This is a question for only WOMEN please. Ladies, if you got married, and for whatever reason (you werent really in love, you loved an ex more than your husband, you werent' happy, knew you married on the rebound) you really were just NOT happy and knew deep down that you made a mistake, how long would you wait to get divorced? Honestly??
2007-08-15 08:26:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never been there, so I don't know. I'd imagine I'd give it some time just to be sure that I wasn't just being emotional or something.
2007-08-15 08:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My situation was somewhat like this. I married for the hell of it and did not want to hurt his feeling. I am very noble and I always think of others before myself. I was married maybe a year and 3 months before I finally ended it. It just wasn’t there. I think it was more that I wanted to be independent and it back fired on me. I didn’t want it to go any further because the longer you wait; the worse it is for you and your other half. If you are not happy just be open about it and be honest. It will be painful and even the divorce will hurt but after it, you will feel much better. The worst thing you can do is make someone believe that everything is great when it’s not. Especially if kids or property start appearing in the picture then IT becomes harder.
2007-08-15 08:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by babygyrl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you take a vow, you are bound to it so rather than tuck tail and run like a child, I would talk with my husband and work towards a happier life together.
No marriage will last for long if everyone walks away at the first sign of trouble or unhappiness. Figure out what makes you unhappy and work with your spouse to try and come to common goals.
If each person is giving 100% of themselves to the other person instead of always thinking of themselves, a marriage can work but when you have waaaaaay too many immature people marrying like we do today, you see the divorce rates continuing to go up :(
That is not what God intended when he gave us marriage.
2007-08-15 09:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage was very unhappy for the first 5 years and I stuck it out. At times I did think I had made a huge mistake. But I stuck to my vows becuase I felt that I had made a commitment and I needed to stick with it. Well I am happy to say we've made it 7 years past that and I am more in love with him than ever before. We have worked through our issues and we now have a very close bond. I am so thrilled I was smart enough to stick it out. This is what marriage truly is. The joy of a deep abiding love and commitment
2007-08-15 08:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on how long I had been married. If I got married, and realized the next day it was wrong, then I would get an annullment, but I think 2 years is plenty of time to give the relationship a chance.
However, I wouldn't reccomend marrying someone you don't absolutely love with all your heart and want to be with forever
2007-08-15 08:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see I've been married for 8 years and have been unhappy the last 71/2 so I don't know how long I will put up with it maybe soon though I have been more and more depressed lately and cant handle it
2007-08-15 08:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by BLH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please allow a man to offer a response. If you have no children with this man for Gods sake be up front with him. I do not believe any man that cares for a woman would want her to stay and waste her life being unhappy. After all memories are all we really own. Good memories are what make a good life. If children are involved and the marrage is not a bad influence on them, then you have made your bed now lay in it until the children leave home. Good luck...Chief2
2007-08-15 08:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chief2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get a divorce at all -- I would work on my marriage and become happy within it. Your question presumes that happiness is a thing that a person receives from another person. It is not. Happiness is a thing that each of us has the power to cultivate from within ourselves. Happiness is not found -- it is created!
2007-08-15 08:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 years at least. Marriage cant be rushed. People, circumstances change and marriage is not in a vacuum, it changes accordingly. And I wouldn't ever marry anyone I didnt love in the first place!
2007-08-15 08:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you get married and you were never in love with them in the first place. That makes no sense at all because your in love with your ex. what about this man you married and his feelings you are very selfess. You need to sit down and talk to this man and tell him how you feel. Do what makes you happy.
best of luck
2007-08-15 08:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is about commitment. ALL marriages will have a certain level of unhappiness at cerrtain points. People divorce each other because they think it is all about them! Marriage is hard. I would not divorce for ANY of the reasons you cite -- ever.
2007-08-15 08:34:39 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋