Think about that, so which one hurts the most do you think?...
2007-08-15 08:49:54 · 14 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, brother. I can't believe I'm letting myself get hooked here. lol.
The absence of love doesn't hurt. The girl sitting next to me doesn't love me, and I'm not affected. However, if I loved that girl and knew that she didn't love me, then I might hurt. It isn't her absene of love that is hurting me, it's that the love I would be feeling for her, having no place to be accepted, that would hurt me.
Also, I believe people have unique love styles, and though they may have love for the other, those styles can bash against each other causing both people not just great pain, but the possibility for eternal pain because they may not leave because they "love" each other.
If "love" were personified, it would desire to be accepted and not impeded from its object. If something is placed in it's way or if something already exists that acts as a barrier, or if the object is it's own barrier, then "love" will scream, and cry, and pout, and fight, and cut itself, etc. "Love" can get pretty crazy pissed or crazy sad, both hurt.
2007-08-15 09:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Venzen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I think the saying is right. Love hurts. This is because when you love someone whole-heartedly you care about how they think and feel more than anyone else. So if they make a comment or anything it might hurt you but if a different person did the same thing it wouldnt hurt at all. Just because they hurt you doesnt mean they dont love you..it just means you are sensitive to each other. People are most easily hurt by those they love most.
2007-08-15 09:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Miss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Love does hurt and its absence also hurts. When you really love, the object of that love ( another person or a pet ) can make you cry just by looking at it. We all live in our own world ( our conscienceness ) alone, to have a feeling so strong as love seems to allow us to share that space and lessens the oneness we feel. In its absence love leaves a void of aloneness, no way to share what is us. No man is an island. We need each other.....isn't that great! Love someone or something. It is a gift from God. Use it......Love always..Chief2
2007-08-15 09:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
very actual. now i'm understanding it that its the Absence of love that Hurts. Love toh by no potential hurts. Its merely awsome, a maximum beautiful feeling ever. then y the Hell ur Love does'nt look after u yaar? its actual that some everybody is Stone hearted.
2016-10-15 11:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because when u luv and lose it, it's like the world is coming 2 an end and u just don't think u'll survive it b/c u still may b in luv w/ the person. As for the absence of it, I think it hurts when u reflect on what could've been but wasn't.
2007-08-15 08:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, love can definitely hurt. Especially unrequited love. It is true that if the unrequited lover received the love back, then it wouldn't hurt. But conversely, if they didn't love in the first place, they wouldn't be hurting either. Or, take the case of two people who are completely incompatible with one another, and yet are madly in love. Ouch. Or love in an abusive relationship. Yes, even an abuser can love... they just don't deal with love in a healthy manner. That is why you always hear about guys killing their wives, and then themselves as well.
But that does not negate your point entirely. I think a lot of people mistakenly link the pain of love's absence with the pain of love itself. If you are doing it right, and the love is reciprocal, then you are entirely right.
2007-08-15 08:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the pulling of the cord which hurts.
In the absence of love, there's no connection and hence, no pain. In order for us to grow and learn, we need to fall in and out of love, once in a while, or otherwise, we're like those angels in "City of Angels" who ponder and chant all day w/o the full expression of human life.
Now, this doesn't mean that abusive relationships are o.k. but perhaps experiencing one (or at least observing one in others) is a valuable learning experience.
2007-08-15 08:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by TigBlocker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not love if it's only one-sided. Love isn't supposed to hurt. For me, it's easier for me to let go when I know the other person doesn't feel the same towards me.
2007-08-15 08:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not suppose to hurt it makes you feel complete when you have someone to love you. To have not love someone is what hurts because you never experience love.
hope this answer your question
best of luck
2007-08-15 08:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in love hurts when theres an absense of love from THE OTHER person. In order to be hurt you have to be IN LOVE with someone, and NOT have their love.
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2007-08-15 08:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋