Our 1st trip was to a B&B - in town there was a lit up gazebo where he pulled over and got me to dance - cars were beeping & all - it was a trip we said we'd always do over & over. Well it's our 1yr & he insists on paying at least 1/2 for whatever we do - he's so onboard to repeat the trip but is worried about cost - financially things have changed for him. I can afford to pay for more than 1/2 & this trip would be like recreating when we first started & we ceratinly NEED that right now. SO do I "fudge" the actual cost & allow him to give me "less then 1/2" without telling him or should I be completely honest & possibly risk him not wanting to go because of price? I would NEVER out & out lie to him - but I know that this trip would be without a doubt PERFECT! Same restaraunt, massages, B&B, romance package to the hilt! I know that we would again dance under "our" gazebo making another major memory of how much we are in love! What would you do? Were not married yet - someday we will
2007-08-15 07:46:57 · 13 answers · asked by martiek7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would so do that if it were my fiance and I... I would feel absolutely HORRIBLE for keeping that from him but at the same time I would do it for our sake.
Its bad, but not terrible, to fudge the cost of something... My fiance is the traditional, old school type... ya know man is the provider, spoils his Queen :) but not in the caveman sense either.
Tell him you made a deal. You actually HAVE made a deal, and leave out the details... that way its not really a lie, now is it?
But take care to be sure there is no record of how much you actually spent, or he could be rather upset about it.
Best wishes love. I hope you guys enjoy your trip.
2007-08-15 07:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nah, don't lie. Is he the kind of person who would not accept a gift like a trip? If he is and doesn't allow you to pay more, then you can always work it out as a loan (and never charge him) or you can open a bank account or simply get a piggy bank where both of you put money in without really counting how much each one is putting there. This way it sort of feels like both are putting half.
I dunno, be creative, but if you can avoid lying, the better.
2007-08-15 08:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea just be honest. There is no such thing as a little white lie, trust me it will turn into a bigger bad lie. Do what your heart tells you to do. I think if this is the person you plan on one day spending the rest of your life with, than this would be a great investment for your relationship. Good luck!
2007-08-15 07:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i tell you this out of many years of experience having the money to do something is not as important as just having fun. second never i say never replay a romantic event in your pass i never never never works out. i suggest you do something else to make new romantic memories. maybe this time go somewhere that doesn't cost as much but has just as much a romantic atmosphere. maybe a lake cabin in the woods in some romantic State Park many have massage salons and fancy restaurants and the scenery WHO!! quiet walks along mountain paths. basically you both need time together in a quit peaceful place where you both can decide where your relationship is going in the future. Beach's are also nice we go sailing this is peaceful for us. and we can relax and talk.
2007-08-15 08:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by BuffMan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth flat out cause even a little white lie can cause some tension in a relationship. even if u cant afford to go on the trip he will still love u no matter what. its always best to be truthful to one another than to lie and lose alittle trust.
2007-08-15 07:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't lie, because I don't think he would appreciate that. But I think that you should also tell him that you got his back. And that it is for the both of you. You both sound like a great couple, this little thing is not worth an arguement when he finds out if you lied.
2007-08-15 07:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by 0000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he payed last time... for it all.. then say "you paid last time, so now its my turn." if he gets upset or mad then just be like okay i was just joking around. But if that isnt an option.. then you can just book the trip and ask for less then half and tell him its half. But if he is catching on in any way.. then 4get it! dont risk the relationship!!! ... & also.. you can try saying.. i just got a huge bonus at work [even if you didnt] and i would love to use it to pay for the trip! or most of it or w.e u want =]
good luck & happy lovin! lol
2007-08-15 07:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Becca! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
properly i could say that that is an extremely complicated question. It relies upon who you're thinking of mendacity to. whether it relatively is a gf/bf i could continuously say tell the actuality because of the fact in case you desire to stay with them and that they discover out you will lose there believe. additionally whether it relatively is approximately breaking apart with them and you desire to harm there emotions i could say tell them the actuality besides as in case you attempt to fob them off then they are going to be thinking the genuine reason, which will do there head in believe me i be responsive to I even have been there! properly the subsequent risk could be a kin member there is back no reason to lie the choose love you no count what. Then incorporates a pal i could say it relies upon what that is approximately, whether it relatively is approximately somebody they like, and that they are asking you regardless of they're cherished back then i could continuously motivate you to tell the actuality back on account which you are going to be able to desire to end u hurting them lots extra. on the top of the day a white lie is named such because of the fact human beings think of its no longer a brilliant element, properly my outlook is that if its no longer a brilliant element you are going to be able to besides tell the actuality. A white lie is someones excuse to curve the actuality little bit because of the fact they're scared to assert interior the completed reality. wish this helps. Kat
2016-10-10 07:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon this is what you would call the exeption to the rule ! Sometimes we have to not be honest for the greater good !
2007-08-15 08:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some day you might or might not get married, i'd bet against it if you start lying
2007-08-15 07:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋