I miss my wife so much I cant stand it. I work 40 hours a week and school 30 hours a week. Every second I can I call her and Im always all over her when Im around her am I pushing her away? She tells me that I have become too clingy is it true? I love her deeply help me....
2007-08-15 06:23:31 · 22 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ew.. I hate that type of guy, it's disgusting.
2007-08-15 06:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
I wouldn't say you are clingy - I think you just love and miss her and are squeezing what time you can spend with her into every spare minute. You certainly spend a significant amount of time away from her. Now, some women would LOVE that attention (like myself!). But, other women find it 'clingy'. I think you need to tell her that it isn't a matter of clingy - it is a matter that you don't spend enough time with her. Try to come up with a time schedule to call her that you both agree would work for you. Make sure you have some time to spend together on the weekends too. Maybe once in a great while, you both take the day off from work and be together.
2007-08-15 13:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's nice you miss your wife when you can't spend time with her and you show her that.
The problem is that she thinks its too much so you have to tone it down a bit since you seem to be making her uncomfortable; you don't have to be all over her every minute you are home. If you let her be for a while maybe she will come to you and show how much she's missed you instead of pushing you away. Maybe she's grown used to less time together and likes her space a little more now. Either way, relent a little and let her show you some love.
2007-08-15 13:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is a perfect example of a lose-lose situation for you men...if you don't call us or ain't all over us, then we worry, wonder if you're cheating, feel unloved, yada-yada and so on! Here you go and do all you can to show her you love her and that you miss her and now thats too much...hmmm? Either too much, or not enough...either way, she already told ya the deal and how she feels, her opinion is the only one that counts. If she was open enough to share that with you, she should be ok with elaborating by letting you know whats ok and what is too much. Sit and talk to come to terms of what the difference is, that way things stay smooth. Good luck and God Bless! Personally, me and my husband are inseparatable! He works in landscaping, so when weather doesn't permit, he stays home...I call him every break I get and he loves it. When he gets home from work, we go everywhere together or stay cuddled all night, we sit in the bathroom together and talk when the other is in it, we cook together, we clean together, we bathe the girls together, we cuddle all night in our sleep...no really we are truly inseparatable!! That works for the both of us though, to each their own I guess...just keep it on a mutual level and it'll work out just fine!!
2007-08-15 16:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have needs. Many people seem to get by with little contact but some crave constant attention.
If you both have acted different in the past how would quitting school or taking a smaller job help things? If changing your routine won't help it's up to you to talk it out or end up miserable. I council myself and expect less. She works days and I work nights. A passing kiss is sometimes all we have.
If you both are secure in your marriage you will get through it.
School can't last forever and I'm sure if she loves you, you can get by somehow. I asked this salient question earlier and if I get a good reply I'll let you know.
2007-08-15 13:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwwwwww! I am so sorry to hear that she feels like you are clingy. I would love to have a guy that was all over me. I wouldn't call her all day but a couple of times a day should be fine. Just let her know that you miss her and you want to show her how much you love her. I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-08-15 13:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she said "you are too clingy" then yes, you are smothering her. Back off. Let her come to you. If you develop a pattern where you are clinging on her and she is pushing you away if will grow into a real pattern and a really big problem.
2007-08-15 13:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH lord I had to read the name on the question just to make sure it wasnt my husband asking this question. He works and goes to school also. Anyway yes your smothering her, Same way my husband does me. She probably feel like she cant get a spare minute to herself why don't you back off a little and let her have some space or she'll start resenting you and you don't want that. I love my husband dearly but sometimes he drives me crazy I feel like I constantly have him underfoot. At night he won't go to bed unless I go and he has to wrap himself around me. he calls a billion times a day and its not healthy not for anyone. Please try to give her the space she needs.
2007-08-15 13:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by rebeccaangel2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have become to clingy as much as you miss her let her miss you too.
2007-08-15 13:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too clingy. Back off a lot. It's good that you love your wife so much but, love is a lot like a baby kitten.. Hold too tightly and it dies.
2007-08-15 13:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be happy to have a hubby such as you! I say please lessen the calls to her, NOT every second though! But if I were a wife, I would be happy if my hubby is thinking of me and missing me! That would be great! Congrats, Mr Lovely, and Mrs Lovely! Lucky girl she is!
2007-08-15 13:29:31 · answer #11 · answered by joulsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋