For the past year, my fiance and I have been struggling to make ends meet. What with a mortage, 2 car payments and daycare costs, money has been really tight.
We both have 8-5, Mon.-Fri. type jobs. He has tried applying at other jobs to no avail.
One of his co-workers offered him to work with him at his night job, which is a dance club. And at this dance club, my fiance's ex is a go-go dancer (pretty, nice body, dancing on stage half naked). I know I'm being immature about this, but I really need someone to shed some light on this for me.
2007-08-15 08:57:58 · 21 answers · asked by JMC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are no other places to work in the evening? I'd rather work the weekends...there should be more options than this one place..
2007-08-15 09:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mergler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not really sure what the question is, but if your saying your being immature about feeling bothered that he is working in a club where his ex is a dancer. I completely understand. That would not leave me feeling very cofortable and secure either. I don't think you are being immature, I honestly think the best thing you can do is state your concerns to your fiance and encourage him to get an evening job somewhere else. That is the type of job a more single available man or women should be working anyways. Don't accuse him or make him feel like you don't trust him, just let him know that it makes you uncomfortable seeing his ex half naked at night, or any of the other women that work there. That is a normal feeling for any woman that is in a serious relationship. That is not where I would want my man working all night. IT could become a temptation, no matter how faithful or committed he is to you.
2007-08-15 09:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is your question? Help you understand what? Are you worried that this might cause him to go back to his ex?
The truth is no matter what, if the relationship between the two of you is strong and healthy, he's not going to stray. On the other hand, whatever you do to keep him away from his ex, or for that matter anyone else, he would stray if that's his intent.
So, don't worry about letting him go work where his ex is a dancer. Hopefully you guys will do better financially where he can quit this second job and you can him all to yourself :-)
Good luck.
2007-08-15 09:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by this_big_one_is_4u 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know that you guys are in a tough situation. But The best thing to do is cut back on some expenses that you guys do not need. Like eating out, entertainment, new clothes, or anything that you can eliminate from your monthly bills. Well everyone have their bad side and temptations, so even if you need the money and he works there he might hook up with his ex again and you might even lose him. Do you want to risk that chance of losing him? He can work at other night jobs and doesn't have to be at a night club. Well life is tuff but making a right decision is even tufter...
2007-08-15 09:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rain L 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Your fiance should NOT be working there.
Trying to make ends meet? You seem to be handling that pretty well.
Having him work somewhere where he can stare at his ex half naked for hours on end? THAT could do way more damage than being financially broke.
Tell him to keep looking for a real job.
2007-08-15 09:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by HollywoodHousewife♥ 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not. You have children to support and provide a good family life to. Daddy going to work at the go-go dancer club is not healthy for any of you. With his ex being there, that's just icing on the cake. Put your foot down, this is not a mature decision.
2007-08-15 09:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Katie G 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Probably not a good setting for any married man to be working in. If his ex-gf is there all the reason more he should not.
2007-08-16 12:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure
Make up your mind. Do you want the extra money then you have to give up security.
Or not worry and be strapped for cash.
Its up to the two of you.
A lot of jealous ninny's answering this question.
If your not secure enough (trusting or whatever) to let him work there tell him and discuss it with him
All these teenagers really don't know right from wrong anyway
2007-08-15 09:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Scratchy_Joe 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think he's being immature. A strip club isn't the place for an engaged man who has children. I can't believe there are no other jobs in the entire area. Some men would work at McDonalds or collect trash before they stooped to working in a strip joint. Men of honor, that is.
2007-08-15 09:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
is a little extra money really worth all the stress and worry it will put on your relationship? Maybe one of you could find a better paying day job, or wait till a better night job comes alone
2007-08-15 09:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by Megan 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋