blew up at her she thought that i was just venting. and things whould be just fine. then when i moved out jan 26 she told him thier friendship had to end. she stoped calling him but he kept calling her. somtimes she anserd sometimes not. all were 2 to 5 min calls. said he just wanted to know how we were doing and that he didnt mean to cause her troble. she changed her # so she could prove that she ended it. but then he started to show up where she was. store;mall, mcdees. at Mcde she told him it was over she had to save her family. she couldnt be friends with him anymore. he said that he thought that they were going to be more than friends.she said she never had whanted to be more.soYli

2007-08-15 05:55:37 · 4 answers · asked by jd 1

i talked to my boyfriend about his goals in the next 5 years (see previous question) i made sure it was during one of his favorite programs on television, he seems to tell the truth when he wants me to shut up so he can waste time watching tv... he said a few things and also said that he hoped when the time was right we'd get married within the next 5 years :)))

so what y'all think?

i shouldnt start plannin a wedding and all i know but what ya think? i want it sooner than later but id respect his wishes.. when do you think he wants to wait till ? i dont wanna push it and ask him but i wanna brag to my friends with something more than a 5 year goal plan that has me in it :)

2007-08-15 05:54:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife claims abuse because husband took sexy video of themselves, BUT she is seen on Video asking husband " take a video of this dirty sexy sexy woman". Also in part of video she asks to use the cam corder and then tapes sex of them. Also before marriage she sent sexy pictures to him via the internet she took of herself while she was in another country and he was in USA. Also she made her own sexy clothes. What would a jury think?

2007-08-15 05:52:15 · 13 answers · asked by DALIAN 1

Im having a party to celebrate the end of my divorce. Any suggestions are appreciated as to the wording for the invite.

2007-08-15 05:45:07 · 16 answers · asked by Bklyn born Jerzy bred 1

I caught her trying on his things. He sweats alot on his job, and I hadn't had a chance to wash them yet. She was wearing his uniform and glove. What should I do?

2007-08-15 05:43:07 · 17 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4

For nearly two years my wife has denied an emotional affair with her Ex-husband that start while she was pregnant with our daughter. During the 2nd session with our second marriage counselor she has admitted it. I have asked her to choose between her Ex and his family and me with the family we have now. I told her there was no half way on this issue. I told her that the only interaction with her Ex should be directly related to my stepson. She says she needs more time. I’m thinking that kind of speaks for itself. I am only asking her for what she vowed when we go married. Should I call it quits and go to my lawyer or give her more time. My stepson is 8 and my daughter is 23 months. For more background check my previous questions.

2007-08-15 05:42:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband figth always wit my daughter,because his having a hart time with hr to be teenager she is a good kid but the problem she is to pretty and his scare she get out of the house I know it's hard to lose your little girl, but can't stand the figth any more

2007-08-15 05:36:06 · 14 answers · asked by Babedahl 2

I am having a horrible day. I yelled at my husband last night and even though I apologized I still feel horrible. I hope you are having a good day.

2007-08-15 05:34:02 · 18 answers · asked by C Deezy McCain 3

My husband recently told me he wants a divorce, and its because I am taking too long in school (1 year left), and he has no other VALID reason as far as I am concerned. In the recent months, he has helped his one friend move (female) and has done a lot more for her than he has for me, what kinds of things should I look for and how to get the valid truth?

I know divorce is inevitable now, and when we initially married, we agreed we didn't believe in divorce, unless there was cheating or abuse involved. And I know I didn't cheat, as I am the type who loves unconditionally. He was never like this before, she started coming around. How can I know for sure? something that can hold up in court when the divorce goes through?

2007-08-15 05:31:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

The husband works full time and pays all the bills and buys all the food, clothes, etc. Wife doesn't work or have any income. She stays at home with the kids while he's at work. The kids trash the house. The dirty dishes are piled up in the kitchen and there's food all over the floor throughout the house. Husband comes home and cooks his own dinner and dinner for the kids. Wife refuses to wash any dishes or clean the house or cook dinner for husband. Ok, so the question is: Does husband just need to slap her around a little bit or is she a lost cause?

2007-08-15 05:28:03 · 18 answers · asked by ignernt 3