My husband and I have had a trip planned to go visit our friends in Houston for a really long time. We even planned it for this specific weekend because I do not have work. The guys in houston are his friends from high school but I have known all of their wives for 3 years and I like to party and talk with them, and with the boys. His friends and I have always gotten along well.
All of the sudden today my husband decided that he was going to go to houston and he didn't want me to go. He started making up things like how I said I didn't like his friends anyway and how I always complain when I'm around them (which I honestly don't...and he couldn't give me a single specific example). Then he told me he would have more fun without me and he didn't want to have to worry about me while he was trying to have fun.
We talked about it and right now as it stands we are both going, but I don't think he is happy about it. I was really looking forward to this trip! What do I do?
2007-08-14 15:06:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems odd. Has any of his other habits changed? Schedules, buying new clothes, phone calls at odd times? I would be very concerned about his ability to be faithful. I think you are doing the right thing about insisting on going. I would keep close tabs on him and if you have any concrete evidence to support extramarital activities, confront him. Hopefully this is just a weird thing and all will be well. Is the marriage going fine otherwise? If you two need counseling definately don't wait...Good Luck to you.
2007-08-14 15:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by jules 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are there other weird vibes you are getting in your marriage, as in do you suspect him of cheating, or wanting to cheat? Is it possible he wants to meet up with someone in Houston or that he wants to take someone else with? There has to be more to this than just "hey by the way you know that trip you wanted to go on ain't gonna happen for you because I want some ME time" those are red flag warnnings that something is not right and you need to find out where this is really originating from, things like this may seem like they are out of the blue but usually if you do some digging on your computer or cell phone, question friends, co-workers (unless they are HIS friends only and don't care about your marriage), you will find what is really going on. Maybe he's not cheating , but something is definitely going on for him to make excuses for you not to be there~
Hope you find your answer.
Good-Luck
2007-08-14 22:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by *blah blah* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband and the boys have made plans to perhaps include activities that you might not necessarily like ( say...going to a strip club?) I mean, when a guy says he'd have more fun without you, that's a red flag right there. I wouldn't let him go alone. Definitely go with him and find out what's behind the whole thing.
2007-08-14 22:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by RockNRoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you today for a trip this weekend? Did I read that right?
That's just a bit too odd to be what he says, in my opinion. Unless he's an abnormally random person - something's up.
I hope you can sit down with him and find out what that is.
2007-08-14 22:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really weird and if I were you, I would be very suspicious that he's been talking to his buddies about getting into some trouble. It's weird that he would just all of a sudden not want you to go. There's something else going on here and if I were you, I would do some digging to find out what it is!!
2007-08-14 22:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard as it might be,
you need to have this converstation with him.
Why were you BOTH going to go, why are you being pressured NOT to go.
It is possible that this trip was mutating into a guys night out. Possibly with sex, probably get getting hammered drunk. Which is how I interpreted "fun" from your note above.
This must be resolved be for you go, I would not go if it were not.
2007-08-14 22:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't usualy like getting involved with family affairs.. but mabey he found out someone in the family dislikes you.. and he is a little nervous that something will happen. But either way, he should be a man and step up and tell them that they are jerks. OR mabey he just wants time alone... OR mabey its something worse.. gosh this is very tough to come up with a direct answer.
2007-08-14 22:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by S L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a x got a hold of him.Or he has made other plans.That doesn't include you.Red flag & issues. You have a problem with him an since he didn't want you to go. The honey moons over.Good luck
2007-08-14 22:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go just to spite him, obviously an old girlfriend or something is going to be there also. If he wanted to go alone he should have said something way before this. Tough if he doesn't like it.
2007-08-14 22:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and have a great time. If he had wanted to be able to party alone he should have done that before he got married.
2007-08-14 22:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋