Signs concerning a friend?

Question

Okay, I have this male friend who I work with and we get along great. I have this huge crush on him and I basically worship the ground he walks on. He's amazing and his personality is beyond words. He sends me vibes that he's really into me but he acts as if he's very afraid to admit anything. He just sits at work with me and stares at the floor as if something is on his mind but he's too scared to say anything. I have been looking for resources and answers as to why he is feeling the way he is and why won't he just tell me whatever is on his mind. I start to ask him about it but then I panic and get really scared of him. He's mentioned a few times before that he likes it when I call him and I am trying my best to help him along and get him to where he comes out and admits it but he does his panic attacks and makes up strange excuses as to why he likes it when I call and then I don't hear from him for a couple of days. Also, I get the feeling when he does this he is having problems at home. I feel that he is trying to come to me for support and comfort as a friend but he doesn't know how to go about it and tell me. I feel coming up there at work with me (He doesn't actually sit in the office as long as I do) is his get away from the problems at home. I try to be the bestest friend I can be and I give him all the attention he needs and he feels secure and safe. I can feel it in my heart that something is wrong but admitting it is very hard for him to do. He loves to talk and he's admitted to if someone sits there and talks with him then he will sit there all day just talking. I feel when he is at home he doesn't get one on one time and he doesn't have anyone to talk to. His friend has his own business so he's not around all of the time. He's called me before just to talk and I am scared to death to just blurt out what is going on with you and all of this because I don't want to end up being wrong. I know deep down in my heart this is going on because I went through all of it with this guy I use to babysit for.

All I try to do is give him whatever he wants/needs. If he just wants to ramble on then I'm there to listen. He's gave me those smiles and the look in his eyes says it all.

I just need suggestions on how I can act towards him to get him to realize that it's okay to talk to me without just telling him flat out. I need some answers on some signs that he is having problems at home. I know I am seeing these signs but I just want to confirm it. I have been crushed by all of this and I need all of the help I can get.

I need your honest and nice opinions, please!

Thanks in so many ways!!

Answer 1

Oh Honey, you are analyzing this way too much. If you like the guy, ask him out. He'll either say "yes" or "no". It's no big deal either way. If he says "no" then you've still got what you have now, which is a cool friend.

Just be your gorgeous, wonderful self and don't worry so much about what may or may not be going on in his mind.

Answer 2

seeing as you posted this in a marriage and divorce forum one of you are married??

Weather or not one of you are married , sometimes we just are looking for friends. It is fun to have friends we can flirt with too. If you read too much into it it may cause serious problems especially if one of you are married or in a commited relationship. As all married people know, times get tough, things can appear to be uninteresting and miserable. But we also have to do some work ourselves to fix the problems.
If you both are single maybe eventually you 2 can hook up. But for now just be friends.

Answer 3

You like married men, why ? Your a home wrecker and you sound like you don't have a problem with that. Just because you think there is a problem at home it doesn't gives you permission to invade his life. Did you ever think there wasn't a problem before you started your games. If this guy wanted you he would come out and make a play for you.Leave this poor guy alone and find someone single.