What is considered ok and not ok to do with married coworkers of the opposite sex? (lunch, breaks,etc)?

Question

Would lunch, breaks, coffee, giving rides home, dinner, etc be ok to do with a coworker of the opposite sex if you had a crush on them?

Answer 1

If you have a crush on them, then No. You leave yourself open to temptation and/or heartbreak. Of course, the occasional lunch, especially in a group setting is fine, but don't open yourself up to trouble with too much personal contact. Ask yourself, what would that person's spouse think. If they wouldn't approve, it's probably a bad idea. I know it is a rotten feeling to have feelings for the wrong person. Good luck.

Answer 2

I would say that it would be best if you would keep your distance away from this coworker. You have a crush on this person and just being around him when unnecessary is not wise. If you get involved with this person there is gonna be consequences, and the main thing is that GOD does not like for married people to commit adultery. Think about how you would feel if you were married and your mate were having lunch and dinners, and getting rides with a coworker or anyone that has a crush on your mate. You know sometimes we have to put ourselves in certain situations and think how we would feel if we were in the other person shoes. Stay away from the situation and don't get hurt or hurt anyone else. Think about the persons mate and children that could be involved. Always remember the saying, what you do to others will be done to you, only worse. In closing: do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

Answer 3

if you have a crush on them then I would avoid lunches, breaks car rides etc. between just the two of you. It is different if there's a lunch with 10 people from your work. My husband has given co workers a ride home before but I know for a fact he wouldn't be alone with them if they had a crush or he did.

Answer 4

If the co-worker is married, back off... You need to move on. Now, if the co-worker is not married, take it slow... If you try to hard it could be considered sexual harassment.... We dont want that.

Go to lunch, or take breaks.
Maybe dinner later. But make it a casual thing.
I met my husband at work for Blue Moon Investgations, last January.
I did not even really talk to him until february.
We started dating in March and by August, we were married...
I had to quit my job tho... It's not really cool to others when you are married to the boss...

Oh well.

Or if you want to take the other route, a case that my husbands company did was Clara Harris

Google it...
That will tell you what happens to naughty co-worker relationships...
Clara Harris/Mercedes at the Clear Lake Hilton Hotel....

Answer 5

To answer your question, yes it is perfectly fine for married couples to have friends of the opposite sex. Why wouldn't it be? With regard to the first part of your details, you're talking about couples that swing and that's a bit more than just being friends with the opposite sex. That's for people in open relationships which, IMO, is ridiculous and makes no sense. I mean, if you're gonna sleep around - even if you're selective - don't get married. Continue dating. But that's me. And spouses who want to dictate who their partners talk to and hang with are control freaks and probably need to be left alone. A couple can have as much sexual freedom as they want between one another without adding people in. Swinging and cheating, to me, is excessive and dangerous and akin to asking for a wedge to be driven between partners. But, with respect to those couples who choose to live that type of lifestyle, you draw the line where things get disrespectful, I guess. They probably set ground rules and guidelines or whatever. Who knows?

Answer 6

DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH THAT CO_WORKER !!
DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH THAT CO_WORKER !!
DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH THAT CO_WORKER !!
DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH THAT CO_WORKER !!

You are only going to fall deeper for this person. Let's be honest I think you just want to f*ck that person. BUT realize that person is MARRIED, he made a sacred commitment. He cheat on his wife with you, he will cheat on you with his wife and another girl with the same temptations. He will give in. Give yourself a chance, you deserve so much better. That person is married, who cares if you have a chance with that person, it will only end in heartbreak... your heart broken. Will that married person care.... NO... he knew that will be the end result from the beginning. I say don't even go on breaks or anything communication with that person. You are going to hurt yourself. Write this off as an infatuation, that will never be because it wasn't;t meant o be. Also how will you explain this to your friends, family... future boyfriends.

Answer 7

The married co-worker is off-limits for you, so its not a good idea to have 'just the two of you' lunch or coffee breaks, especially if you have feelings for him/her. Its just not gonna end well.

Answer 8

It's OK so long as the contact and communication remains professional. The minute it starts becoming personal, then you need to limit contact.

One great way to screw up a good career is to get romantically involved with someone at work.

Answer 9

Never would that be right if they were married and there was a crush on them. This would be asking for trouble and may be one for the job to! Good luck to ya.

Answer 10

Married coworkers, you say, as the only thing that
is considered ok is at the workplace, talking during
breaks, anything else well that's on your con-
science.