Well, we've been waiting to be together for three years already. I can't really explain why we aren't together yet, but we still have to wait another year. I'm guessing you guys get the picture here.. I just feel like it is unfair for him to have to wait for me. We've gone and been going through a lot. I just want to do the right thing. My brain tells me to let him go and let him live his life, but my heart tells me to keep holding on. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you all.
2007-08-14 11:41:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we've decided to stay just friends this year and not contact each other so much.. but neigther of us are going to date..so when the time comes we're going to deal with it then.. i'm just afraid if i'm wasting his or my time getting hurt..
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I just want to inform you guys that we're not married. We just can't be together yet :/
2007-08-14 11:41:52 · update #1
Also, I don't want to date. I don't feel that that's the right thing to do even though he might be dating without me knowing so he can live his life. Which is something i fear. I want to stay loyal and committed throughout all this hardship. Yes, it is the age difference. Lol, there I said it. We really do share a connection and a bond though. I also so in a few years we'll both be at the same level in life with our goals and whatnot.
2007-08-14 11:42:21 · update #2
I'm 17 hes 27 by the way. Thank you all for answering!
2007-08-14 11:58:02 · update #3
me and my husband are 9 1/2 years apart and I didn't get to talk to him because I was 16 almost 17 and he was 26 when we started to like each other and no we didn't have sex until i we were married so he couldn't have gotten into trouble we had to be apart for 2 years before we could efficacy date and it worked out fine and i told him i didn't want to wait be he said he did let him make his own choice if he thinks your worth waiting for then let him
2007-08-14 11:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how much is your age difference but maybe you should just wait it out... if you don't feel like dating then don't. go out with friends and have a good time enjoy your single life. if it is real and meant to be then he will also wait and you both could live happily ever after when the right time comes.
if he is pressuring you to do something illegal (age wise) then he does not have your best interest at heart and doesn't love you as much as you think.
2007-08-14 18:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have decided to go your seperate ways...then do just that. Move on and let whatever happens happen. It's never an easy thing to do, but there is no point in stressing over this for the next year.
Enjoy the next year and see if someone new comes into your lfie. Leave yourself open to the possibilities...you never know what/who life has in store for you!
2007-08-14 18:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah my dear...a difficult situation at best. Sounds like you're trying to do the right thing but remember this - it is never wise to jump into another relationship just because you're able to get out of the one you're in...
Better to remain friends and not take any real action until you're truly free to pursue a more valued and moral relationship. I believe, however, you're on your way to getting this life lesson and experience...i hope.
Grace
2007-08-14 18:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young and immature. Both of you should date other people (especially you since you are so young and haven't had enough experience to pick "the one" yet.) If you are still in love in a few years, then you won't feel the age difference matters.
2007-08-14 18:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you told your parents about this guy.. they may surprise you.. i mean your almost of age now.. and the age of consent is 16 in most states..if he has a stable job and a decent person they just may agree to let you see each other.. even if it is at your house.. i would talk to the parent that you feel most likely will be on your side and see if they could swing the other one.. maybe once they get to know him they will like him.. if you dont try you will never know
2007-08-14 19:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did'nt say what the age difference was. If your in love does age make a difference to you? I'd really like to know.
2007-08-14 18:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brain hurts!!!! Just let him go and you two live your lives, separately... If you should hook up a few years from now and it works then so be it.
2007-08-14 18:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if you think he's being as faithfull as you, you are kidding yourself. Let the MAN be. find someone your own age.
2007-08-14 18:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by diablo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if you have things figured out already?
2007-08-14 18:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by dazednconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋