so much prettier than me
its getting me down
what should i do
2007-08-14 12:11:51 · 23 answers · asked by Reed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont let it bother you shes his ex for a reason
2007-08-15 05:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by sweety-pie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looks arent' everything, since he's not with her anymore, he's with you. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder so you may think she's prettier but he might not. Don't stress about it. She's his ex for a reason. I'm sure you more than make up for whatever slight physical advantages she has over you with personality, prowess in bed, and/or the way you care about him. If he's more into looks than those things, you don't want him anyway. And if you're still a little insecure about it, hit the gym, buy yourself some sexy lingerie, get a pedicure, and seduce him the first chance you get. Then you'll feel attractive!
2007-08-14 14:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to me before too. It's happened to all women!! Isn't it so much better when you know their exes are less attractive and weigh more than you? I would say talk to him about it. You can't just "get over it" otherwise you wouldn't have come here asking for help. Like others have said, their must be a reason that she is his ex. Ask him what was so wrong with her that they split up. He'll probably say something like she was crazy or she cheated on him.. either way it will put your mind at ease and you'll have a better understanding of how you are better than her- even if it might not be physically. Looks aren't everything.
2007-08-14 12:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that looks obviously don't matter to your man OR that he doesn't share the same feelings about her being prettier than you! She's an ex for a reason- don't forget that- obviously her looks didn't carry her too far!
2007-08-14 12:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All these crappy answers on here, obviously uou are feeling like this for a reason. If she is so much prettier, I would too be concerned. How did their relationship end, did she end it, is he still hung up on her? Wait until he is relaxed and calm and gently talk to him. You will find out how he feels by the way he talks abou her.
We women are not stupid. We all know how men get hung up on pretty girls so as long as you know how he feels about her and is not using you to get her jealous then thats fine. I think you are being totally realistic here and it annoys me how everyone on here goes on about her being his ex blah blah. Yes he could be a genuine guy and really over her but you need to know so dont feel bad about this ok. If he is a genuine guy who is into you, there is no harm done by talking about his ex and getting things out into the open.
2007-08-14 19:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pretty is as pretty does. Or, in other words, you can look nice on the outside but be awful on the inside or ordinary on the outside and beautiful on the inside. I'm sure he loves you because you are a beautiful person and have character. His ex probably was gorgeous but didn't treat him so nicely. Make a list of your good qualities and cheer up. I'm sure you have a lot to offer.
2007-08-14 12:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend's ex is pretty too.. but she dumped him after maybe 2 weeks and said she "wasn't ready for a relationship" yet 2 days later he sees her making out with a guy that looked old enough to be her dad.. so yeah.. no jealousy issues there.
if he still talks to his ex late at night and makes visits to her house, or goes out to lunch with her a lot, then yes, it is time to have a talk with him.
if they have no contact whatsoever, then you really should focus on what is pretty about YOU and pump that up.. get up that self confidence and you will not only feel better, but appear sexier to him!
2007-08-14 12:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself often that she is his "ex" for a reason. Although initial attraction is usually based on looks, no one stays for that reason. If he is happier with you, that's what counts. Everyone's looks fade in time, so develop a friendship and bond that will never fade.
2007-08-14 12:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and .... who does he go to?
whos arms does he want to be wrapped in?
whos bed does he get out of?
think about his ex too much and for too long and he'll end up doing that with you.when that happens those three questions wont be answered with your name.
do something about that, so the answers stay as your name.
2007-08-14 12:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it really matter that his ex is better looking at the end of the day its you he is with not her so you must be better in some way or he would still be with her
2007-08-14 12:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by simone.merrell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋