Marriage & Divorce - 14 August 2007

Why is it that some women will take back the cheaters (even when they continue) and will have more kids with them. The cheaters have kids outside the relationship and continue, yet the wife / gf still takes them back ?

Then the guys who are faithful and loving to their wives / gf's have to basically BEG them to have sex on occasion? Especially after years in a committed relationship?

I'm not trying to sterotype all women into one of these groups, but I'm truely dumbfounded.

Is it really the "bad boy" syndrome? Ladies SAY they want a committed, loving, caring man, but what they REALLY find attractive and sexually appealing is the guy who will hurt them or is dangerous, or is unattainable ?

I just don't get it ?

2007-08-14 08:07:42 · 37 answers · asked by aa889d 5

Help me out guys! I am so confused, frustrated and miserable. How can this be! When you [love] someone to death, but be very very extremely unhappy with his or hers performance, as a husband or wife in general?

2007-08-14 08:04:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 45 with 2 preteen children. Do you think there is a chance it could work?

2007-08-14 07:54:09 · 17 answers · asked by just me 2

My husband has quite a lot of money. I have asked him to add me to his account, but he just laughs it off. I have added him to mine? How can I approach the subject without getting laughed at?

2007-08-14 07:46:58 · 22 answers · asked by Kelly H 4

and then he goes by the way Charlie,that' My Husband Brothers son.He said he is here ,I go no phone call to check with me to see if I had any Plans.I said so when is he supposed to go Home,He is like tomrrow.He never buys me anything or wishes me A happy Birthday,I just wish he would think of me for once and do something nice for me.I don't consider his Nephew a gift because he gets &starts trouble alot.This is not the Only Holiday he does this to me,I geuss I just expected something I shouldn't have.It Just Hurts.Hope you all are having a Great day.

2007-08-14 07:28:44 · 18 answers · asked by Dew 7

I was in a very abusive relationship. Both physical but more so mentally. My wife was abused as a child and brought those dynamics into the house. I tried everything to make it work. the rules kept changing, she couldn't control her temper or whatever came out of her mouth, and sometimes things would come flying at me. i knew that if i touched her, i would be the one charged with domestic violence. Finally she left. I was relieved at first but notice that i suffered a lot of trauma. i was beaten down emotionally and am just now noticing that my self esteem and confidence really took a beating by staying in it. i was married though so i was determined to make it work. now i'm paying the price. i feel like i was in a war zone now that i'm out of it. what's the best way to get over it?

2007-08-14 07:26:06 · 26 answers · asked by survivor 1

Ive been a stay at hope wife for several months. I do all the cooking cleaning and laundry and care for our puppy. I don't have a problem with that at all. The problem is, every single day when he arrives home from his job, he throw his shoes one way, his pants the other, he leave lights on, The pitcher out on the counter, basically what im getting at, is the man is a walking mess and destroys my hard work i do each day. I tried hinting to him that if he could just put his shoes away and hand me the clothes he doesnt want. Because i work hard to make the house lovely. I explained that it would be like me going out and shopping with no regard with his hard earned money. Its rude, and him just messing up my work is like the same to me. I need another approach to him, b.c he says " i don't care if it looks good, if it bothers you, clean up after me" But if he ever came home to a messy house he would complain. Thanks for any help!

2007-08-14 07:21:54 · 9 answers · asked by Sunshine 2

I've seen a lot of male bashing on here. It seems that a lot of women think they're always right and don't think about what they are doing/not doing that is affecting their marriage.

How many people actually made personal changes within themselves like being more understanding, cooking home cooked meals more, giving back rubs, listening more, whatever. You get what i'm saying.

What have you done to help your marriage before you decided a divorce was in your future?

2007-08-14 07:17:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has a bad habit of bringing up is ex-wife and momma in conversations.
He'll say something like; "my ex-wife knows "what ever it may be" about me....my momma knows this about me and you know this about me". It pisses me off to hear "my-ex and my momma". I understand he's trying to make a point but I hate it. Should I let it ride or should I tell'em how I really feel..."who gives a f*** about them and what they know about you"...that's what I really want to say when he does that.

2007-08-14 07:11:54 · 11 answers · asked by I am what I am 4

He admits to not being able to give me the affection and attention that I desire/need, says he just "can't do it". He has been to therapy alone and with me as well but it hasn't helped. Do I TRY to learn to live without these things or do I leave him and try to find it elsewhere eventually? I have been so lonely for 6 years now that I have cheated on him several times due to the sheer need to be touched, desired, and wanted. We have two young kids together and he is a great father, but not the kind of husband that I feel that I need. Is it selfish to leave him considering he isn't abusing me or anything like that?

2007-08-14 07:02:58 · 31 answers · asked by lonelywife513 1

i am stating my real problem so please only serious persons answer this

i saw a girl who was disturbed with her husband and i like her from the day i have seen her first. she told me that her husband is not doing sex with her. i asked her that i can do that with her.
she agreed and we made sex twice or thrice.
after some weeks she declined to do sex with me, as her husband has started doing sex with her. now i like her but i don't want to marry her as we have different opinions about most of the things.
but i can't live without her and i can't resist my self in front of her.
i have proposed her for marriage also but she declined that also.
she asked that she is ready to be beated by her husband but she can't marry me.
what should i do now.
please help!!

2007-08-14 07:01:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

would it be wrong for me to have the feeling of wanting to move out of state . I'm separated from my wife,we have two beautiful children which i see everyday, and have them everyother weekend. would it be wrong and selfish to do so, just for nice job

2007-08-14 07:00:08 · 27 answers · asked by viking_chef53 2

Several times I caught him checking me out with a devilish grin on his face, and sometimes he would forget what he was saying when checking me out in class or out of class. I liked him so I smiled back. several classmates noticed him flirting with me. yes I was flattered by him so I smiled back. In his office it was so intimate; it felt as if we were the only two people in the world, and he felt it too, as he looked into my eyes and I looked into his. Then, I found out he has a wife, and I was crushed by this. I saw them out a few times and they always appeared mad with each other. If he has a wife why would he flirt with me? does he want to be with me?? Or is he just looking to sleep with me? he even jokingly called me his wife.

2007-08-14 06:49:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

And he says it means nothing, he says he loves me, so help me understand the need, desire to go to the sites

2007-08-14 06:34:18 · 18 answers · asked by puzzled 1

We are both enjoying each other ,we talk through text throughout the day on cell, we chat online through message ,we see each other as much as possible, I have four kids though and he has three ,from marriages we are both wanting out of ,but we both love our families! but this friendship has been making me so unhappy because I feeling lost in my marriage because my husband shows me no emotions at all I married him when I were in a low point in my life ,and I really cant see myself being with him forever, I am about to graduate and work in agood field where I would be able to provied onm my own along, he is in a marriage with a wife who tells him he trapped her into marriage and she tells me stuff like if any woman wants him they can have him, he is such a sweet person I dont know why she doesnt see it! yes we are all friends kind of a big mess I never thought I would be in!!! what to do?

2007-08-14 06:27:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-14 06:16:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is lazy, he just likes to work, eat and sleep. I work also and still have to come home and take care of the kids and help them with homework and COOK! I tell him that I need help around the house because we have a 2 story home. He told me that he don't have to clean because his mom did all the cleaning for his dad. I told him that I am not his mom and he need to do something or I will be gone. I love him. I have no say so in our relationship, everytime I want to do something, he never wants to do it but when he wants to do something, he dont ask he just do it. I thought about doing what he does but that would make the marriage worse than it is. We share 3 children together and I told him " what I am doing here, I can do it on my own".

2007-08-14 06:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by saga 1

I recently caught up with a friend (born and bred Australian) who told me he was divorced and in a custody battle for the children from the union. I live in the US, and he told me he cannot leave the country as he'd be charged with kidnapping. Is this information true? If so, is there any hope that (once the courts have made the final decision about the little ones) that he could possibly move elsewhere (the US or somewhere else outside Australia) with (joint or full custody, for example) or without them and move on with his life?
Thank you all for an information and insight you may be able to provide. It is greatly appreciated.

2007-08-14 06:15:05 · 6 answers · asked by starfishmail00 2

My husband comes to me on 08/07/07 and tells me the follwoing:

My brother is going to Mexico to buy some benches he needs to finish a job. We are only going to be there for 1 day and I said ok, as long as its only 1 day and your back by end of weekend. He left on 08/08/07.
On 08/09/2007 he calls me at 2:30 p.m. and says he’s sorry for not calling me earlier but his cell phone doesn’t work over there. He’s calling from his grandma’s house, he’ll call back when he buys a calling card in 1hour.
He calls at 4:30 p.m. and apologizes for no calling in 1 hour, but he saw some guys that are looking for him in Mexico that just want to hurt him, so he couldn’t go out and buy the card til now. The cards don’t have a lot of minutes so, to not waist them, he’ll call me later tonight. He never called.
The next day 08/10/2007 I was worried, because that’s not like him (not to be big headed, but he can’t live without calling me) So I contact his sister, she calls Mexico, and talks to his mom, who gets a hold of him. So then he calls at 4:45 p.m. because his mom called him and apologizes for not calling He said a lightening struck their phone post and they had to wait for it to be repaired. He said he’ll call me later tonight. He never called.
He calls the next day on 08/11/2007 at 4:30 p.m. Apologizes for not calling, but says that he left his calling card in his friends wallet and had to wait for him to get out of work and bring it to him. He will call me later tonight. I told him don’t tell me your calling me if you won’t. He promised to call me, and he did, at 8pm. He told me they are leaving tomorrow at 3am.
He calls next day on 08/12//2007 at 3:30 p.m. Tells me they didn’t leave because , when his brother was unloading the benches off his truck, he dropped one and it broke in half and he has to go buy a new one, but they would leave tomorrow at 3am. I asked why they had to stay 1 more day, just to buy a bench. He said because where they buy them is a couple hours away. He says he’ll call me later. He never does.
He calls next day on 08/13/2007 until 8:55 p.m./Says hey how are you doing? How are things? I say good, where are you. He tells me they didn’t leave..................I said, your still in Mexico, he said yes, but were leaving tomorrow at 3am..........its just that my brother, one of the benches........I say if your going to give me one more stupid excuse, then don’t. He says, “oh god”, and I hung up. He’s been there a week now, when it was just suppose to be 1 day. What should I think

2007-08-14 06:08:17 · 20 answers · asked by spaced 1

He will be in Seattle. Should I go out anyway?
He locks the doors from the outside, I could go out a window though. What do you think?

2007-08-14 06:06:06 · 23 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4

Have you ever planned a secret sexual encounter with your man? Made him a special dinner, dressed in sexy clothing, lit candles etc....you know the whole nine yards. He arrives home gives you a big hug and kiss, then farts and scratches his sweaty private parts. Doesn't that just ruin everything you imagined would happen? Why do guys have to do that all the time. Don't they realize what they could be missing?

2007-08-14 06:02:18 · 12 answers · asked by hlp4U1799 3

After 19 years of marriage it appears to be over. Over the years our sex life has slowly but surely been fading away. about 3 years ago wife made it clear that she was only have sexing because it something that married people do. Then a year ago she had hysto... surgery and it went from some to nothing. Have asked her about it and she just says that sex isn't something she wants to do anymore at all. She did offer me sex about 8 months ago and it was like doing it to a dead log it was just dry and she was like hurry up and get done. So I just stopped didnt even finish and went to sleep. A few months ago I met a women and we did have sex but now feel so guilty. I just want my wife back the way she was in the first 15 years of marriage. To add to this she does not want to hug, kiss or even just hold each other. We did try counseling but said she wasn't going to go anymore because she was happy the way things are and if i had a problem with the lack of intimacy then I could continue to go

2007-08-14 05:58:37 · 28 answers · asked by PM 1

hi guys, sorry I know this isn't a marriage or divorce question but I'm learning to drive and yesterday while driving home I lost control of the dang steering wheel and got into a fender bender with another car. I was in complete shock and this guy (thank goodness) was so nice. I dented his car bad and was crying b/c of the shock and my ego took a big hit b/c it was entirely MY fault. My brother was teaching me. I don't want to be afraid to try again, I really need my license at 31 yrs old with children. Any suggestions on how to "move on" and continue will be VERY appreciated. Thanks everyone.

2007-08-14 05:58:14 · 8 answers · asked by Hope 4

I am looking for ideas of things i should do for my hubby to keep him happy. our marriage is good i just want o see him smile more often when he is home

. any ideas? i want to be more original than a traditional wife..
i would love to heard what people think.THANKS!!

2007-08-14 05:52:22 · 6 answers · asked by smith 1

someone who you never argue with but the sex life is bad or someone you argue all the time but the sex life is good.

2007-08-14 05:51:26 · 11 answers · asked by Leena 3

2007-08-14 05:46:07 · 19 answers · asked by ramsh67 1

Wife is a stay-at-home Mom and I work full-time for a large corporation. I don't work excessive hours, but my job is demanding. Not saying her job isn't, as staying home taking care of kids, is not easy also. We have sex about ONCE every 3-4 months (I'm not exagerating!). I find this completely UNACCEPTABLE and she finds it OK. Mind you, she is on Effexor for anxiety/mild depression. She is 5'8; 230lbs and I'm sure she doesn;'t feel sexy, but come on. We don't sleep together anymore as she says I keep her up snoring, but when I wake up in middle of night to use the bathroom, guess who I hear snoring? Yes, her. I'm frustruated. I been asking her to seek counceling with me, but she refuses to talk to a stranger, so finally 3 wks ago I went to make an appt with a psychologist and this week will be my 2nd session. I'm going alone.

2007-08-14 05:41:13 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

M 35, cud not get married due to the carelessness of my parents, now they r bringing proposals that does not suit me at all. Everybody says that one has to compromise in life but to wat extent one shud....in looks, in qualification ...in habits like drinking.....or in other unrevealed facts. They will just get rid of me...but how will I get rid of life, if it becomes hell with such compromises? Pl help...I am numb coz this man is not my choice..just to go out of my existing hell...I may take a decision, but I dont want another hell hereafter, I dont want to regret any of my decisions...either Yes/No.

2007-08-14 05:35:44 · 26 answers · asked by Leena 1

I have been married for almost 4 years now, my husband has cheated on me in the past and I found out about it, He has promised never to do it again but I am still scared he will. How do I let go of the pain he caused me? How do I regain trust in him?

2007-08-14 05:34:25 · 11 answers · asked by agonynextacy 1

2007-08-14 05:11:29 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous