What happens when the woman a man is comfortable with decides she's had enough and leaves?

Question

My husband has been married before and experienced a lot of selfish women in his life so he says. I'm really cool, I allow him to ride his motorcycle, he invites his sons to visit and I have a great time entertaining them. my only problem is, he doesn't spend enough time with me. I get tired of it and I've told him time and time again. what do you think would happen if left?

Answer 1

Sounds like you expect him to still chase you and do the work in the relationship. Well, marriage isn't like that. You have to work at it too. So next time you want to spend time with him, join him in whatever he is doing.

Answer 2

well first of all dont just leave him that would be really selfish. If you left he would come to the conclusion that you are another one those selfish women in his life so if you want it to be like that go ahead and leave him. what you could do is go to marriage counselling and then that way you could figure out why he doesnt spend enough time with you. think about this does he have a job the requires a lot of time. If you expect him to spend most of his day with you everyday than thats too much. Maybe there is a reason he hasnt been spending much time with him why dont you ask him why he doesnt. i really hope this helps you.

Answer 3

I totally agree with the 1st woman. As a woman you have to share his desires and join him with his activities. I've been married for only 1 1/2 years and my husband does the same thing. During football season especially he is really busy. Last year I felt as though I wasn't getting enough attention or I had to plan around football all of the time. This year I asked him if it would be OK for me to become a team mom for his team or would it be OK if I helped out. He surprised me so much by saying yes and with joy. Not only did I miss him, I found out that he missed me too. So now we are busy together do the same thing. Now I am not saying smoother him but a little time together doesn't hurt a thing. Lastly before we got married we were on the same bowling team. We had actually broken up for approx 6mo. But because we had to see each other every week it made it easier for us to get back together. So to make a long story short. Start doing things together to make him feel like it is a more joyous feeling when you are around and then he will always look for you to be their and you will become his best friend. Hope everything works out. God Bless.

Answer 4

He'd call you selfish like the other women and get on with his life.

If you want time with him, plan things for the two of you to do together, get on the back of his motorcycle and take a ride with him. You can't just expect him to take the control of making time to spend with you - when you give him so much leway all the time on what he wants to do.

Answer 5

Eventually what would happen is you would get really tired of him not spending time with you and you'll keep bringing it up like now and he'll get tired of you asking. Your gonna feel really alone and he's gonna notice it hes not gonna do anything about because he a guy they don't know how to handle things like that. Sooner or later thing are going to get acquired and ya'll will start feeling weird around one another and both of you will sense it but dont mention it. Untill you cant take anymore then your going to bring it up and by now since your tired of the games your gonna ask does he really wanna be with you cuz your feeling like since he doesnt have time maybe he doesnt want time and depending on his answer its either hes gonna make time for you or you know what I dont know if this is working.

Answer 6

if you love him, you wouldnt be thinking of 'what about me'. the trick is to find out why he is withdrawn and fix it! start by scheduling things for you to do together, you are responsible for the lack of communication and time spent together as well. on the other hand, if you dont love him...lifes too short. what are you wanting to happen if you leave? are you hoping that he will freak out and pledge his undying love for you? if hes already withdrawn, thats never going to happen, and a childish and selfish gamble. also, telling him time and time again....i would guess you havent presented it in a mature form that he can understand and absorb. obviously either he is blocking out the whining or doesnt care. sounds like its not a very stable relationship.

Answer 7

LOL you lost me at "I allow him to ride his motorcycle" what are you his mother?????

I wouldn't want to spend time with someone who views our relationship that way either. If you want to be close to him stop thinking your doing him such a huge favor by being nice to his sons and allowing him to ride a motorcycle. Many many women could do the same, what makes you different?

Answer 8

It could go one of two ways. Either he will realize what he has lost or he will label you as selfish like he did the others. Maybe you could sit down with him and try talking one last time. You could stress how important this is to you and maybe even suggest some things that you would like to do with him. Best wishes.

Answer 9

Sounds like you need some attention babes. If he doesn't supply it, where does he think you will get it from? Men amaze me when they don't think their selfishness has anything to do with their Wife's cheating. How can they be so blind and stupid. Don't they know there are others of us out there ready to step in? Maybe one day he will wake up. Good luck!

Answer 10

If you left...and gave him time to miss you. You know the old saying you don't know what you got until its gone.

Right now everyone I know is experiences relationship problems. If he can't give you what you want and you have talk to him...then leave.

Let him wonder, maybe he thinks he's got you under his finger and that your not going anywhere.

I did it recently to my boyfriend of 8 years...and we actually appreciate each other more.

Try it.

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GOOD LUCK!