I said something stupid and it made the girl I was wanting to wait on me think twice..
My exlover called me and instead of saying im not going to play those games with her..I just asked what her boyfriend would think..she wants to meet up and I told her I would.
When I told the girl who im wanting to be with but am not yet that she called and wanted to meet up but I told her I wasn't going to do anything with her..and when she asked why didn't I just tell her im over those games ..instead I said I liked knowing shes waiting on me..and she thinks she can play me but im not going to let her..im going to play her..
Well know the girl I did want and had asked to wait on me is gone and says she won't wait on me anymore.I am 29 and she says if im not done with games now then I never will be.
Did I really say something so bad to deserve that?She said she was inlove with me and I was her fairy tale but now she just dropped me!
2007-08-14 12:02:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I made her even more mad when I said I didn't want to be a pussy like most guys and just have all guy friends.
2007-08-14 12:11:48 · update #1
And I am not caring so much about my writing skills right now..this is yahoo ..im not at school so I could a less!
2007-08-14 12:23:00 · update #2
You blew it! What a dumb thing to say! If a guy said that to me I would run for the hills!
You have some serious self esteem problems buddy.....
2007-08-14 12:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, yes, you did screw up. You proved that you still care what the ex thinks, that the ex still has power of you, that you're still obsessed with who has the power/control in this relationship. You also proved that you're petty enough to want revenge on your ex, that you still care who "wins" this game.
If you were really mature and ready for a new relationship, all that crap wouldn't matter to you. You'd realize that life is too short to waste it messing around with people who are toxic and negative and only bring you down. You are way too old to still be playing these high schools games. The new girl read you like a book, and she was right to move on. She obviously cared very much about you, but you weren't willing to focus on her, you were too obsessed with your past and getting revenge.
Learn the lesson and move on. Just let the ex go instead of trying to prove some point. Grow up and decide what is really important to you and what you need in your life - if that includes the new girl, then try again to make a serious relationship here.
2007-08-14 19:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you specifically just said "instead I said I liked knowing shes waiting on me..and she thinks she can play me but im not going to let her..im going to play her.."
you said you're playing games hellloooooooooo!???!!! yes you did cause this. I'm not saying she's all innocent I don't know anything about her. But based on your own words you are playing games. At 29 don't you think you might like to have a real relationship one day. I'll give you a hint telling women that you are going to play them is probably not going to help you out a whole lot. She dropped you because she is now seeing who you really are. If you want to play games that's fine but you shouldn't expect someone who has feelings for you to wait while you play. Get it?
2007-08-14 19:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes. you messed up.....
you shouldn't even be talking to your ex unless you have kids together.
if you are really done playing games and want to seriously commit to this new girl, then show her. send her flowers with an apology letter and how much you love her.
then be a man, and erase all the other girl numbers from your cell and make it official with the girl you want to be with.
if you are not ready, then let go and let her move on... she obviously has good morals and deserves someone that is good to her.
2007-08-14 19:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
While reading this I would have sworn you are 16!! Wow, I cannot believe a man your age would play like that. At any rate. Call her and tell her you acted like an idiot and you didn't mean it. Maybe she will give you another chance. If she has any back bone at all she won't but you might get lucky.
2007-08-14 19:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because you are playing games. She has been waiting for you like you asked. Why even meet with your ex?
2007-08-14 19:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really screwed up. A girl doesn't like to be "played". Why would a girl want to be with a guy like that? She wants someone that is going to be there for her.
2007-08-14 19:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jessy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have totally blown it. In addition to your poor response to her you also have poor writing skills and that in it's self is reason to dump you. You seem more like 13 then 29.
2007-08-14 19:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, she got on Y!A and we all told her that you were a loser and were playing games with her.
Yep, you screwed it up -- stop trying to play both sides.
2007-08-14 19:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, the way you treat one woman is how you treat all women. that is the way we look at it. if you disrespect one woman, then there is the chance that you will disrespect the main woman in your life. you can't be a leopard on some days and a zebra on others. yeh, you deserved it.
2007-08-14 19:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by Treasa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋