im inlove with a maried man and im maried too we know its wrong but we cant stop?

Question

we tried to end it but we couldn't do it .My husband is a good man many women would want for a husband but yet i fell out of love with him the man i have an affair with is good too maybe somebody that have been in my shoes can tell me what the out come for our forbidden love is

Answer 1

Dear kitty , why did you cheat your husband at the first place is he satisfying you or not

Answer 2

You need to stop before you get caught and lose your good husband. A lot of people don't have that romantic feeling all the time in a marriage but that doesn't mean they give up the marriage and find someone new. You have to put the excitement back into your marriage. I don't feel romantic all the time towards my husband but I am comfortable and we and make things exciting when we want. When we get married we are telling everyone that we don't want anybody else and I am going love this person for better or worse, not until we get bored, I don't remember hearing that one. You are in lust not love. You better think before you let your husband go so some other woman can have him because sometimes lust wears off. A lot of women are just waiting for you to mess up so they can have your husband.

Answer 3

First and foremost you are a very selfish person you sit here worrying about how you feel instead of the man you are cheating on.You should tell your husband what you did and sort your feeligns out. Mid life crisis or not what you are doing as no excuse if you fell out of love with your husband you should have told him. This other dude is just like you, I guess you two are made for each other I hope you get some common sense forgive me for giving you the so called "tough love" I think you needed it.

Answer 4

Pain and broken hearts for you spouses and families.Not to mention disgust and bitter disappoitment.Ugly divorces and if there are children involved,hell on earth for them.I pray you have no children.
You can put a stop to this no matter what you say.It takes willpower and strong determination.Think of the people you'll badly hurt and put them before yourselves.
It really isn't worth it.Trust me.The grass is never greener on the other side no matter what you think right now. And since you're both cheaters,you'll always wonder if now he/she will cheat on you because they've done it before.You'll never truly trust each other.The saying,once a cheater,always a cheater,rings true,time and time again.
I would strongly suggest you seek help in ending this relationship before you regret it.Be strong.Make the break and stick to it.
Don't be selfish.Think of all the pain and suffering you're going to cause,not only your spouses,but your families as well.Divortce is ugly no matter what your intentions are in the beginning, and they breask up many good families.Mothers,fathers,bros,sis and again to mention children,if you have any.children are harmed by divorce for the rest of their lives.trust me.I know firsthand.
DON'T DO IT.

Answer 5

Stop now when it is less painful. It's exciting to rendevous with forbidden love, to get away from it all, to have wild sex. But it doesn't build a relationship. An affair may be exciting now but it gets old and you have so much to lose it is not worth it. Go cold turkey and stop. Put all that effort into the relationship with your husband. Try meeting your husband at a fancy motel. Do things together. Build your memories with your husband.

Answer 6

Where do I begin? What you and your lover is doing is wrong and you know that. You are hurting yourself, your lover, your husband, his wife, both families, affairs are far reaching not only to families but to friends as well. If you are cheating and he is cheating, even if you get together and throw everything else away, you or he or maybe both will cheat again. You need counseling, your husband needs counseling and any children you have need counseling. You did not fall out of love, you are in lust over someone else and you probably like the thrill of the secrecy. Both parties will find out, and then your life as you know it will be turned upside down. Get out of this now. confess to your husband, but it might be too late and get yourself into counseling. You have no idea how many people you are hurting and how far this will reach. If you two are really in love, confess to the other partners, divorce and get out of their lives. They did nothing to deserve this lie you are leading.

Answer 7

Your the kind of women in the end that will end up alone and lonely. That is what I call Karma. I just feel bad because I am being so judge mental of you right now. See how negative things are like domino effects as are positive. You should walk away from him and he you. And yes you can do it your just made of weak character. Sorry for your spouse's . Your husband so don't deserve your treatment . Your a discredit to our female gender. Good day.

Answer 8

You need to rephrase your question - "Cant stop" - how about "Won't stop"? "Tried to end it" - if you tried hard enough, you wouldn't be posting this question.
Outcome? You will get caught, your husband, "the good man" (who doesn't deserve this) will be completely shattered and will hate your guts for eternity, ugly divorce, and the end result will be one of two scenarios:
1. the man you are having the affair with will have an attack of conscience and stay with his wife and leave you totally alone.
2. the man you are having the affair with will marry you and cheat on your lame *** with someone else.

Sorry, I think you can see that I do not have one ounce of sympathy for you or the mess you have created for yourself. My heart goes out to your husband - he married a tramp.

Answer 9

First of all unfaithfulness is a sin. It is the trick of the devil to get you in this spot. But the devil is very wise and he knows where we are weak. You now have to make a decision that no one ever wants to make. This is exactly how people end up killing their mates or their lovers. The spirit of jelousy is a murderer and a killer. And be sure the devil is envovled in it 100 percent. This is what he does full time. Jesus said the devil comes to steal, kill and to destroy. So we now know where this mess comes from. One of the ten commandments says thou shalt not committ adultery. Why did God tell His people this because He loved them and He didn't want them to destroy them selves. So he told them the way not to go and the way to go. You now need to go open with this and tell your lover that it has gone far as it can go. You either devorce your husband and go thru all that or you cut it off with your lover and fall out of love with him and fall back in love with your husband before he finds out. If he finds out he may kill you or your lover or maybe both of you or himself, because the spirit of jelousy will take effect. We know not what we do or we wouldn't do it. Be sure your sin will find you out. We have had some terrible out comes here in our small town over the same thing you have done. God would be your best bet to get out of this situation. Keep it quite and let those who know how to pray help you lest the devil have his way in this mess.

Answer 10

You can't stop because you do not want to
stop, and your life will become miserable. Yes you
may be having fun but deep down inside you are
still not happy, and may not realize it. It would be
better for you to break off the relationship with your
extra, and come to your senses as you are head-
ing for a sad end if you do not. Good luck.

Answer 11

It's not that you "know it's wrong but can't stop", it's that
you know it's wrong and WON'T stop. Life isn't always easy
and we're not always supposed to do the easy thing.
sometimes you have to do the right thing, even if it's tough.
If you want to be with this guy (even if he's a cheater, because
if he cheats with you he'll cheat on you) then you both need to
get divorced and be together. You rotten cheaters deserve
each other anyway...