Marriage & Divorce - 14 August 2007

My ex-husband is serving 36 days under house arrest and another 10 in jail for a second drunk-driving charge and a hit & run accident. He wants his regular visitation, which is every other weekend, but I'm hesitant because he shows no remorse for what he's done wrong and he still seems unstable.
My daughter refuses to spend the night there although she will see him during the day. My son is okay about going. My ex-husband called me today and threatened that I had better not call the courts to check on his driving status. I don't care what he thinks but I am concerned with sending the kids into such a volatile situation.

2007-08-14 15:48:41 · 26 answers · asked by cinnamon-girl88 1

2007-08-14 15:16:11 · 26 answers · asked by learning_everyday 1

My husband and I have had a trip planned to go visit our friends in Houston for a really long time. We even planned it for this specific weekend because I do not have work. The guys in houston are his friends from high school but I have known all of their wives for 3 years and I like to party and talk with them, and with the boys. His friends and I have always gotten along well.

All of the sudden today my husband decided that he was going to go to houston and he didn't want me to go. He started making up things like how I said I didn't like his friends anyway and how I always complain when I'm around them (which I honestly don't...and he couldn't give me a single specific example). Then he told me he would have more fun without me and he didn't want to have to worry about me while he was trying to have fun.

We talked about it and right now as it stands we are both going, but I don't think he is happy about it. I was really looking forward to this trip! What do I do?

2007-08-14 15:06:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

we tried to end it but we couldn't do it .My husband is a good man many women would want for a husband but yet i fell out of love with him the man i have an affair with is good too maybe somebody that have been in my shoes can tell me what the out come for our forbidden love is

2007-08-14 14:54:20 · 31 answers · asked by kitty 1

we tried to end it but we couldn't do it .My husband is a good man many women would want for a husband but yet i fell out of love with him the man i have an affair with is good too maybe somebody that have been in my shoes can tell me what the out come for our forbidden love is

2007-08-14 14:53:27 · 2 answers · asked by kitty 1

My ex-husband has told my 15 year old that her grandfather is not her biologica grandfather. She has just come back from a 3 week stay with her dad and he has told her this. I have never met my biological father but my father now is my real dad as far as i am concerned. My ex wants my daughter to live with him; I am of a Native American Indian heritage and caucasian heritage he is of a Hindu Indu heritage. What should i say? I am so hurt that he has told her this out of frustration towards me just to hurt me emotionally. I am remarried for 6 years and have an 19 month old with my new husband. What do i do? Iam so stressed and hurt buy what he has done.

2007-08-14 14:32:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 3 months ago I wrote to Dr. Phil about my ex husbands wife. I explained that this lady is nuts. She does things like with hold child support so that she can make HER car payment or pay HER sisters light bill. She refuses to let my ex talk to me, and has even gone as far as fowarding all of my calls from his cell to hers (he had to buy a pre paid to stop this.) He refuses to stand up to her and this has started to make our child not want to go see them (my child is 8). Over the last few weeks things have been alittle better (very little, but it IS a step in the right direction,) The Dr Phil show called this afternoon and they want to add my story to a up coming show (Show down at the new wifes club) I never thought that they would call me, but now that they have, should I let this go, or go to the show. Things have got to change for my childs sake, but is this to much? PS. Be nice and no this isn't a joke.

2007-08-14 14:01:55 · 25 answers · asked by Brandi 5

Would lunch, breaks, coffee, giving rides home, dinner, etc be ok to do with a coworker of the opposite sex if you had a crush on them?

2007-08-14 13:57:25 · 24 answers · asked by civilian c 1

Why is it everything is a quick fix with a phone call to a lawyer??? Why is it that we can sue everyone just because it doesn't suit us. Divorce is way overrated and people don't want to work at their problems anymore, look at most of our parents, mine have been married for 40 years, and they have had their issues but they don't "give up" like most people do now. It's disheartening anymore to hear of the divorce rate any more, people we need to think b4 we act and get married.
Divorcees are giving us all bad names, i know there's execeptions to every rule , but it's crazy anymore

2007-08-14 13:55:28 · 19 answers · asked by Stymie 4

I completely live by fidelity and I don't know whats wrong with me. My husband has always wanted to watch me with another man (his fantasy), while I have played into it during sexual moments, I do tell him it'll never happen. Although lately I've been really attracted to our neighbor. He's very good looking although we don't converse more than HI and bye, I stare at him when he's outside most of the day. My husband is aware of the attraction, but I don't think he knows how attracted I am. It turns my husband on though.
I feel really guilty, is this normal? I have two kids 2 and under, just quit my job and this is the first time I haven't worked in 15 years. My husband and I have mindblowing sex (unfortunately only about once or twice a week). I don't know if I just want someone to be attracted to me or if it's deeper. I feel so guilty. Is this normal? Has anyone else been through this?

2007-08-14 13:29:43 · 30 answers · asked by mom of 2 2

So my dad has been cheating on my mom for a year with a family friend. he doesnt know that my mom, brother and i all know about it. My mom is beginning divorce proceedings. It gets worse. i am furious with him and really hate him for this, after i found out i avoided him for a day or so and then last night was my first interaction with him since finding out the news. He came home drunk, since his 25 year old girlfriends mom is in town and he couldnt sleep there. He informed me and my mom and brother straight up that he hates us all, and that he will not be paying for any of my college tuition. It was so hurtful. He thinks he is completely in the right here. I am ready to never speak with him again. Am i wrong here? will i be screwed up for life by never interacting with him again? im 19 and confused. please help.

2007-08-14 12:57:40 · 21 answers · asked by ari 1

Well I am talking to this guy that I met online. I block my number though. I known him for like two months. At first we would chat online. He began to like me. He told he wanted to date me but I rejected him. I told him that I would like to be his friend. I want to get to know him better. We did not talk for a month. Just this week end he contacted me and told me that he could not stop thinking about me and care for me. I was wondering if I should give him my phone number now.

I am 21 and he is 22. I gave him my home number instead of my cellphone. He spoke to my mother. I just did not want him to call me directly.

2007-08-14 12:54:18 · 19 answers · asked by * 1

Don't do to other that you don't want to do to you.

2007-08-14 12:51:01 · 29 answers · asked by ghel 1

okay, so my husband's friend always hugs me goodbye (kinda weird i know) i try to avoid it, but sometimes that just isn't possible without making a big thing of it. well, my huband 'forbade' me to hug him anymore (lol... i know, forbade! a simple request would have sufficed!). well, the other day we were at his friend's house & about to leave, i grabbed my huband's arm trying to avoid the hug but they guy still hugged me... i patted him on the back with one had (the other still on hubby). my husband got mad. is it just me, or is that kinda... controlling? and freakishly jealous? i mean, how am i supposed to avoid it?

2007-08-14 12:36:23 · 20 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6

problem is itis affecting our sex life BIGTIME...we dont do it. We dont do anything. He doesnt even act like he cares about my feelings about not being close with him. His hands are not broken, so....but he will sit in front of the computer and playgames all night, or he will go for bikerides when his back flares up.
He doesnt seem to care one bit about my need for closeness with him. I cant even hug him when his back is hurting. He seems very cold about being close with me when this happens. I dont know what to do, and I dont wantto use a vibrator either..I wanthim and he doesnt care. Anyone else dealing with this?

2007-08-14 12:34:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

This afternoon my husband and I had a threesome with his co-workers wife the guys meet about two years ago and her and I meet about 1yr ago when we moved to the state where their stationed anyway it was the first time my hubby and I did it and it was fun he did us in, which I knew he would but her husband doesn't know and i'm thinking about doing it a few more times I hate the guy anyway and he's jealous of my guy for no reason, so we gave him one he just doesn't know about it.HA LOL Tell me what you think????

2007-08-14 12:32:58 · 17 answers · asked by zuribelle 2

If you say your wife....what happened to blood being thicker than water?

2007-08-14 12:29:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were married at young and we now have two young children 2 and 4. A month after we got married I was already pregnant with baby number 2 and realized that he was addicted to oxy contin. It has now been over 2 years and we are still battling the same issues. He has been in and out of rehabs and I have left a numerous amount of times. I consider myself a Christian women and am finding it hard to leave with no strings attached. I can see that now the splitting up all the time is really affecting my daughter. What should i do?

2007-08-14 12:19:30 · 15 answers · asked by A 1

I am married...but sometimes think about it (divorce)....we have our share of problems...but I wanted your opinion as to how long it took to actually say, "That's it....we need to get divorced."

What was your deciding factor? Do you regret it? Would you do anything different?

2007-08-14 12:18:09 · 28 answers · asked by Lovin' Life As Mama & Wife 6

I'm not in the mood much, I am only really in the mood right after my period. Is that normal

2007-08-14 12:13:57 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

so much prettier than me
its getting me down
what should i do

2007-08-14 12:11:51 · 23 answers · asked by Reed 2

2007-08-14 12:07:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know they're ho's, but why else.

2007-08-14 12:04:23 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I said something stupid and it made the girl I was wanting to wait on me think twice..
My exlover called me and instead of saying im not going to play those games with her..I just asked what her boyfriend would think..she wants to meet up and I told her I would.
When I told the girl who im wanting to be with but am not yet that she called and wanted to meet up but I told her I wasn't going to do anything with her..and when she asked why didn't I just tell her im over those games ..instead I said I liked knowing shes waiting on me..and she thinks she can play me but im not going to let her..im going to play her..

Well know the girl I did want and had asked to wait on me is gone and says she won't wait on me anymore.I am 29 and she says if im not done with games now then I never will be.
Did I really say something so bad to deserve that?She said she was inlove with me and I was her fairy tale but now she just dropped me!

2007-08-14 12:02:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

where are all the honest women in england they seem to have vanished and left the nasty woman who only careabout cheating and plundering youout of everything you have

2007-08-14 11:57:44 · 7 answers · asked by simone.merrell 2

how old is perfect age to get married? what do u think? what is it by law?

2007-08-14 11:50:20 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-14 11:49:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been together for 12 years. She had a child when we met and we've since adopted more. She has gained about 80 pounds since we were married and she was a little big then. I love her, will not cheat, and will not leave. She had a heart problem then a thyroid problem. I have never once said anything about her losing weight. She wants to lose weight. I have asked her millions of times to walk with me. She has joined every weight loss company and I have supported her. I work 70 hours a week so she doesn't have to. I hoped she would take time to work out while the kids are in school, but doesn't. She volunteers for everything under the sun, but too tired to work out. I help with chores at home (vaccum, cook weekends, clean, laundry). There are going to be a bunch of people who yell at me for being shallow, and hassling whatever...those things are untrue. I've done all I think I can. Sexual desire is fading. The weight is too much. Help

2007-08-14 11:48:02 · 42 answers · asked by bigitalyguy 2

I'm specifically concerned about my kids inheritence and how my being remarried would effect this, both pro and con.

2007-08-14 11:45:39 · 11 answers · asked by Bill X 2

Well, we've been waiting to be together for three years already. I can't really explain why we aren't together yet, but we still have to wait another year. I'm guessing you guys get the picture here.. I just feel like it is unfair for him to have to wait for me. We've gone and been going through a lot. I just want to do the right thing. My brain tells me to let him go and let him live his life, but my heart tells me to keep holding on. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you all.

2007-08-14 11:41:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous