Marriage & Divorce - 15 August 2007

Okay, I have this male friend who I work with and we get along great. I have this huge crush on him and I basically worship the ground he walks on. He's amazing and his personality is beyond words. He sends me vibes that he's really into me but he acts as if he's very afraid to admit anything. He just sits at work with me and stares at the floor as if something is on his mind but he's too scared to say anything. I have been looking for resources and answers as to why he is feeling the way he is and why won't he just tell me whatever is on his mind. I start to ask him about it but then I panic and get really scared of him. He's mentioned a few times before that he likes it when I call him and I am trying my best to help him along and get him to where he comes out and admits it but he does his panic attacks and makes up strange excuses as to why he likes it when I call and then I don't hear from him for a couple of days. Also, I get the feeling when he does this he is having problems at home. I feel that he is trying to come to me for support and comfort as a friend but he doesn't know how to go about it and tell me. I feel coming up there at work with me (He doesn't actually sit in the office as long as I do) is his get away from the problems at home. I try to be the bestest friend I can be and I give him all the attention he needs and he feels secure and safe. I can feel it in my heart that something is wrong but admitting it is very hard for him to do. He loves to talk and he's admitted to if someone sits there and talks with him then he will sit there all day just talking. I feel when he is at home he doesn't get one on one time and he doesn't have anyone to talk to. His friend has his own business so he's not around all of the time. He's called me before just to talk and I am scared to death to just blurt out what is going on with you and all of this because I don't want to end up being wrong. I know deep down in my heart this is going on because I went through all of it with this guy I use to babysit for.

All I try to do is give him whatever he wants/needs. If he just wants to ramble on then I'm there to listen. He's gave me those smiles and the look in his eyes says it all.

I just need suggestions on how I can act towards him to get him to realize that it's okay to talk to me without just telling him flat out. I need some answers on some signs that he is having problems at home. I know I am seeing these signs but I just want to confirm it. I have been crushed by all of this and I need all of the help I can get.

I need your honest and nice opinions, please!

Thanks in so many ways!!

2007-08-15 14:26:33 · 3 answers · asked by proudaunt2twoamazingkids 1

Me and my husband have a 2 year old and a 6 week old newborn. I am a full-time student and he works with his dad (His dad owns the business). However, I do not start school till the end of august so I have been staying at home with the kids. I feel like I am the only one who can do household chores and the only one that can take care of the kids. He works about 60+ hours a week and by the time he gets home, our two year old is in bed and he's to tired to even talk to me. He doesnt help with anything. And he makes me feel like he doesnt appreciate all that I do --keeping our house, bills, and kids managed. I understand that he brings in the income, but he gets paid salary--NO OVERTIME and he continues to work like this. He has told his parents that he works to much (so he says) but he continues to let them run over him. How can I make him understand that I do alot and that he is going to have to be here when I start school again... for me and for the kids. We arent even close..

2007-08-15 14:19:05 · 30 answers · asked by Heather N 2

2007-08-15 14:12:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

some people say if you live in or cohabitate in Virginia with some one for seven years you are automatically married is that true?

2007-08-15 14:09:02 · 2 answers · asked by usansaurtonba 1

Also she has a 15 year old son because she is divoced but it wasn't her fault. The reason why she got divorced was cause she found out that her ex husband was dating behind her back and her son lives with her ex husband,and her son is 15 and I am 23.Also this women is related to me by marriage already because she is my sister-in-law's cousin by blood. So we are already related by marriage.I had a crush on her since I was 13, wich was when my brother first met his wife who is now my sister-in-law, and now our family and her family are all family now. My sister-in-law's cousin has known me since I was 13 and she does not know that I have had a crush on her all these years. I even remeber when her son was 5 years old at that time when my brother was getting engaged to her cousin. Now I am 23 and she is 38 and I still have a crush on her. Am I still allowed to marry her? Because she is my sister-in-law's cousin by marriage. So we are already related through marriage. Is it still allowed?

2007-08-15 14:00:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is very disrespectful and tells me that she hates me and doesn't like me; but i don't feel like she needs to be out late at night even if she was 16. What do you think.

2007-08-15 13:35:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been divorced for 2 years. Still miss my ex even after I found out she was having an affair after my divorce. We have not had any communication for about 1 1/2. Would like to possibly talk but I dont know what to do.

2007-08-15 13:26:45 · 50 answers · asked by Joseph49 1

My husband is a fan of porn. I watched it before we were married and would like to find something that we'd both enjoy. Any specific titles of movies with plots, good looking actors? Nothing really hardcore, but no softcore simulated stuff either.

2007-08-15 13:19:05 · 12 answers · asked by deburr 2

During a marriage, is it ok for a wife to have a male best friend (not related) who is not her husband?

how bour for men? is it ok for them to have a female best friend (not related) who is not their wife?

how bout in relationships is it ok if your boyfriend/girlfriend is best friends with a person of their opposite gender who is not related to them?

2007-08-15 12:59:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband lost his mother to a drunk driver around 3 years ago. Ever since that day he has said he is fine; that he is over it and is happy and has moved on. He is not one to communicate Since her passing we have had 2 children; our only two. her first grandchildren. Being my parents are still alive, I have no way to understand him more. We are on the brink of divorce because there seems to be no connection between us anymore he seems to not care He says he loves me and our children, but he wants to be happy and live "The Secret" (you know, the book). He wants me to be completely happy and voice no concerns because they are basically just part of me being a drama queen. I love him I do but It is really getting hard to hold on to our marriage I try to understand him but to him I never do. He says he has no parents now; being his parents divorced when he was young and his Dad never stayed a part of his life. How do I get him to talk to me or how can I understand him better

2007-08-15 12:53:31 · 6 answers · asked by ashenember 1

I married in July last year, in August however I started suffering from severe depression. A week after my anniversary we had a disaggreement about money and the fact that he wasn't working. He went off in a huff and I was left alone for an hour to think to myself, which didn't end well. I decided to go for a walk to try to calm down, I ended up in my local park sitting on the swings and crying my eyes out. I felt I had nowhere left to turn, nowhere to go and nobody to speak to. I was a total mess. The next day he hadn't gone into work so I said he needed to start working and he promised he would.

Ever since that night though i've felt so detached from him. I'm not sure we have a future together anymore. I think I still love him but now i'm just so uncertain. I think I lost something that night and i'm giving it time to see if it returns. But this has happend in the past with my father and things still aren't right with him years later. What do I do now?

2007-08-15 12:48:19 · 15 answers · asked by kitty_alexis_81 2

He's been feeling down lately and I just want to bring a little sunshine into his day. Try to keep the answers G-rated, please!

2007-08-15 12:38:23 · 8 answers · asked by Lydia 2

Assuming there's no harm issues!

2007-08-15 12:11:56 · 32 answers · asked by BLUE MOON 3

2007-08-15 12:00:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

what did he do!!!

2007-08-15 11:57:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just want to know if I'm being too untrustful or not. My hubby works an hour and a half away for a company that's based 4 hours away. There is a secretary at the base who does his expence reports and the like. I know they chit-chat and he says it's "completely professional", but I have my doubts. Why? Because we met up with the "base people" and had a closing dinner. She was the only one he didn't introduce me to. I had to ask him to introduce us. And she avoided him all night. That's fine, but when she did talk to us, she only looked at him. Then today I see that he deleted some "sent" emails to her. I'm just wondering, If this guy is saying he has nothing to hide and gets so upset when I bring it up, then why is he deleting his emails? Is something up or am I just blowing this way out porportion?

I would prefer a guy's point of view, but I welcome any help!

2007-08-15 11:50:28 · 23 answers · asked by boogers 2

2007-08-15 11:45:22 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't think the man I'm with is attractive at all. We are really good friends, and we have a child together, but it really grosses me out to have sex with him. Sometimes it hurts, and sometimes it makes me want to gag. His penis is really small and strange looking. Should I just suck it up since he is supporting me and our son, or can I tell him to stop?

2007-08-15 11:31:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

How far would you go if you were getting verbally abused? If your partner was calling you names in a fight would you leave that person? Would it take that person telling you how bad or stupid you are all the time or would you just ignore everything and get over it?

2007-08-15 10:28:45 · 12 answers · asked by Baby Girl Rylin 5/3/08 4

We went shopping for the school supplies $221.00, he said he isn't taking any of it out of the child support comming due. She called a couple of times while we were out, buying back packs and he starts telling her that traffic was going to be bad going home...etc. She is supposed to pick the kids up at our house because he financed her car, made many late payments and the court ordered her to refi and she couldn't picked them up 2 xs so far in 9 months. Today she wouldn't come to the house so she was meeting us where we were shopping and was 1 hour and 2 min late. He said nothing. I told him to ask her about the movie acct. he did and she yelled at him, he just stood there. I am loosing it.

2007-08-15 10:21:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bestfriend got married in April...(not very long ago) now she's crying coz her husband has suddenly removed a mask she didnt know existed!

2007-08-15 10:06:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

we are no longer together however he wants for me to be with him and anothe woman what is he thinking and why me? He is also married now......

2007-08-15 09:51:11 · 25 answers · asked by Chanel B 1

I can not make a firm decision and stick to it for next steps for myself and my daughter. She is 15 and up until now her Dad had sole physical and legal custody of her. He has now moved due to job reasons to another state.

One day, I feel like I should keep her with me and move into my own place.

Then, the next day, I feel like I should get back together with my ex-husband because she will have good family life like her friends, etc.

I feel sad when I see my child's face and see her crying to her grandmother about how she feels that she is a burden and both of her parents don't want her.

Then, I wonder if I can function with my ex-husband again. He was controlling and verbally abusive.

I wish life had some easy answers. I don't want to ruin her life.

My ex-husband keeps saying that I should be working on the move/ transition to show that I am committed to him and want to be with him with all of my heart.

I am stuck and can not move in either direction.

2007-08-15 08:59:06 · 9 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

For the past year, my fiance and I have been struggling to make ends meet. What with a mortage, 2 car payments and daycare costs, money has been really tight.
We both have 8-5, Mon.-Fri. type jobs. He has tried applying at other jobs to no avail.
One of his co-workers offered him to work with him at his night job, which is a dance club. And at this dance club, my fiance's ex is a go-go dancer (pretty, nice body, dancing on stage half naked). I know I'm being immature about this, but I really need someone to shed some light on this for me.

2007-08-15 08:57:58 · 21 answers · asked by JMC 3

Think about that, so which one hurts the most do you think?...

2007-08-15 08:49:54 · 14 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

I mean really, why buy this stuff if your man loves you they say love is blind, so there really not seeing all this fancy stuff , my man could care less about lingerie, it's gonna come off anywya.....

2007-08-15 08:48:33 · 37 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

Doesn't true love last forever...........ya know........lol

2007-08-15 08:45:12 · 6 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

My husband has been married before and experienced a lot of selfish women in his life so he says. I'm really cool, I allow him to ride his motorcycle, he invites his sons to visit and I have a great time entertaining them. my only problem is, he doesn't spend enough time with me. I get tired of it and I've told him time and time again. what do you think would happen if left?

2007-08-15 08:33:23 · 19 answers · asked by Kisses 2

My husband has a pacemaker, and is not allowed to have sex, because of the risks. I'm 55 and still want to have a sex life. What do I do? I know that basing a marriage around having sex is probably wrong, but we all have our needs in life.

2007-08-15 08:29:44 · 35 answers · asked by chinesechickenbauk 1

This is a question for only WOMEN please. Ladies, if you got married, and for whatever reason (you werent really in love, you loved an ex more than your husband, you werent' happy, knew you married on the rebound) you really were just NOT happy and knew deep down that you made a mistake, how long would you wait to get divorced? Honestly??

2007-08-15 08:26:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous