My ex-husband is serving 36 days under house arrest and another 10 in jail for a second drunk-driving charge and a hit & run accident. He wants his regular visitation, which is every other weekend, but I'm hesitant because he shows no remorse for what he's done wrong and he still seems unstable.
My daughter refuses to spend the night there although she will see him during the day. My son is okay about going. My ex-husband called me today and threatened that I had better not call the courts to check on his driving status. I don't care what he thinks but I am concerned with sending the kids into such a volatile situation.
2007-08-14 15:48:41 · 26 answers · asked by cinnamon-girl88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he violent with the children? He won't be driving around with the children on house arrest, so that is a good thing. Another question is, why would he show remorse for what he did to his ex-wife?
A child's parent is still their parent. Good or Bad. As long as there is no abuse or neglect. You could allow the children to visit for a few hours or something. Showing the children that you able to reach a compromise with their father is only good for the children. Keeping their best interest at all times is what is important. Keeping the fighting at bay will keep your children felling loved and supported. If at all able, try not to let the children feel they are missing him, it only pushes them closer to him.
2007-08-14 16:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by LuvinLos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to someone that you can trust and i mean trust with like your life maybe they could go with your children and let it be supervised at the end of the day he has no right calling you and threatening you. But before you do all of that you should phone the courts and ask for his driving status as i think your ex is hiding something once you have that information then you can make up your mind up let him see them or not you decide as you are the most important person in there lives good luck and take care remember be strong as your kids need you to be.
2007-08-22 06:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by VICTORIA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the courts took his license, what would happen if he needed to rush the kids to the hospital or something happen? Does he still drink when the kids are there? Yes, he can drive without a license if he doesn't get caught but, would he be sober enough to drive?Showing no remorse for what he's done?! There's no way.
2007-08-22 12:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't until he servews his sentence, then go back to regular visits, or whatever was established by the court. You can have the court say no visits whilehe isintrouble. That way you have the law backing you. You may even consider removing some visitation because he may be considered a bad influence.
2007-08-22 15:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His call sounds like a threat to me. Tell your lawyer or the friend of the court about the incident and he may get his visitation rights changed. Do not send any of the children there if they do not want to go. Get help with this, it could turn out to be a nasty situation.
2007-08-20 17:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your lawyer and tell him or her what happened. There is no way you should allow your kids to go with a drunk driver. The judge will likely set up supervised visitation for him. He won't be happy about it but you have to think of the welfare of your kids first. Remember you can't replace them. And you don't want to push one around in a wheelchair because you let your ex bully you into letting him take them.
2007-08-14 15:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that threats are not cool. I'd worry too. If you daughter doesn't want to spend the night there, then that should be a 'red flag' that she doesn't feel it's a stable environment. I'd be more worried knowing that is how she feels.
Don't send your children where you think there might be danger. Talk to your lawyer about it and tell him exactly what you stated here.
2007-08-22 14:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care what the ex thinks. I'm with you I'd be concerned about your kids also. I would check his driving status if you can, plus I would check with your Lawyer if you still have one. Because I'm afraid that if you send them to visit him and he does violate his house arrest and something happens you'd be liable for endangering your children.
Good Luck
2007-08-21 16:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by lana1meyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salam
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2007-08-19 19:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont allow you kids to go with their dad until he prove that he is responsible enough for their welfare and his. there is a reason why your daughter will only stay with him during the day. you need to investigate that further. send them when he is stable. if he never gets stable allow him to speak over the phone to them. you would be less than a mom to send your kids into such a situation knowing the circumstances of their dad. it not fair to them. GodBless
2007-08-20 17:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋