Marriage & Divorce - 14 August 2007

I see a guy who seem so alone even though he is married and very successful and i wonder if there are other people out there who also go through this

WHEN DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION

2007-08-14 02:30:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband & I are miserable. He will not go to counseling (we have in the past), he has stopped talking to me, has stopped having sex with me, & told me he is doing this as his way of coping with our "bad marriage." We have been together 5 years, & have been through a lot of cheating, abuse, & substance use on his part. He has stopped those things (abuse over one year, substance & cheating about two months). We recently moved to another state & we are both adjusting. I know he is struggling because he is "tempted" to do the wrong thing, but in his heart he truly does not want to go back to those wrong things. He will not seek counseling or help. We do not believe in divorce so please don't suggest that. What can I do? He & I both are greatly miserable. Other facts: We have one child & I am 6 months pregnant, he is 23, I am 31, he makes about 1/4 of what I do at my job and he has no regard for money. I am very angry because he literally spent our last $ at a strip club.

2007-08-14 02:30:01 · 15 answers · asked by allie s 1

I am married to a man with children. we have them 50% of the time. My husband and I had a huge fight 3 years ago when the children were in the other room. I told him I wanted a divorce (he treated me like crap back then) and he just lost it! He hit me a couple of times and I was scared for my life. I grabbed my phone and wanted to call the police, but my husband called for his kids and they jumped on the top of me to take my phone away. They scratched me and pushed me, I had marks left etc. They were 7 and 8 years old at the time.
My husband and I are doing much better now, he never hits me and treats me with respect. We go to marital therapy and it really helps. But what do I do about his kids? I do not know how to forgive them. I thought they loved me and I know I loved them, I did so many things for them and we had a great relationship. Everything is different now, I do not know how to get over this betrayal. My husband feels horrible about this, he apologized to me and the kids

2007-08-14 02:25:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband has been paying child support for my daughter since we divorced when she was 3 yrs old. When the court ordered the support he wasnt making much money so the support order was very minimal. He has since married the woman he left me for, had two children and has finished school and got a decent paying job.
So two years ago I filed for a modification to up his support. I finally have a court date for this November and my ex has called me to tell me he cannot afford to pay anymore child support than what he is paying. I am remarried and my husband pays child support for his children, so i can understand the hardship child support puts on an income, but i also know his wife makes triple what i make and his family would not AT ALL be strained from my daughter receiving more money. What i cant understand is why her father would call me to tell me either i drop the modification or he wants me to agree to let him sign over his rights to her. Am I wrong for going to court?

2007-08-14 02:16:17 · 21 answers · asked by Michelle B 3

I am divorced in Michigan. My ex husband has been ordered to take a urine drug test to see our daughter. He is a crack addict and said that he can pass a urine test three days after he smokes. Is it possible to push the courts for a hair folical test? Does anyone have any experience with this?

2007-08-14 02:12:08 · 4 answers · asked by babyblueeyes 1

My ex-husband and I were thinking of getting back together as a family. He is upset with me though because I am not taking steps forward to move to the state where he is such as packing, emptying out my storage or updating my resume.

He says that I don't know what marriage really is which is two spouses working together like clockwork. I should be accomplishing things each day in his mind and letting him know what I did and how I got rid of stuff.

Is this the way that spouses are supposed to work together and am I wrong for wanting to do things my way? I want to still talk with him about things I want to do and donate my stuff and pack during the last few days.

2007-08-14 01:55:41 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

my wife doesn't get her hair cut often, it's long and blonde and unlike most women who live in beauty salons, my wife gets it cut maybe 2-3 times a year. when we were married, she had it cut to about an inch above her shoulder and i loved it. it looked so neat and sexy. now she has let it grow and before her haircut her hair would have covered her breasts.

She probably had 2-3 inches cut off.

I came home and our granddaughter was crying, she was working to set the table and i immediately came in to help and then we set down, had our prayer and began to eat. i complimented her on the potatoes and fish and one of our daughters said, you didn't tell mom you liked her hair.

the salon she went to and her friend, never styles her hair. in fact, this time, they didn't even dry it and quite honestly her hair didn't look to me at first any shorter.

The stylist cut it in different lengths and honestly it looks crappy. she's mad now because i didn't compliment her right away. HELP!

2007-08-14 01:55:18 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-14 01:48:21 · 6 answers · asked by mauni 1

2007-08-14 01:44:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has 3 kids from previous marriage - 10, 11 and 15. My husband never spanked them before, but the kids' mother did numerous times. The girls are very, very spoiled and ignore our requests, do not do chores, talk back, raise their voice, etc. They demand that we buy them clothes and complain when the clothes are not from Limited Too or other expensive store. My husband's ex , like i said spanked the oldest daughter when she was 10, 11, 12 etc. Now she says that my husband is not allowed to spank his 10 and 11 year old , because they are to old. Well, then why did she spank her oldest daughter when she was that age? 2 months ago my husband told his kids that since they never listen to us and treat us like slaves ( they never ever help!) he is going to start spanking them. I do not know if he was serious. The kids told their mother and she told my husband that she was going to call the police on him. She told him to not ever "touch her kids again". But she spanked her daughter!!

2007-08-14 01:38:27 · 35 answers · asked by Sandy K 2

I've been in an unhappy marriage for 7+ years. Is it time to call it quits or would god want me to stay unhappy. I do not forsee happiness in our future. It's so stressful and I want out, but I'm afraid I am going to disappoint God.

2007-08-14 01:27:51 · 15 answers · asked by jamie_0778 4

I have been married 20+ years, through good times and bad. During the last few years as the children go off, he no longer seems interested in me. I am attractive and in better shape than him. I have tried talking to him about getting a hobby or doing a sport together. He says "yes,yes" but never follows through. And sex...just when I figure we can really enjoy time alone together, he seems no longer interested in sex... although he still looks at men's magazines and has some X-rated DVD's. I find myself flirting with other men for the attention I want from my husband, I know it is wrong, but I have felt undesireable for a while... and unloved for longer. What can I do? Or does it seem he is no longer interested in me? I am not ready for the Old People's Home yet!

2007-08-14 01:13:58 · 22 answers · asked by Sun Princess 2

Well my hubby cleaned out our family car and while he was doing so he found a mans tie that did not belong to him under the passenger seat (he doesn't wear ties). He of course questioned me and I had no idea how that tie got in the car!! He kept asking if I've had a man in the car and I kept telling him NO because that was the truth!! He acted as if he didn't believe me and then didn't speak to me for the rest of the day. At that point I had had a 24 hour migrain and I was throwing up...16 weeks pregnant. I kept throwing the tie away and he kept pulling it back out of the garbage. I got hurt and pissed and then realized who the tie belonged to but still had no friggin idea how it got in to MY car!!!!! I never said I knew who it belonged to because then he would have assumed I had slept with the dude regardless of what the truth was. This drug into the next day and he still didn't believe I had no idea how it got in our car...I was very hurt! I would never cheat on my hubby (cont)

2007-08-14 01:00:02 · 22 answers · asked by LosersSuck 3

She was my girl friend back in 1963 when she was 16 and I was 18. We dealrly loved each other.
After 44 years she spotted me on the street and we had a cup of coffee and talked.
Surpresely, She's at the present also divorced; 12 yrs. ago. We have come to a point where we fell back in Love again even more as we used to...and the question here is this : She says she's too Catholic and belongs to a circle of prayer made by catholics where she's been taught that once married by the catholic church, her marriage is undisolve and nobody can break up what God has put toguether or united for life.
I'm Christian but believe in freedom and believe in re-marriage by the Civil Law or by a Public Notary. She says, She also would love to marry me but her husband is still alive and so is mine. She believes that not until they die, we can not get married.
How can I convince her to marry me when she believes that once married...our spouses must be death for us to re-marrry ?

2007-08-14 00:25:10 · 9 answers · asked by joewesson 1