She was my girl friend back in 1963 when she was 16 and I was 18. We dealrly loved each other.
After 44 years she spotted me on the street and we had a cup of coffee and talked.
Surpresely, She's at the present also divorced; 12 yrs. ago. We have come to a point where we fell back in Love again even more as we used to...and the question here is this : She says she's too Catholic and belongs to a circle of prayer made by catholics where she's been taught that once married by the catholic church, her marriage is undisolve and nobody can break up what God has put toguether or united for life.
I'm Christian but believe in freedom and believe in re-marriage by the Civil Law or by a Public Notary. She says, She also would love to marry me but her husband is still alive and so is mine. She believes that not until they die, we can not get married.
How can I convince her to marry me when she believes that once married...our spouses must be death for us to re-marrry ?
2007-08-14 00:25:10 · 9 answers · asked by joewesson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She can't get an anulment at this point, by the way.....
I strongly suggest that you and she find a Christian marraige counselor who can discuss this matter with you. When I was going through divorce/marriage problems my (then)husband and I began seeing a husband and wife team of marriage counselors who were Christian counselors. The main focus for them was a combination of spiritual and down to business therapy. Long story short, I decided to divorce anyway.......and kept seeing the wife. I went through a ton of guilt but she spoke to me alot about forgiveness from God and making mistakes etc. I wont' go on and on, but if your girlfriend talks to someone about God in a more....non-Catholic way (and believe me I know, I was raised Catholic) she may begin to understand that God isn't all about rules and regulations, but sees her as an individual........and perhaps has put you into her life for a good reason!!!
2007-08-14 00:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic Church believes that God does not recognize civil divorces.
Jesus said, "Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." (Mark 10:9)
However there may be hope of a declaration of nullity.
The term "annulment" is a misnomer because the Church does not undo or erase a marriage bond.
Rather the Church issues a declaration of nullity when it discovers that the parties were not truly joined by God and hence a full spiritual sacramental marriage as understood by the Church was not present.
Then the parties are free to marry for the first time.
Approach the appropriate person your in your parish who has been trained in the process. If you encounter difficulties, you may go directly to the diocese.
Be prayerful, honest and patient. It takes a while.
With love in Christ.
2007-08-14 17:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a Catholic whose marriage wasn't annulled by the church. Some of his family don't recognize our marriage as valid because of this.....others do. Old school, traditional Catholics are full of this type of belief. While it is good to have faith, good to have morals, I also believe some of them take it too far. I don't know what you can do to remedy this. Maybe you could start slowly by asking her to join you at your church (Episcopals are the closest in measure to Catholics) and see if she could become interested in other faith where the same God presides. This is the only thing I can think of that might help.
2007-08-14 00:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can get an annulment in the church and they will consider her free to marry again. She probably already knows that if she is such a devout Catholic. This is more about her perception, than it is the church's. The problem with her logic is once she married she also took a vow to forsake all others except for her husband, so really, she is already sinning by just being in love with you. (I'm not judging, just trying to put perspective, I'm not religious).
2007-08-14 01:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is correct in that what God has joined together, man must not separate. Your friend is a Bible believing Christian.
Your friend, and you, can have your marriages annulled. An anullment is a declaration that while a civil marriage may have been present, a sacramental marriage may never have been present.
2007-08-14 01:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....perhaps you should give her an ultimatum. It's not fair for you to have to wait around until both ex-spouses are dead.....they could out live you!!
I understand that everyone has their own views and beliefs, but I think hers is a little insane. If the catholic church will allow my best friend to have a gay relationship, then they should allow her to marry you!
2007-08-14 00:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could seek out an annulment, that way it is if she has never been married. Some of my friends did this because he was Catholic. Good Luck
2007-08-14 00:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about trying to change her mind. She's hell bent on believing the cultish ways.
2007-08-14 00:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Catholicism, there is such a thing as annulment.
2007-08-14 00:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by pantalaimon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋