hi i married female but find woman sexy i find that i either want to play with a female while my husband watches or he can join.
Do you think i should do it..
2007-08-15 06:06:17 · 37 answers · asked by smartie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES YES YES,
2007-08-15 06:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ben F 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not without a lot of thinking and planning and discussions with your husband. Think for a moment how you would feel if your husband did decide to join in - with the other women. And would you feel the same if he was curious about having another man join in? There are a lot of things to consider when moving into this sort of relationship. Be very careful and really consider all your options before moving into this sort of relationship. And while it can work, it has to be done very carefully to ensure that a solid relationship isn't irretrievably fractured because of one night.
2007-08-15 06:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by firebugarts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that is something you and your husband need to talk about. I mean, personally I wouldn't because if you do somebody may end up getting hurt. I mean, your husband may think he would enjoy watching you with another woman, but when it comes down to it, he may find that it's uncomfortable, I mean what if you get off faster with her than you do with him? He may end up feeling insufficient, and hurt. Or if he joins in, what if you suddenly find yourself becoming jealous? You may not think you are the "jealous type", but I mean I am not the "jealous type" and I would have an extremely hard time watching my husband with another woman. I mean, in the end, you and your husband are going to be the ones who will have to live with what you have decided, just remember once it's done there will be no turning back. Good luck to the both of you......
2007-08-15 06:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by rose_2620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't RECOMMEND this for most people because it seems to create more drama than it's worth.
However, if you choose to go through with it - CAREFULLY discuss all the aspects of it with your husband. (Especially if he'll be joining y'all) Are you sure you're going to be okay seeing him with another woman? What if he pays more attention to her than you? What if he finds her more attractive than you? What if he decides he'd like to be with her without you? ..etc., etc.
I've seen it go "bad" more than a few times when couples bring this fantasy into reality. Be careful ... FULLY discuss this ... and make sure you either do it with a friend you REALLY trust (with whom you'll also fully discuss this) ... or with a total stranger who'll have no further contact with your marriage (at least for the first time you do it).
But I've also seen it go very well, too. Whatever you choose to do - I wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-15 06:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not for anyone to decide but you and your husband. If there are no insecurities, jealousies, everyone uses protection, and the playmate isn't likely to cause problems once the sex-session is over, then do what you want to do.
Many couples enjoy having playmates...for others, it doesn't work out well at all.
2007-08-15 06:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It’s a common fantasy, but generally when people make it a reality, there are repercussions, usually because they can't handle the jealously factor, even when they thought it wouldn’t be an issue. I've seen marriages end over it. So, proceed at your own risk.
2007-08-15 06:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something that both you and your husband agree to do then that is between you, personally I think introducing another person to the marital bed is the thin end of the wedge.
2007-08-15 06:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it's a bit strange how partners would want to share. I mean i don't want to share my man with another woman especially in a sexual way that is something that we share.
But if you are going to why does everyone need to know about it?
2007-08-15 06:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your bi sexual right? Then the next question is , would you be jealous IF your hubby joined in? You may say no..until after the fact, then regret it, keep it a fantasy...or keep him out of it...either way if you want to cheat ( yes thats what it is) then you shouldnt be married.
2007-08-15 06:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...this is something you need to speak to your hubby about honey...unless im the other woman to be there??
what does he think...is he at all aroused by this?
if it pleases both of you and the third party then why not...but be careful, 3somes can bring up trust issues and insecurities in a relationship...have fun xxx
2007-08-15 07:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by charli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
121 for me
2007-08-18 11:06:06 · answer #11 · answered by shirley v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋