What would you consider verbal abuse?

Question

How far would you go if you were getting verbally abused? If your partner was calling you names in a fight would you leave that person? Would it take that person telling you how bad or stupid you are all the time or would you just ignore everything and get over it?

Answer 1

It's up to you to decide how much you are willing to take. My ex verbaly abused me for 7 years and that broke me down, and has been a hard road to build myself back up. You need to figure out how much you are willing to take and ask yourself "do i deserve this" And if it no than move on before you are to broken to be fixed. You deserve better keep telling yourself that!!!!!

Answer 2

People who truly love each other never cross that nasty line. It's definitely verbal abuse. Tell your partner it's time for counseling. If you get a flat refusal, run, don't walk. You're worth much more than that. And life is far too short and precious to allow somebody to belittle you.

Answer 3

I think name calling is wrong but not uncommon in fight. My husband and I have both been guilty of that. My husband used to say things about how dumb I was and I guess maybe that was abusive but I chose to look at it as immature. He no longer does this and I am verrrrry over it

To answer your question no I would not leave someone over it.

Answer 4

Verbal abuse is very serious and really shows a lack of maturity when confronted with a situation he feels he is not in control of.

Answer 5

ignoring it would be the stupid thing to do and will only make him feel like his opinion is correct (because he's getting no contrary opinion from you). the fact you asked this question shows it's something you can't really ignore, and it shows you're smart enough to know when something is not right in the relationship. find someone who can respect you when sometimes disagreeing with you.

Answer 6

This is the way is see if. when you get mad you start yelling out names and you don't think about what you say but you get over it. But if your significant other is always telling you negative things like: your so dumb no one will ever want you, or your so ugly, or fat, or they are always criticizing you when you are not fighting and they make you loose your self esteem, then yes i would get out of the relationship..

Answer 7

I have never been verbally abused by my husband, but have been by my father. I would not put up with it from my father so I wouldn't put up with It from someone who chose to be with me.

Answer 8

its different depending on the situation, i was with a verbally abusive / physically abusive person for 5 years, if from the start he had shown signs of this i would of ran for the hills quickly.. but most men that are like this, arent stupid and they prey on their victims..and are extremely manipulative.. he actted like prince charming at first.. i thought i had found someone that i could really have a future with.. and everything seemed great, we had a few arguements but nothing bad, just petty stuff... and he was always quick to appologize so it was easy to forgive, then i got pg , and when i was about 6 months pg, the real him started to show, he started to shove me around, tell me what a horrible person i was, a bad mother, how he was going to kidnap our daughter when she was born and id never see her again etc.. and of course the next day he would be all sweet and loving and say that he didnt mean any of it.. and that he loved me, that he was just angry and cant control himself when he's angry.. and here i was 6 months pg, getting ready to have his baby, and i didnt want to have a child be with out their dad, so i just hoped that it was going to fix itself (his anger and his verbal lashings) Then our daughter was born and for alittle while things got better, and i chalked it up to stress and gave him the benefit of the doubt, then he talked me into going back to his home town in Wyoming.. (we were in Fl) told me he had a guaranteed job there making alot of money for the coal mine.. said that if i gave it a try for a year and i didnt like it, we'd move back.. I hated it the moment i got there.. and ended up living there for 3 years, once he got me on his turf, no family close by, no job, nothing, then it got much much worse, the physical and definately the verbal abuse.. and i tried to hang on to the love i had for him.. still hoping one day he was going to wake up and realize what he was doing to me and stop.. but over time.. the love dwindled away, and i became a walking zombie not caring what he said or what he did to me, my selfesteem was extremely low and all i wanted to do was sleep my life away, and if it wasnt for my kids i probably would have to to avoid dealing with him.. after 4 years of being with him.. i finally realized that i didnt love him, i loved a dream of my child having her dad in her life and not a broken home.. and it go to a point where i had to ask myself if this was what i wanted for the rest of my life, is this what i wanted her to grow up in thinking its ok, for a man to treat her this way.. and then i started scrapping money together, and mailing boxes of clothes to my mom and one day i finally packed my things and threw it in gods hands and had to have faith.. that everything would be ok..

And it was, i moved back to florida, met my now husband, and my daughter is fine with how everything ended up.. she misses her dad , but she copes pretty well with it , and i let him see her, since his hurtfulness was only directed at me and not her..

But the mental scars that he inflicted.. are still very much there, and it took a few years to stop crying in my sleep, and for my husband to be very patient with me because of my insecurities from being told how ugly i am, and stupid, and a horrible mom, horrible person, etc..

If someone cant control their mouth when they are angry and u dont do something to stop it in the beginning, it will just continue and get worse and worse over time..

Answer 9

i'd try to reason with that person and ask questions why they think you are that way, communication usually opens up a line that both can understand, it's not easy but maybe it can help in some way

Answer 10

It's certainly not very nice, but if you're being an idiot someone needs to tell you about it.